MSE Parents Club Part 12

SusanC_2

Krystaltips wrote: »

Cafc, they're about a fiver a week and you get them if you get more than the basic level of ctc but not wtc... We're not elligible for them because of wtc... We don't get free school meals because of it too... A real case of giving it you with one hand and taking it away with the other!

It really annoys me that WTC disqualifies you because it means they are penalising you for actually earning your money. It works out that people with a higher income than us could qualify as long as they weren't actually working for their money. (I disagree with a lot of the way the system works but this one seems particularly strange.)

SusanC_2

BeenieCat wrote: »

I saw Susan's offer too and totally forgot to say thank you!! I imagine it'd be too late to get her onboard now but i will totally be taking up her offer if i'm forced into any dodgy meetings.

Not too late at all - if it's tomorrow I'm free.

aless02

SusanC wrote: »

Not too late at all - if it's tomorrow I'm free.

Beenie, I hope you will PM Susan the second you get on. I'm kicking you up the bum on this one!!! :j:j (they are kicking you, these smileys)

Not too bad for us - we are graduating from his modified/loose swaddle to hands-free so I did expect a little bit of up and down last night. Only 1 session, so not too shabby! Totally forgetting about the rain forecast, I did have an idea to go to the lido today, but I'm still toying with it as the rain has stopped and we are very quickly running out of chances before schools break up. Hmmmmm, questioning whether to chance the rain or not!

Becles, hope Jack's recovering well enough! Bless him, losing his manhood :rotfl:

Hammy, enjoy your day out! SUch lovely places you go to .

eta: Forgot to say well done Celia!! :T :T

redstararnie76

Just been reading back and wanted to say that last night's discussion regarding the breast feeding / formula feeding debate is why I love this thread, and this forum - you 'guys' are brilliant! I really love the fact that, despite that article none of you are judgemental. I read that article and felt really upset - I'm FFing and I feel constantly judged - by complete strangers as well as family and friends. My reasons have nothing to do with those in the article, and I'm getting fed-up with having to explain myself to complete strangers in the street who watch me with Freddie and feel it's ok to ask if I'm breast-feeding (what's it to them?!!). I think it's wonderful if people can breastfeed and are happy doing it, but why make other mothers feel like they are outcasts because they formula feed - does it really not occur to people that those same mums may already be struggling with guilt and other difficult feelings on the subject?
Anyway, just wanted to say that I think you are all wonderfull <sniff>, I love you!!!

3onitsway

Fritha wrote: »

Last night at the grand old age of one year, nine months and four days Celia SLEPT THROUGH THE NIGHT for the first time ever! (7.45 - 6.45!)

Well done Celia :T:T
Did Fritha manage to sleep through the night, or was she waking to see why Celia hadn't woken her?

SusanC wrote: »

It really annoys me that WTC disqualifies you because it means they are penalising you for actually earning your money. It works out that people with a higher income than us could qualify as long as they weren't actually working for their money. (I disagree with a lot of the way the system works but this one seems particularly strange.)

I think it's very wrong when you get more for not working than working.

When I was newly single and J & L were 4 and 1, I went throught all of the money side with the benefits agency. It worked out if I continued to work, i'd be doing so for less than £20 a month when you took into account all the little things like parking at work, CT & Housing benefits, free school meals and milk tokens (do you still get those?) - I felt like the BA staff were encouraging me not to work!?

I stayed at work, but often thought I was silly for doing so.

SusanC_2

CAFCGirl wrote: »

I read that article in pregnancy mag, and tbh I just thought it was a load of carp.... it's all just a bit "too posh to push" kinda thought process. And as someone who is FFeeding, I feel like it makes those who do formula feed sound really selfish. None of her "reasons" are applicable to me, so I'd hate to be tarred by the same brush, and be judged based on her whittlings.....
However any article which focuses on why one person chose one feed choice over another is always likely to offend/upset one side of the debate....so its a no win topic i guess....

