MSE Parents Club Part 12

3onitsway

Huge Hugs for you Krystal and your family!

But it's hopeful that they will 'treat' it rather than instant removal - Yes? Bless him. x

csh_2

aless02 wrote: »

just another thought before wandering off to bed - have you/Philip thought about/tried temping? I waitressed throughout uni, therefore brining no decent "career" skills to my CV, so when I was finishing up my Master's, I signed up with a temp agency to get some office skills to better my chance at a permanent, full-time job when I finished. After almost a year of miscellaneous jobs with the agency, I finally got a lovely long-term placement with DEFRA that I directly credit with landing me my current job with another gov't agency. So while I started out doing crappy 1-day-here-1-day-there jobs for the agency, I quickly got better and better placements as I proved myself to them. I also personally know of 2 other people that have gotten their first full-time, permanent jobs via temping as well. It really can be a good pathway for a) getting solid experience under your belt; b) making contacts. So while waitressing paid the bills well, it was temping that ultimately led to a full-time job with great benefits .

Agree, I've temped, is that the term?!, on and off quite a bit while between 'jobs'. Sometimes a day here or there or 3 mths. I was at the planning office of a local council for ages and could prob file building warrants in my sleep.
In a weird fate way, I actually handled part of the building warrant for the Aldi I now work for!

searching_me

mfd it does make sense .. im seeing a councellor on the 14th of may .. deal with some issues and help change a life time of thinking bad habits and thoughts .. hoping it helps even just alittle x

workinmummy

Just logged on to see if SM had come back. And I can see you have :hello:.
Not read back. Have headache and Alex has just woke up crying. Off to sort him out.

Hope you all have a nice weekend.

Krystaltips

3onitsway wrote: »

Huge Hugs for you Krystal and your family!

But it's hopeful that they will 'treat' it rather than instant removal - Yes? Bless him. x

Yeah this is what we're thinking... Hoping...

searching_me

damn it .. i was gonna say something to you csh and i cant think what ... ermmmm .. nope .... hang on .. got it ... ive started to feel more positive after the meets as i dont feel on my own anymore x

tarajayne

I really do think that having some support from your family helps. Like when you feel loved you have confidence that you are a worthy person. I am not a worthy person. I despair when I have a setback as it seems the end of the world where if I had someone to turn to it probably wouldn't overwhelm me, is this making any sense? No, me neither!

My_Fathers_Daughter

Oh Krystal - I will bring my hugs and vibes in person tomorrow. I cannot imagine what you must be going through, never mind your mum or his mum.

Will be with you about 12-ish if that is okay? Feel free to say no if you have better things to do xx

3onitsway wrote: »

On the subject - any ideas what you buy for the OH for his 30th?

:rotfl::rotfl:

Are you pretending that you don't know what it is like to turn 30 or can't you remember what a 30 year old wants :rotfl:


What's your budget?

got-it-spend-it

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

If I could do one thing for you SM it would be to stop you thinking like this.

Setbacks happen to all of us. They really do. But the trick is never to let them rule your life.

If you move forward and do stuff and move your life on then something bad happens and it puts you back one step...but you are still further on than you were.

If you sit waiting for the crap to happen and don't move forward then you just go back and back without going forward.


Does that make any sense?



Career - I decided I was going to be a solicitor when I was 7. I blindly lived my life working towards that (quite often only doing what was required to get by ) doing A levels, University, Law School and starting to train.

I hated it every moment. It was nothing that I wanted it to be and quite frankly the whole thing made me sick.

So I ran away and went to work in Benefits. I hated that too. I spent far too much time dealing with cheats and liars and not enough time dealing with the people who the system was created to help.

So I ran away again and temped for £5 an hour.

I fell lucky going for an Admin position for a man with some inspiration who was looking for someone to make themselves indispensible in a role that didn't exist... Within 3 years I had doubled my wage, been promoted and had an Assistant and 4 years later I am about to embark on a career as a consultant.

I had to do some pigs of jobs to find something that was right.

I hope you don't mind me highlighting this MFD, but is struck a chord for me. I think if you are fortunate enough to work for someone who has real vision and belief in you then you are onto a winner. I have worked for some very inspirational people, and I think I have learned more from their approach and attitude than I have on all the millions of corporate training courses I have been on. That's probably not actually very helpful, but was a musing that struck me.

I am realising how incredibly lucky I am that I have always been brought up being told that I can do anything I want to do. I hope Henry grows up with that belief too as it is incredibly valuable. edit: Jut seen Tara's post which reinforces this further for me.

Which brings me back onto the Princes Trust, SM! I don't know if you saw what I wrote, but PT also assigns mentors who are simply volunteers there to give you practical and moral support in getting where you want to be. Something which I think you may really benefit from, hun.

tarajayne

It'll be cognative behavioural therapy SM, I ran away!