MSE Parents Club Part 12

tarajayne

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

Beenie - I haven't commented because I don't think I have anything helpful to add. But now I feel bad so I just want to let you know that the full force of MFD's 'hope you get piles' vibes are currently directed at your neighbours and your waste of space housing officer.

What she said! :cool:

tiamai_d

tarajayne wrote: »

Poor Amber! :cool: I'm counting down until Maddy goes.

I'm hoping hel'' put his foot down with his wife and say they're staying, but this has happened alot over the years, they turned up to Ben's birthday once 2hrs late as they had another kids party to go to, and Ben's christening, they went to the church, then disappeared and appeared an hour or so later in jeans!

Perhaps not such a great loss then? :cool:

Krystaltips

Tara, I love you

Don't fret over BIL...

If he loves his brother then he will decide to stay after the meal once he realises it's a wedding reception... If he decides to just leave and put someone elses birthday party ahead of his brothers wedding then you won't even notice he's not there because all the people you love and who love you and want to spend time with you will be there and if OH has a problem with it then it will be up to him to raise it with him...

If there's anything I've learnt since our wedding, it's that the in laws are completely different to my family and would climb over one another to inconvenience each other, whereas my family all come together for a party... I can't change them, I can just accept that people that care about us are there for us and everyone else can go do what they like...

Mazcabs

tarajayne wrote: »

As Tia's busy, can someone help as I know we are gonna come to blows when he gets home, at the bottom is part of the letter put with the invites. His brother has just rung saying he won't be staying after we have eaten at 7pm as they have a birthday party to go to. I thought what I wrote explained to people the importance of the engagement party, was it not enough, and now he'll want to tell people???
.....

But isnt the wedding after the Christening so surely he'll stay once they realise its a wedding??

tarajayne

Krystaltips wrote: »

Tara, I love you

Don't fret over BIL...

If he loves his brother then he will decide to stay after the meal once he realises it's a wedding reception... If he decides to just leave and put someone elses birthday party ahead of his brothers wedding then you won't even notice he's not there because all the people you love and who love you and want to spend time with you will be there and if OH has a problem with it then it will be up to him to raise it with him...

If there's anything I've learnt since our wedding, it's that the in laws are completely different to my family and would climb over one another to inconvenience each other, whereas my family all come together for a party... I can't change them, I can just accept that people that care about us are there for us and everyone else can go do what they like...

I wanna be as nice as you when I grow up! :A

Told you I'm not good enough for people, especially his family!

tarajayne

Mazcabs wrote: »

But isnt the wedding after the Christening so surely he'll stay once they realise its a wedding??

Only time will tell? Will be interesting.

csh_2

Krystaltips wrote: »

Tara, I love you

Don't fret over BIL...

If he loves his brother then he will decide to stay after the meal once he realises it's a wedding reception... If he decides to just leave and put someone elses birthday party ahead of his brothers wedding then you won't even notice he's not there because all the people you love and who love you and want to spend time with you will be there and if OH has a problem with it then it will be up to him to raise it with him...

Thats totally what I want to say but can't get a min cos K won't settle tonight.
Even if he knows its a wedding before hand if this birthday thing is so important to him he may choose to go anyway!! Then you risk the cat out of the bag.
I say stuff it, leave it at that and buy shoes and earrings and sparkles and stuff x x x

tarajayne

SusanC wrote: »

Thanks - mental note made. (Should I admit that I've started doing some of the exercises from Janet Balaskas' book?)

What book is that?

Still catching up.

tarajayne

Thanks Csh, you just remined me my shoes I'm watching finish at 9pm. X

tiamai_d

Has anyone (mums of Autistic types) read The out of sync child?

It's been recommended to me by another Hemi-mum after I asked about Christopher's reaction to loud noises (he has started walking around with his hands over her ears if there is anything 'loud', like the tv). But it looks a bit... airy fairy to me.