MSE Parents Club Part 12

gill_81uk

jennynoo wrote: »

Just had a look at their timetable and it is still 10am Mon, Wed. Fri. It's about a 20min drive from Penrith. I always go when I go home, those who don't want to swim can sit round the outside and watch and we have always had a lovely time. It's great having the sloping floor so you can paddle for a bit as well as swimming and you can leave your towel on one of the chairs round the pool so you can dry off before going back to the changing rooms (which are a bit cooler).

Thanks Jenny and Luce, this pool looks fab. Is that a slide as well?? :T We will definitelty take him to this one. I love that they provide floats and swim chairs too. I've ordered a pair of swimtrunks with a lining to go over his swim nappy as I don't want to take any chances....I've yet to find a nappy that can contain his poo leaks _pale_

My_Fathers_Daughter

CAFCGirl wrote: »

Thanks Workin'
I was trying really hard to tell myself it's not my fault... but i've crumbled and just feel terrible now.....and can't stop myself from crying now.

CAFC girl - as Jenny says, even the mummy with the easiest of labour/births will be feeling tearful and emotional right now. Your body has gone through a huge trauma and your hormones are up the wall.

In time you may find it helpful to speak to someone about it but let things settle a bit soon.

Have you written a full in-depth birth story? This really helped me and even now I read it occasionally to remember what it was like and to reassure myself that it was the way that it had to be.

BIG HUGS to you and Landen xx

jennynoo

gill_81uk wrote: »

Thanks Jenny and Luce, this pool looks fab. Is that a slide as well?? :T We will definitelty take him to this one. I love that they provide floats and swim chairs too. I've ordered a pair of swimtrunks with a lining to go over his swim nappy as I don't want to take any chances....I've yet to find a nappy that can contain his poo leaks _pale_

Sorry, the slide isn't open for the baby sessions

CAFCGirl

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

CAFC girl - as Jenny says, even the mummy with the easiest of labour/births will be feeling tearful and emotional right now. Your body has gone through a huge trauma and your hormones are up the wall.

In time you may find it helpful to speak to someone about it but let things settle a bit soon.

Have you written a full in-depth birth story? This really helped me and even now I read it occasionally to remember what it was like and to reassure myself that it was the way that it had to be.

BIG HUGS to you and Landen xx

half the problem is i still cant remember most of it which in itself freaks me out, because i feel out of control.....so even if i wanted to write it, i physically couldnt


i knew i would have these days so im ok about the crying etc..... its just the pain mostly and lack of memory which are making me emotional....

Krystaltips

3onitsway wrote: »

We're going here, http://www.ardlamont.com/location.html, which is Tighabruaich, PA21 2AH (I have no idea how to say that!)

Looking on the map of where that is, if you roll up to the next land mass above it there is Loch Fyne and Loch Gilphead... I've stopped off at the first loch on the way to the second... We stayed at a place called Stronachullen very near there... An epic journey, but well worth it!!

jennynoo

CAFCGirl wrote: »

half the problem is i still cant remember most of it which in itself freaks me out, because i feel out of control.....so even if i wanted to write it, i physically couldnt


i knew i would have these days so im ok about the crying etc..... its just the pain mostly and lack of memory which are making me emotional....

You sound remarkably logical for someone on the emotional post birth roller-coaster.

tiamai_d

CAFCGirl wrote: »

half the problem is i still cant remember most of it which in itself freaks me out, because i feel out of control.....so even if i wanted to write it, i physically couldnt


i knew i would have these days so im ok about the crying etc..... its just the pain mostly and lack of memory which are making me emotional....

You could call your GP and ask if they do a debriefing, someone will talk you through your labour and the birth and anything that happened before or afterwards.

Its a good way to find out what happened, why it happened, if it will happen again and ask any questions you may have. Even if it wasn't 'traumatic' as such, if you have any unresolved feelings, it is the best place to begin putting them to rest.

Krystaltips

tiamai_d wrote: »

You could call your GP and ask if they do a debriefing, someone will talk you through your labour and the birth and anything that happened before or afterwards.

Its a good way to find out what happened, why it happened, if it will happen again and ask any questions you may have. Even if it wasn't 'traumatic' as such, if you have any unresolved feelings, it is the best place to begin putting them to rest.

^^What she said!

Fitzio

3 - Sorry, don't think I could come and meet you! It's a 3 hour car journey from where I live. It's because it's so out of the way out at the islands and there are probably no main roads and you have to drive around so much of the land because of the water! If you were stopping over in Glasgow or somewhere, I could possibly meet you though.

CAFC - as others have said, I think everyone gets tearful. I was a wreck for about 2 weeks, and I thought it was because I had failed at breastfeeding and DH tried to do everything to give me a break, but that made me feel like he was much more suited to being a parent than me and that I was useless. If it hadn't been that, it would probably have been something else!
Also, I never printed my birth story either because I can't remember most of it. I did ask DH several times to talk me through what I can't remember, but he was getting things mixed up too! I did type it up of a fashion, but it was a bit too lengthy to bother posting. To be honest, I was quite traumatised by the whole thing, but I did get over it much quicker than expected. I hope you do too.

SusanC_2

jennynoo wrote: »

Susan - just out of interest - I know that when you get pregnant your temperature stays high but how long does it stay high for? I seem to have been much warmer then Erin was born than normal.

I don't know - I've not read anything which mentioned that.