The cutting out/cutting down alcohol thread (part 7)

maman

:wave:

Sorry to hearyour news sim, can only echo the 'fresh, new, sparkly day tomorrow' that others have said. I don't know if you've thought about triggers yet. If it's 'get money/buy booze' then perhaps you need to use money to pay off debts/buy food/buy bike or whatever as soon as you get it before it goes over the bar. PLEASE get back on the wagon PDQ.

Not AF here, been out for the day, wine with lunch and more tonight but not to great excess.

'cos I've been out, didn't know that Holby was on:eek:, forgot to record Midsomer:eek:, Fulham looked exhausted and lost:eek:, Cardiff City through to play-off final:eek:, Michael Gove in at Education :eek: Can it get any worse:mad:

'night all

Pippilongstocking

Waves to Maman! xx Nice to be up and see you sweets - doign ebay listings! I hope you had a nice day!

Got to pay for new house by hook or by crook!

graemecarter

SimIsOnTheUp wrote: »

Hi folks,

Hope all of you are well.

I am feeling c r a p, after drinking all day Monday and Tuesday, and getting through £130 :-/

F@cked up my appointments today too (CAB, Doctors, Dentists), and have postponed starting work at the homeless charity (boss is understanding).

Girlfriend is coming over and kindly bringing grub, as I haven't eaten hardly anything for two days.

Am at the end of my tether guys. Gutted for wasting money and health, after going nearly 2 1/2 weeks sober.

Don't know how to do this anymore. Feel so sad.

Sim x

I know how you feel. I used to feel like that. Rotten, broken, full of fear, self-pity, self-loathing, shame, regret, resentment, etc
It's a horrible place to be

Eventually I knew I couldn't give up by myself - I needed help from experts. So I went to meetings. I went to one everyday for 90 days or so. It was the priority. It had to be. And I had a full time job, and family with small children.

I realise now that ANYTHING I put before sobriety I will eventually lose.
I didn't want to go to meetings and ask for help. I wanted to stop drinking my way (using hope and will power). It never worked for me.
The minute I reached out for help was the start of recovery. A slow process, but if it means I never have to feel like that again, it's hardly a sacrifice.

Like exercise, the more you do it, the better you get and the more you enjoy it. However, you have to really want it and be willing to do anything. Some people go out and try to quit by themselves some more. It rarely works for them. Then they come back again more broken, in more pain.

graemecarter

maman wrote: »

:wave:

Sorry to hearyour news sim, can only echo the 'fresh, new, sparkly day tomorrow' that others have said. I don't know if you've thought about triggers yet. If it's 'get money/buy booze' then perhaps you need to use money to pay off debts/buy food/buy bike or whatever as soon as you get it before it goes over the bar. PLEASE get back on the wagon PDQ.

Not AF here, been out for the day, wine with lunch and more tonight but not to great excess.

'cos I've been out, didn't know that Holby was on:eek:, forgot to record Midsomer:eek:, Fulham looked exhausted and lost:eek:, Cardiff City through to play-off final:eek:, Michael Gove in at Education :eek: Can it get any worse:mad:

'night all

That's good advice to someone rational. However alcoholism makes someone irrational.
Why did I go on the slash the night before a job interview? I knew I shouldn't, but I did. Totally irrational behaviour. That's alcoholism.
Why do people continue drinking when they cannot afford it and it's damaging their health? Irrational behaviour again.

Addiction causes people to make irrational and often bad decisions.

Trying the same old thing again and again will not get rid of alcoholism. We only have to count how many people have said they need to 'be more vigilant' , 'never drink again' etc to see that a method which hasn't worked for a year or more is unlikely to start working now. It can happen, but is rare.
I love reading the joy of people's posts when they are AF. When they drink again, they rarely sound so buoyant. Logic says if they feel better when AF, they should stay AF. But not everyone can.

If someone tried to do 4 days without smoking cigarettes, but couldn't manage it, I'd say they were probably addicted.
If someone tried to do 4 days without heroin, but couldn't manage it, I'd say they were probably addicted.
There are some people who cannot do 4 days without alcohol. They may be addicted, they may not be. It's for them to decide.

shaggydoo

Morning All :hello:

12 Merry AFDs for me please DB

If I don't drink today and tomorrow, I'll have accomplised 3 months AF



Shaggy

shaggydoo

to all who need them

and to RA for being 5 years AF :T:T:T

fedupandskint

"Only sign up if you are serious about achieiving 4 AFD - no half hearted measures allowed"

Mon-Thurs 96 Hour Challenge

Let's really commit to achieving 4 AFD and then see how much better we feel as a result both physically and psychologically

No half hearted attempts please - we need strong commitment for this!

Sparkles Mon AF Tues AF Wed AF
Jo Mon AF
Gien Mon AF Tues AF Wed AF
Mari Mon AF
Pen Mon AF Tues AF Wed AF
69chick Mon AF Tues AF Wed AF
mookie Mon AF Tues AF Wed AF
marru Mon AF Tues AF Wed AF
glasgowgirl Mon AF


21/36 AFD over 4 days Mon-Thurs

Remember what I said - try very hard to achieve please otherwise.......

We're 79 hours in leaving 17 hours to go
The last lap now!

Who else is brave enough to announce an AF Wednesday?

:A Well done everyone, remember stay strong :A

jo1972

penelopedee wrote: »

Really sorry to post and run again but real life is sapping all my time and energy at the mo. I'll try and catch up at the weekend.

^^^^^^^ what pen said...

winebox wrote: »

Enders is on at the same time as Corrie tonight

Did I miss Corrie :eek: it's not usually on on a Wednesday *confused*

fedupandskint wrote: »

Who else is brave enough to announce an AF Wednesday?

Me me me :j:j:j:j oh and a Tuesday too, didn't have time to post on here yesterday

DB, hope you are okay today? Could you put me down for 2 more please inlight of not updating yesterday, thanks xx

RA, happy 5th birthday xxx

Gotta dash :eek:

:wave:

jo1972

Ooooh good luck Shaggy and well done

Miss_Piggy_2

Morning everyone!

Good start to the day here - managed to set fire to my toaster!!!:eek::eek: I had tiger bread toasted for breakfast yesterday, and didn't realise I'd left a lump of it stuck to the bars of the toaster until I saw flames coming out the top this morning!!:rotfl: Easily put out though so alls well that ends well (although now my house stinks like very burnt toast!

OH just text me to say he has the cross trainer already....oh goody :undecided

OH on half day today so we are off for lunch at the Toby...yum yum!!

Miss P
xx