MSE Parents Club Part 12

SusanC_2

Mazcabs wrote: »

TT is still a pain with HF and I dont know what to do, he is practically dry at nursery right through the day. He came home last night minus nappy and wet himself despite constant prompting, went and changed him, came down and proceeded to wet himself again straight away. He did this 5 times in total plus one was a poo aswell.... he knows what to do cos he told me what he does at nursery but just wont do it here...:mad:

What happens if you tell him to sit on the potty/toilet rather than just asking if he needs it. I used to sometimes just tell Alice to rather than just ask if I was fairly sure that she did need it. Do they tell or ask at nursery? Does it happen when he is doing particular things (when he night be engrossed and/or not want to stop what he is doing)? Or had he had a lot to drink? I found if Alice had a lot to drink in a short space of time it was more likely to catch her unawares.

BeenieCat wrote: »

She did a PND check on me too (is this standard for a weaning chat?? lol!) and said i scored 20/30 so need to see GP asap for some pills... She's gonna ring the housing woman too. Not sure what she's going to say but she thoroughly dissaproved of the restraining order comment. Thanks for all your replies, not sure i feel strong enough to go into battle with her via complaints though. Even the HV said this woman has an abrupt manner but this will work in my favour if we can get her on board.

Mine did a PND check on me at the weaning thing (but lied and told me it was a "questionnaire" :mad:). If you want to do a complaint, we can help you. It could be worth speaking to Citizen's Advice too - they were extremely helpful when I had a Council Tax dispute. (But I understand if you don't want to pursue it.)

tiamai_d wrote: »

She doesn't have to use it, accesorise baby!

:rotfl:

cazscoob

Weezl would you come and live with me and get me back into some sort of order? since Charlie was in the hospitla i seem to have fallen behind in everything and need a good kick up the bum! im sure Fergie and Kessie would have lots of fun and lots of children to entertain them lol

i dont think my hairdresser is coming? not like her not to phone?

weezl74

SusanC wrote: »

Yes, it's always useful to go through things again and check if there's anything I've not thought of. And it's lovely to have someone being so thoughtful and concerned about me.

sounds like you have it all in hand

very tiny other thoughts:

our HV has kindly agreed to get the surgery to coincide K and F's jabs/development reviews/weigh ins for minimal visits. Is that worth considering for your midwifery appointments (ie timing them to fit round other appointments?)

I'm not sure if you're thinking of a homebirth, but this also means more of your ante-natal care can be at home (my booking appointment 28 and 36 week check were done here)

well done for all your great plans, I think you are the most organised person I know

*admiration vibes*

delain

Ohhh I love 'questionnaires' and 'worksheets' social workers used to foist them on me when I was a kid and it was always so transparent what they really meant :rotfl:

They tried to give me antidepressants but I kept saying no, seen too many people start taking them and end up a mess, I prefer to be miserable in the real world than doo lally in la la land So I started just writing what they wanted in the questionnaires. Questionnaires indeed :rotfl: I'm quite capable of working out whether I'm depressed or not.

Might not be best for anyone else to think that though, drugs just dont seem to agree with my family

boogellyboo

Beenie - I've not got anything useful to add to what the other's have said but big hugs for you.

WM - I really hope your OH starts doing more and seeing why he's not being helpful soon. Sometime's I swear they wear blinkers to family life :mad:

Susan - Alice sound's like such a sweet, caring girl :A It seem's like your really ontop of thing's in preparation for no2.

Isla's wearing her leopard print babygrow, she look's like a mini Bet Lynch :rotfl:

SusanC_2

weezl74 wrote: »

our HV has kindly agreed to get the surgery to coincide K and F's jabs/development reviews/weigh ins for minimal visits. Is that worth considering for your midwifery appointments (ie timing them to fit round other appointments?)

