MSE Parents Club Part 12

csh_2

tarajayne wrote: »

Cool, could you counsell me too please, I don't have one here? :A

LOL

searching_me wrote: »

no you're right csh .. to be honest alot of my life ive spent in a dark place realising im never gonna get anywhere if i dont do it myself .. i allowed alot of people to knock me to the point where i believed them .. but now im starting to think they're lieing x

Course they are lying. Its not up to others to decide what you are or what you can achieve, its up to you.

Jakesmummy

Evening everyone, hope everyones well?

Krystal, dont know what to say:(, my friends brother has the same kind of cancer, he's doing well at the mo after the chemo, it affects young people more apparantly this kind of cancer, she's doing a 200mile bike ride to raise money for mcmillan in may.

I was thinking before about the career discussion and id mentioned i wanted to do either teaching or teaching assistant because i do think i would love it, but then i realised if i was a teacher I would never be able to drop my own kids at school or pick them up, miss all the assemblies and xmas plays ect, im not sure im willing to make that sacrifice tbh, i know it might sound weird but i think i would be happier in a less 'pressure' job where you could book a day off when needed ect,, i dont know, i'll probably end up with an office job again, ah got some thinking to do!!

x

searching_me

oh yer sorry gisi philips going to be 27 this year ...

and tara totally understand how you feel x

cazscoob

tiamai_d wrote: »

Caz, I think the signs will help. I only met him for a wee while in Edinburgh, but he is a lovely lad, and very clever I think I signed hello to him and he did look at my hand so he should take to it well. Any luck he won't feel as frustrated once he can get his point across. And then he will stop taking it all out on you, because it was very focused on you.

He was really well behaved on the meet up! even though he did have a strop he quickly came out of it and had fun! I would say 90% of his anger is taken out on me and the rest on everyone else, i think this is due to me being with him so much and he knows what to do to wind me up. He had so many things he could have done at that moment but he went straight for my pram and took his anger out on that(even though there was an identical pram next to it!)
He has started to show his anger at the nursery when we are not there and it has been mentioned his behaviour changes when the Abi and Erin are around?
I think once we can understand him more his anger will calm down and hopefully it will help with his compulsiveness(sp?) about things?
right im off to bed early start tom. hope you all have a lovely weekend and for the scottish ladies
its meant to snow but if i wisper it may not come!

searching_me

no tara se couldnt decide to send me there or concelling but she said theres issues i need to deal with before im able to change the way i think .. and i really want to do this i refuse to run this time x

Krystaltips

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

Oh Krystal - I will bring my hugs and vibes in person tomorrow. I cannot imagine what you must be going through, never mind your mum or his mum.

Will be with you about 12-ish if that is okay? Feel free to say no if you have better things to do xx

No, tomorrow is fine... Did plan to tidy up for you but ended up doing the bedroom... That looks lovely now... Rest of the place is a shithole lol... If you don't mind sitting amongst my crap then I'll see you at 12

Jakesmummy

Oh ive remembered what I was gonna say, anyone seen on the news the 17yr old that got murdered?.. well it happened a few doors away from me!! nice eh? just had a detective round doing door to door enquiries!! i didnt see anything though, and they've got the guy that did it anyway, he was 17 as well, crazy, i just cant get my head around how someone can push a knife into another person??? x

csh_2

searching_me wrote: »

damn it .. i was gonna say something to you csh and i cant think what ... ermmmm .. nope .... hang on .. got it ... ive started to feel more positive after the meets as i dont feel on my own anymore x

I think its not so much you don't feel on your own but more you are less isolated if that makes sense.
I only know you from what you post on here, and from that I get that you cocoon yourself in your flat and don't get out much. M&B groups and things that you just don't do.

Everyone needs social interaction and also something to look forward to or else theres nothing to stop the days rolling into each other and by then everyone does get a bit 'whats the point'.

My_Fathers_Daughter

got-it-spend-it wrote: »

I hope you don't mind me highlighting this MFD, but is struck a chord for me. I think if you are fortunate enough to work for someone who has real vision and belief in you then you are onto a winner. I have worked for some very inspirational people, and I think I have learned more from their approach and attitude than I have on all the millions of corporate training courses I have been on. That's probably not actually very helpful, but was a musing that struck me.

I know exactly what you mean.

I have to try very hard to be a good boss. I think I am a good boss, but I have to think about it IYSWIM, it doesn't come naturally.

We all need someone to believe in us.

My_Fathers_Daughter

Krystaltips wrote: »

No, tomorrow is fine... Did plan to tidy up for you but ended up doing the bedroom... That looks lovely now... Rest of the place is a shithole lol... If you don't mind sitting amongst my crap then I'll see you at 12

LOL - I was scared to keep reading... I thought you were going to suggest I join you in the bedroom :eek: