MSE Parents Club Part 12

keelykat

Evening Elliot has been grumpy on and off today again, his tantrums are driving me loopy!! He was good at play group this morning, then it kind of went downhill from there. He's not napping too well due to being too hot and chewing on his hands/dummy/toys etc like mad.

Was looking forward to a nice relaxing afternoon, lunch out to celebrate our 4th wedding anniversary....was noisy with elliot screaming at us!! Oh well. Better luck for next year i guess!

Keely.

CAFCGirl

thanks all

I didnt realise about the de briefing thing. am tempted to ask HV on monday when she's round....

i think the fact that i knew i would cry and have days like this has made it a bit easier, but obviously before his birth i didnt realise all the things i would have to cry about LOL
DH can remember most of it and i know the basic run down of events, like an order of service LOL but I cant remember "myself" in the moments so it feels like it didnt even happen to me....and ive just suddenly been given my baby, but missed out on this huge part of getting him here..... if that makes any sense!

got-it-spend-it

CAFCGirl wrote: »

GISI - thanks for your post. ive had a few teary moments today. one was just staring at Landen realising he's this whole complete person and that i would die for him in an instant...... and then one was because my back was killing me and then i started feeling like it was all my fault that i've ended up in so much pain because i didnt labour naturally.... although i know thats silly and the thought process has left me now, thankfully.......

Don't feel bad for feeling emotional- it's totally normal so soon after having bubs. My way of looking at it is that I did the best thing for me and my baby at the time, and I have had to put up with the physical pain that has caused me. I don't regret my 'decision' to have a c-section one bit as I have ended up with a healthy, happy amazing baby and I have no idea what would have happened if I'd carried on labouring. Maybe I would have had a straight forward birth, just a very long one, but that wasn't a chance I was willing to take.

I know not everyone feels like this, but I honestly see birth as the thing I had to go through to get my amazing little boy. For me it's not a rite of passage or a sign of my womanhood.

CAFCGirl wrote: »

half the problem is i still cant remember most of it which in itself freaks me out, because i feel out of control.....so even if i wanted to write it, i physically couldnt


i knew i would have these days so im ok about the crying etc..... its just the pain mostly and lack of memory which are making me emotional....

Did you see my post yesterday about birth afterthoughts? It's a chance to go through your notes with a MW and understand why things happened the way they did, and why decisions were made at the time. Does your hospital offer anything like that? You might find it really useful, although I'm only now doing it and H is 7 and a half months old.



Work went well- I've been offered the hours I requested in my old job, or the hours I want in an assistant manager role closer to home. I need to have a good think about as I really don't know what I want to do at the moment, but it's nice to have the option.

Fitzio

got-it-spend-it wrote: »

I know not everyone feels like this, but I honestly see birth as the thing I had to go through to get my amazing little boy. For me it's not a rite of passage or a sign of my womanhood.

Totally agree with this. My labour started off brilliantly in the birthing pool and was going far too smoothly. About 16 hours later, I was full of drugs, pushing for over 2 hours and minutes off assistance. None of it matters to me though as I have my beautiful baby girl and she is completely healthy.
I would give it time and see how you feel, and if you still feel traumatised when things have settled down, you could look into the after birth service. I personally don't see that I would get any benefit from reliving it now, but it obviously helps others.

GISI - glad it went well at work! They obviously value you to be giving you a choice. Did you ever say what happened with that staff member you had issues with and they re-hired (or something like that?)

Buttonmoons

Me - I'm going to get Archie a nice pink lead and take him outside.
Keira - But he's a BOY mum!
Me - Yeah but I think he's metrosexual
Keira - METROSEXIN!!
Me - Yeah :rotfl:
Keira - I don't want him to be that.
Me - Why not?
Keira - Cause I want him to be cute!

Oh well, there you go......

salesshopper

Hi just come over from pregnancy thread I have 2 girls one 5 one 16 days. Breastfeeding at moment so brain a bit addled by waking for 2 hourly feeds. Little one has conjuctivitis in one eye been given drops by GP - feel terrible for her as it looks really sore

CAFCGirl

I did see it and then i found some leaflet in all my copious amounts of them as well about afterthoughts services so like you've all said if i still feel like im struggling with the not knowing in a couple of weeks then i will contact them....

i "knew" when i went in to be induced that I wasnt going to have a natural birth, and that i would end up having a c section, call it a sixth sense or whatever but I even said it to DH when we went in, and I think because I had that "knowledge" it didnt scare me at the time when all these people came rushing to my room....

I totally agree with your post about the birth not being a rite of passage etc, but I dont feel like I went through birthing him, either naturally or through the c section, i think because i went under general, and it happened so quick..... like theres just the huge part of him coming into the world that i wasnt involved in at all......anyway I'll stop rabbiting on now, feel a bit better because I've made myself have some dinner and had some mummy cuddles and fed Landen.....just watching his little sleepy face makes it all better x

CAFCGirl

Evening Sales

Good to see you over here xx

salesshopper

thanks CAFC its nice to recognise a few names from pregnancy thread.

redmel1621

salesshopper wrote: »

Hi just come over from pregnancy thread I have 2 girls one 5 one 16 days. Breastfeeding at moment so brain a bit addled by waking for 2 hourly feeds. Little one has conjuctivitis in one eye been given drops by GP - feel terrible for her as it looks really sore

Hi Sales:)

When took K last year, when he was only a week or so old....a little tip off the doc was to clean it all up with the cooled biled water and then gently massage the tear duct in the corner of the eye (by the nose) as it is usually a blocked tear duct.

Anyway T started with a gungy eye a few days ago and I thought I would try this, before going the docs...it worked, the next morning there was just some crusted over so I cleaned it up and gave it a good massage it was basically gone by the end of that day:D:D

Might be worth a try, along with the chloromphenical drops.