I know I'm only one person but I would never assume that someone who was formula feeding had those views. I also wouldn't ask someone their reasons in case my asking made it seem like I was criticising/judging them.

SusanC_2

redstararnie76 wrote: »

does it really not occur to people that those same mums may already be struggling with guilt and other difficult feelings on the subject?

Exactly - that's why I would never ask.

I have a friend in Australia who was afraid to formula feed in public because she had people come up to her telling her that she shouldn't have had a baby if she didn't care about it to breastfeed. I might be pro breastfeeding and wish it was the norm and more widely acceptable but I certainly wouldn't want us to end up with people afraid to formula feed in public because of people being so militant about it.

Sarah_Joanne

Fritha wrote: »

*wanders in looking refreshed* Do you remember I said everyone would know when Celia finally slept through well:


Last night at the grand old age of one year, nine months and four days Celia SLEPT THROUGH THE NIGHT for the first time ever! (7.45 - 6.45!)

:T Well done Celia!

Good sleep for Caitlyn too, good girl

Good night here also so I feel refreshed too today. Don't have to be out early to the hospital with grandma today either. There was a discrepancy with some measurements on the mask so she had to have another scan yesterday, dr is checking it all today then back tomorrow.

SusanC wrote: »

It really annoys me that WTC disqualifies you because it means they are penalising you for actually earning your money. It works out that people with a higher income than us could qualify as long as they weren't actually working for their money. (I disagree with a lot of the way the system works but this one seems particularly strange.)

Yes that does seem strange. I think it will be a good thing if this government can sort out the benefits system. I'm absolutely all for helping people who need it, but don't see why so many people get money they don't need or aren't really entitled to.

Still raining here which is a shame as DH is away all day visiting a friend and is taking the car. Not sure if i want to go out in the rain but don't want to be stuck in the house all day either.

Glamazon

I have formula fed Jack from very young and it was the best thing I did!
I know my situation is different but trying so hard to BF and then expressing took such a toll on the first few days and resulted in Jack being admitted for feeding problems If I could go back then I would just FF from the minute he was born.

Future babes will be FF straightaway so I don't have the worry
I am a proud FF! :D:D:D

Is it bad that I've almost decided on next one's name???? :o
James Tyler or Joshua Tyler - not that OH knows!!

Beenie - definitely take Susan up on the offer

!!!!!!!g work have paid me the bottom of the band :mad: I'm a band 6 and each band has pay points, I'm about 4 points up but I've lost £100 this month due to their mistake. Little fluckers! They are arguing that working in GP practice doesn't count towards continuous service but I have a letter from HR with my starting salary on it!

gill_81uk

Ladies (and man!) I could do with some advice on getting a young baby to nap. Night time is fab - he goes to sleep at 8.45 (bedtime routine starts at 7.15 with a loooong bath and then boob) sleeps till 3/4 is up for approx 45mins - 1 hour feeding (should be less but I usually dose off and wake up to find him asleep with his head on my boob lol) then goes back down until 7-7.30am.

He just will not nap through the day unless he falls asleep on me after a feed (wakes if I try to move him) or goes out in the pram, inwhich case he'll sleep the whole time we're out. I thought part of the problem might be that it's too bright and loud in the living room now that he's older so I've left his basket upstairs. I put him in it and tucked him in then came down (like I do at bedtime) He whinged for a bit but then just got louder and louder so after 10 mins I went to get him. There were no tears, just whinging . I cuddled him to calm him down then put him in his swing. This seemed to be doing the trick but I could see him fighting it, eventually he started whinging again. I turned it off and sat on the floor and pushed it myself (like I did yesterday when it had no batteries) and he was asleep in less than a minute! He's obviously tired and needs the nap but now I'm stuck downstairs with the swing when all my jobs are upstairs! Also I don't really want to be reliant on swinging to get to sleep. Any advice/tips on what you did with yours?