MSE Parents Club Part 12

Evansangel

kitkat5566 wrote: »

*Comes out from lurking* Evansangel... Lilly is gorgeous!!! Right... I'm back off to the pregnancy thread...

Thanks

You'll be here soon! Only 2 months (ish) :j

Caz - :rotfl: My sister would happily send an abusive text for you. She does it for me all the time
You could do the childish writing on walls "For sex call 07XXXXXXXXX" :rotfl:


Just got back from ILs house with BIL in tow, he bought round Goodfellas pizza! :j

SugarSpun

MFD, I agree - but if I ever had to talk to her I'd call her a different name, something completely random, and if she corrected me I'd say, but the kids told me their dad's girlfriend was called XXX.

Lovely afternoon, and we now have another property to view on Friday :j

My_Fathers_Daughter

Linkie for Fitzio

cazscoob

He is living here at the moment as he has nowhere else to go and his name is on the tenancy, he has been asking me to take him back and saying he will prove himself to me. they have been still texting each other 'as friends' but from the texts today she is still wanting more? its been a week and i still feel as stuck as i was last week? she does not think she is doing anything wrong!

she text me a few times during the week fishing for info so i gave her the info she wanted(not the truth) and now shes at it all again! i am so hurt and feel sick, i have eaten 3 times in a week and cannot face anything/anyone right now. she is really rubbing my face in it and i really want to hurt her.
i dont know what to do or how to move on, i feel im chasing my tail and now making myself ill. i have even started taking panic attacks and this terrifies me.
what do i do?

My_Fathers_Daughter

((HUGS)) Caz - I honestly don't know what you do. Keep your chin up, be brave and take one step at a time I guess.

One thing is for sure that any contact with her is not helpful. If it is really over for you and hubby then she is welcome to him and you are worth a million of her. Just hold your head high and work on doing what is best for you and the kids, step by step.

xxxx

gill_81uk

ooooh I have a baby asleep in a brand spanking new swing :T

I've built it all by myself as well instead of waiting for DH to get home.....the seat looks a lot more reclined than it does in the pics tho. Anyone who has a takealong swing know if that's right? There's no way he could reach the toys on the bar, but I dont know if he's supposed to or not.

He's gripped a toy for the first time today as well :j He was lying on his play mat and I saw he had the dangly giraffe's leg in his hand and was pulling it back and forth. Thought it was a fluke then he did it twice more.

Fitzio

cazscoob wrote: »

He is living here at the moment as he has nowhere else to go and his name is on the tenancy, he has been asking me to take him back and saying he will prove himself to me. they have been still texting each other 'as friends' but from the texts today she is still wanting more? its been a week and i still feel as stuck as i was last week? she does not think she is doing anything wrong!

she text me a few times during the week fishing for info so i gave her the info she wanted(not the truth) and now shes at it all again! i am so hurt and feel sick, i have eaten 3 times in a week and cannot face anything/anyone right now. she is really rubbing my face in it and i really want to hurt her.
i dont know what to do or how to move on, i feel im chasing my tail and now making myself ill. i have even started taking panic attacks and this terrifies me.
what do i do?

I am so sorry he has hurt you Caz. You don't deserve it and neither do your kids. But I am disgusted that he would even suggest he still texts her as friends whilst trying to make it up to you. Why has he nowhere else to go? Can't he go and live with her if he still wants to stay in touch with her!

I think you are being remarkably nice letting him stay in the house to be honest. Tell the other woman to **** off and stop texting you. Have nothing to do with her. Then work out what you want to do about your husband. If you are considering staying with him though he needs to be shot of her completely (although I think he would be a very lucky man if you were) - they can't stay "just friends"!

cazscoob

he said they were just talking as friends and he has had many chances to go to her but is still here, i even helped him buy a car so he could go/come back and forward to see the kids? i cant get it straight in my head that he wants me so much yet can still have any sort of contact with her? i told him i would start texting my ex and he was horrified, he is also asked me not to see anyone for a while?
my brain will not shut off and writing it here is actually helping, im not looking for answers just opinions? i dont know if i could be happy with him again or ever trust a word he says. Will i ever be happy and find someone? who would want to get involved with 5 kids? would i ever trust them?
doesnt help that i still love him and my heart is broken

SugarSpun

I agree with Fitz. If there was an extra person attempting to join in my marriage she could either bow out completely or take Husband with her, I wouldn't tolerate any cheeky texting whether it was him to her or her to me.

Caz, you're already going far beyond what any reasonable person would be expected to do. I wish I knew what to tell you but the best I can manage is *hugs* and you're worth more than both of them stacked one on the other's shoulders.

3onitsway

cazscoob wrote: »

he said they were just talking as friends and he has had many chances to go to her but is still here, i even helped him buy a car so he could go/come back and forward to see the kids? i cant get it straight in my head that he wants me so much yet can still have any sort of contact with her? i told him i would start texting my ex and he was horrified, he is also asked me not to see anyone for a while?
my brain will not shut off and writing it here is actually helping, im not looking for answers just opinions? i dont know if i could be happy with him again or ever trust a word he says. Will i ever be happy and find someone? who would want to get involved with 5 kids? would i ever trust them?
doesnt help that i still love him and my heart is broken

Caz hunny - I could have written that highlighted bit 9 years ago (with two kids rather than 5!). Now, i'm happier than I ever was with the ex, and I have my lovely family. I'd never trust OH (or anyone) 100%, but I try my best.

And now the ex is sad, lonely, bitter old git with nobody - karma.

I know it's easy to say hold your head up and be bigger and better than them - but do whatever makes you feel better, obviously without getting yourself into trouble.
And if that involves advertising her 'services' on dodgy websites, so be it!;)

I went through stages of wanting to kill her (and him), then feeling quite sorry for her because she was young and stupid, like I had been then eventually not giving a toss about either of them - that's when I knew I was over it.

You're being a nicer person than I could be by still having him there. I wouldn't give a hoot where he went to stay as long as it wasn't near me. And him still being in touch with her, 'as friend' when he's trying to win you back and prove himself is really taking the P!

It will get easier, I promise you, but who know's how long it will take.