I don't think Alice is due any routine things while I was pregnant but one thing I am going to do is not agree to so many appointments. The midwife kept seeing me every two weeks (and sometimes consecutive weeks) throughout because I was so ill but really it didn't provide any benefits and it made me feel worse because of all the effort of going. (And OH had to take time off to drive me when the three minute walk was too much.) I've got a blood pressure monitor and plan to get some full spectrum urine dipsticks so I can keep an eye on things on the weeks I don't have an appointment.

weezl74 wrote: »

I'm not sure if you're thinking of a homebirth, but this also means more of your ante-natal care can be at home (my booking appointment 28 and 36 week check were done here)

I'm defintiely planning on a homebirth. (Which reminds me - I still haven't finished my birth plan.)

weezl74 wrote: »

well done for all your great plans, I think you are the most organised person I know

*admiration vibes*

I'm organised because I'm lazy - it makes life easier. I'm totally a person who likes to plan in advance too. On Sunday, I started telling two friends at church about our baby name choosing process and they sat down because they knew it was going to be a long story. (And one of them said, "Ha! I knew there would be a spreadsheet involved." when I mentioned the spreadsheet.)

ETA: And I'm glad you don't think I'm just some crazy weirdo.

My_Fathers_Daughter

3onitsway wrote: »

I know we say it all of the time, but i'm really enjoying the 14 month old stage. She's like a little person now with a personality!

You took the pee out of me for saying this a few weeks ago



I could do with some suggestions to cope with my stroppy boy! He is so much fun at the moment but the second he wants something that he can't have or wants to do something he throws himself down and cries real tears *rolleyes*

This stretches to everything - the other morning I picked him up to leave the house whilst he was trying to escape with his push-along and he was still clinging onto it and refused to let go!! I had to physically prise his fingers off it which of course meant tears.

Then he was trying to get out of my arms so I let him walk to the front door, helped him to get out of the porch and let him walk to the car. I opened the door for him and he started trying to climb in...when I picked him up to help him get into his car seat (he physically can't do this bit himself) he began with the tears all over again. So 3 separate strops in the space of two mins max.

The pushalong has been relegated to the garden because it was causing too many strops (he had started crying when he ran into something rather than shouting 'bump' like he used to).

I don't know if it is because he has started to do so much for himself recently (feed himself, take his shoes off, take his nappy to the bin, carry his bottle to daddy etc) that he wants to be independant about everything?

My assistant keeps saying 'wait until he is 2 - then you will really be pulling your hair out with him' :rotfl::rotfl:

weezl74

boogellyboo wrote: »

Isla's wearing her leopard print babygrow, she look's like a mini Bet Lynch :rotfl:

:eek::eek::eek:eeeeeep! :rotfl:

susan another thought, bump size tends to be bigger with PG 2 (well it was for sami and me ) so possibly if you're thinking of using the same clothes as before, maybe get some things that are a bit bigger than the biggest things you wore last time.

Also a belly band was v useful with PG 2 but I didn't need it at all with pg 1. You can use it to hold a hot waterbottle on your lower back.

Also would it be worth getting any HB stuff ready or at least a list of what to assemble so you can just give it to OH if you're too shattered to think of it at the time?

I have a belly band here and a vid of PG yoga if useful at any point . Also a labour tens machine.

All these offers also extend to all my parent club friends.

Beenie, 20 out of 30 is very high. You sound much more positive and chirpy in your posts, but that is a very high score. Please do look after yourself and rest as much as you can. Hugs for you

caz I don't think I'm very sorted in my own life! How is charlie doing now? And I don't think I know where things are with you and OH, sorry I'm really behindhand.:o

weezl74

SusanC wrote: »

ETA: And I'm glad you don't think I'm just some crazy weirdo.

nope! I think you and me are normal and the other 6.9 billion people on the planet are crazy weirdos

tee hee!

Can I help with a homebirth kit list?

tiamai_d

MFD, ignore it. When he throws a strop, don't acknowledge it at all, just take whatever it is off him, make sure he is safe, sit him down etc. Get on with what you are doing and when he calms down talk to him as normal 'now you are calm and in your jacket we can go to the park' kinda thing. Don't try reason 'you can play with that later', it doesn't work, they don't beleive in later and it makes them kick off more. Or thats what I found anyway. I tend to just go in with the 'this is what we need to do and this is what we are doing, you can make it easy or you can make it hard but either way at the end of it, we will be doing this so lets not get snot everywhere while we do it'.