The cutting out/cutting down alcohol thread (part 7)

mollypolly

Lurkio wrote: »

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HIYA
:kisses3: Missed y'all.:):)

Great to be back......hope I can stay a bit longer this time.

Dont know where the italics have come from and cant stop them :cool::rotfl:

DEBTMONKEY1A

Hi....my partner last year had her CPN changed to a specialised 'early intervention' team keyworker...she was unsettled at 1st but her new guy was/is FAB.....

When she was recovering (she had a psychotic episode due to stress worry over work) I couldn't help thinking-a bit like you-that I wasn't really helping (in fact it was very very frustrating) but I know by being there I was helping a great deal. Also she changed meds in April last year (like your dad just has) & I know thats a hard time as the new meds take a while to kick in....keep smiling....I know that once I start drinking then after a few days I feel 'low' as you mentioned....my mood does lift greatly after a few days off the demon drink (!) After all, alcohol is a depressant!

Going to keep busy over the next few days by sorting rockery out & planting some veg!

Miss_Piggy_2

:wave:Hi Molls!! Good to see you back!!

Miss P
xx

mollypolly

Miss_Piggy wrote: »

:wave:Hi Molls!! Good to see you back!!

Miss P
xx

Hi Miss Piggy,

Good to be back:)

Hope you are well xxxx

brokepaolo

DEBTMONKEY1A wrote: »

Hi....my partner last year had her CPN changed to a specialised 'early intervention' team keyworker...she was unsettled at 1st but her new guy was/is FAB.....

When she was recovering (she had a psychotic episode due to stress worry over work) I couldn't help thinking-a bit like you-that I wasn't really helping (in fact it was very very frustrating) but I know by being there I was helping a great deal. Also she changed meds in April last year (like your dad just has) & I know thats a hard time as the new meds take a while to kick in....keep smiling....I know that once I start drinking then after a few days I feel 'low' as you mentioned....my mood does lift greatly after a few days off the demon drink (!) After all, alcohol is a depressant!

Going to keep busy over the next few days by sorting rockery out & planting some veg!

Yes, it definitely seems to be the case that any form of change, be it my dad's medication, his CPN or even a change of circumstances for me or my sister, is a trigger for his low phases to start. I can fully understand that, part of depression is the feeling of angst and changes to what someone has become accustomed to only heightens the angst.

All I can do when I see my dad is remind him that this sort of low usually hits him at this time of year and point out the reasons why it's probably happening. Of course, he already knows most of this but it doesn't make him feel any better and that's why it's so hard for him.

The sort of lows caused by excessive drinking, albeing temporary, in my experience are pretty soul destroying and far too often I have used more drink to block the negative thoughts out. It sort of worked but it cost a lot of money, it certainly wasn't doing my health any good and I was being pretty rubbish in other areas of my life. I was skiving off work, I was lethargic and couldn't face up to household chores or to talking to my friends/housemates and the relationship I was in was suffering quite badly as a result.

Recently I've been much more in control and have recognised post-drinking blues for what they are and then gone for days without drinking or drinking very little and the benefits to my mood and general physical well-being have been such that I am fitting into a pattern whereby I don't drink during the week, or if I do, it's no more than 2 beers.

Of course sometimes there are exceptions like going out for dinner or going to a gig in the middle of the week but these are special occasions and I see them as treats now, whereas before I saw them as perfectly valid excuses to get wasted again.

I sometimes wonder if this recent attitude of mine would have saved my relationship last year and I'm pretty sure it would have helped matters but thankfully, my lucidity of late has also shed light on the fact that despite the above, we had other deep-rooted reasons why we we wouldn't work well as a couple and I'm satisfied with that, sometimes things just don't work out, c'est la vie.

Pippilongstocking

Waves hello.

Whilst I may not always agree with everyone here some of the time - I don't think there is any need to be rude.

Ever.

Manners cost nothing.

Miss_Piggy_2

Well said Fay!:T

Lurkio

fayjmck wrote: »

Waves hello.

Whilst I may not always agree with everyone here some of the time - I don't think there is any need to be rude.

Ever.

Manners cost nothing.

Its a VERY short step from there to "No one likes a potty-mouth"

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Miss_Piggy_2

Lurkio wrote: »

Its a VERY short step from there to "No one likes a potty-mouth"

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budget_babe

Sorry guys cannot stop.

But I have just quickly read through the latest posts.

Firstly MollyPolly a very big welcome back :A its lovely to hear from you sweetheart.

Secondly and I hope this is not taken in the wrong way but.............

Sim, you have posted previously on how lonely and empty your life has become. You seem to have taken what Fuas has said out of context. I know it is hard to know what someone are trying to portray in a few sentences. BUT in her defence I think she was merely pointing out the truth.

When you are less angry, perhaps re-read your posts, the ones where you first posted to now, it may give you an insight as to why you are feeling so alone.

The above is meant to be constructive, and I hope you take it in that way, many on here know that I am not confrontational but I will not sit back when someone is being treated unfairly.

I wish you well.

Budgie

Ps Broke P thankyou for your posts.