MSE Parents Club Part 12

cazscoob

thanks ladies, yet again i am putting myself to the back of the list and everyone else out in front. I grew up without my dad and as we got older the less we saw of him. I would hate that to happen to my kids and know of far too many stories of the dads not having any access to the kids.
But do i let him stay and try to be happy or do i tell him to go and move on, try to be stronger and put us first?
I did everything to make him happy and left myself with nothing so he could go away/do things/buy things. I have not had a night away ever and was always sat here on my own waiting for him to come home. I already do most of this myself so it wouldnt be much harder alone. he tells me he sees all this now but its a bit late now?

jillie1974

Caz, only you know if its too late. If he's serious about making things work. he will get rid of her and stop all contact. if that means a new number he'll do it. while he's living there, make sure he's pulling his weight. let him look after the kids, cook dinner, tidy up. if he does move out he will have to do it all himself.

((((hugs))))

gill_81uk

jillie1974 wrote: »

when i arranged Kian's the curate said that the vicar would be in touch nearer the time, i know we are definitely 'booked' though as i saw the sheet they have with all the names on it. he said they like to meet parents and godparents beforehand to make sure everyone is fully understanding of the commitment they are undertaking. i did mention that 2 of the godparents wont actually be in Manchester till the day before the christening....we may have to 'skype the meeting' if thats too late lol!!

could you ring and find out?

That was my plan today but I had to leave a message. I asked him to phone me but he emailed instead. His email ends as tho he wants no more contact about it, I guess as he's due to retire soon he doesnt want the bother.

jillie1974

EEP!! K is trying to eAT THE LAPPY. KEEPS HITTING RANDOM KEYS!!

jillie1974

gill_81uk wrote: »

That was my plan today but I had to leave a message. I asked him to phone me but he emailed instead. His email ends as tho he wants no more contact about it, I guess as he's due to retire soon he doesnt want the bother.

probably

if its near your parents, most churches have a 'vestyr`day where you go and see about weddings, christenings etc. could your mum or dad go and check for you?

weezl74

Caz, (said with love) It is simply not appropriate to continue a friendship if it hurts your wife. He needs to end all contact immediately and prove this to you.

I would continue if we were talking together in real life, but I want to be protective of what we say online. So more hugs xxxx

redstararnie76

Hi everyone, just catching up.
Had a lovely day today - we all went to Crealy (Devon) and had a fantastic time, Amelie was really nervous about the rides at first, but Dan managed to persuade her to give most of them a go and then there was no stopping her.... personally I loved the log flume
Jakesmummy - sorry to hear about the car.
EA - Hope Lily's excema clears up quickly, I'm sure the heat can't be good for any sensitive skin...
Will post more when I've finished reading back, but I hope everyone's enjoyed the sunny day!

SugarSpun

JM, I meant to say how awful about your car

Caz, I think Weezl's right, and tactful and lovely as ever.

And Weezl, I love the way you talk about your boys, and how kind and sweet a little person Fergie sounds. I think he'll be one of those full-sentences kids - it must be very worrying for you at the moment, but please try not to let it spoil your time with your two boys while they're so little. It won't be long before you're wondering when you'll be able to get a word in :grouphug:

redstararnie76

Krystal - hope your MS will pass quickly.
Caz - I have no advice, but I'm sending a virtual hug!
Weezl - your little boy sounds a bit like my daughter was - but now she's 4 I can't shut her up and she's got a bigger vocabulary than some 10 year olds I've come across! Some kids just seem a bit slower to get started, but they seem to be taking in loads, so try not to worry too much (easier said than done, I know).

SugarSpun

What, did I break the thread being all fluffy?

Right, you all smell of stale Stilton

(now come talk to me)