MSE Parents Club Part 12

Mazcabs

BeenieCat wrote: »

I meant to ask, does everyone get a HV visit to discuss weaning at 4 months? I'm hoping i'll get some freebies I take it they do it now in case i'm planning on starting now, and to tell me not to? lol

Dont remember this with Henry but will see as going to get William weighed later today..Just picked William up from nursery settling in and he was fine. Only problem is that I have tried 3 bottles with him today and he has only taken about 3oz out of 7oz? Now gone to sleep again!!

TT is still a pain with HF and I dont know what to do, he is practically dry at nursery right through the day. He came home last night minus nappy and wet himself despite constant prompting, went and changed him, came down and proceeded to wet himself again straight away. He did this 5 times in total plus one was a poo aswell.... he knows what to do cos he told me what he does at nursery but just wont do it here...:mad:

boogellyboo

greent wrote: »

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:


DS1 was a very pretty baby and liked to wear his big sister's sparkly hair clips - so we have lots of picsa of him in those and alice bands and the like. DS2 loves dressing up - as a fairy princess in pink fairy dress with wings, tiara and wands - I took lots of pics with the intent of blackmailing him later in life!:rotfl::rotfl:

I've got some fab piccies of my brother when he was about 8 and went to school dressed as a girl for comic relief :rotfl: He had one of my dresses on, tights, headband the whole works! He was so convincing one teacher didn't cotton on it was him! He's now a strapping 6'2 28 year old who gives me 'the look' if I mention them.

BeenieCat

Waahhh no freebies!!!

Massage was good, Amber was the only baby who didn't scream at some point :A She loves watching all the other babies,so cute!

Weaning chat was good, asked her about BLW and she's very pro-BLW and wants me to watch a DVD she has about it. I'll prob do a mixture though, when [STRIKE]i can be arsed[/STRIKE] the time comes

Oh i did get a toothbrush and toothpaste for her though! And a recipe book thing which looks good.

She did a PND check on me too (is this standard for a weaning chat?? lol!) and said i scored 20/30 so need to see GP asap for some pills... She's gonna ring the housing woman too. Not sure what she's going to say but she thoroughly dissaproved of the restraining order comment. Thanks for all your replies, not sure i feel strong enough to go into battle with her via complaints though. Even the HV said this woman has an abrupt manner but this will work in my favour if we can get her on board.

greent

Somnium wrote: »

Well Tahlie must have been listening to me last night she slept 11 till 7 without waking QUOTE]

Am jealous - *stamps feet* - Sam is 11 months and has never slept more than 4.5 hours!!

Dribblekitten wrote: »

Weezl - lovely to see you. I'm not planning to TTC as I'm already cooking another, due October!

Ooh - congratulations!! I could get broody, esp `if Sami & Krystal getq bumps, as they were pg same time as me

tiamai_d wrote: »

discovered that a paddling pool makes a great place to eat lunch if you are an Ambertronic She can smoosh a cheese piece into it to her hearts content

Brilliant idea!

BrunoM

Well done Beenie, sounds like a good conversation and another useful advocate. We are all here to help if you want it, but fair enough to pick your battles and not have a complaint fight about something you don't think will help you much.

Becles

Beenie - what a horrid woman! I agree you should complain to everyone possible. I don't know much about housing but would be willing to help write a letter. I'm sure we can all put our heads together and come up with something if it will help.

Was busy doing the usual million and one jobs to get the boys out to school this morning and I noticed Charlotte had vanished. Went into the hall and she was up on the landing. I asked what she was doing and she said proudly "I've just been for a wee all my myself" and then added "and I washed my hands as well" :rotfl:It's the first time she's gone up by herself and managed with her clothes.

greent

BeenieCat wrote: »

Waahhh no freebies!!!


Weaning chat was good, asked her about BLW and she's very pro-BLW and wants me to watch a DVD she has about it. I'll prob do a mixture though, when [STRIKE]i can be arsed[/STRIKE] the time comes

Oh i did get a toothbrush and toothpaste for her though! And a recipe book thing which looks good.

She did a PND check on me too (is this standard for a weaning chat?? lol!) and said i scored 20/30 so need to see GP asap for some pills... She's gonna ring the housing woman too. Not sure what she's going to say but she thoroughly dissaproved of the restraining order comment. Thanks for all your replies, not sure i feel strong enough to go into battle with her via complaints though. Even the HV said this woman has an abrupt manner but this will work in my favour if we can get her on board.

I've never had weaning freebies (or a weaning chat) for any of my 4 from a hv Nor any toothbrushes and paste - wah!! *stamps feet again!*

Having done puree weaning and BLW, I would thoroughly recommend BLW, esp if you wait until baby is 6 months. And then don't be worried if they don't eat much for a few weeks - a baby won't starve itself!

Good that she'll ring housing for you xx Don't ignore PND

tiamai_d

cazscoob wrote: »

what a great idea Tia!!!!

BM im heading to Newburgh, funly enough its also the name of a neighbouring village to us!

I am so tired doesnt matter how early i go to bed i spend the rest of the day yawning!

Worked out great, she ate the full sandwich and the floor didn't get any at all! (the floor is on a diet)

boogellyboo wrote: »

That would be me Now, how do I get Isla to start taking a dummy :rotfl:

She doesn't have to use it, accesorise baby!

workinmummy

Fitzio wrote: »

Sorry WM, I keep meaning to say, you need to give your OH a right good kick up the jacksie! You can go to a funeral and not get p***ed. It's a choice. I don't know how you put up with it!

Apparently not! It is the law to get p1ssed at every given opportunity.
It's actually the complete sh!te that come out of him that pee's me off more.
The won't be long (5 hours later, still not back), just going for a pint (20 pints later), just waiting for a taxi (3 hours).

Plus the obvious avoidance of anything parental over the past few days. And him thinking that I should be fine with it all - work full time, do everything when I get home, put both kids to bed, sort stuff for school & childminder, get up x times in the night and get up 2 hours before he drags his lazy aris out of bed to get himself out to work, plus oversea and taxi Joe to his activities and parties etc and all household shopping.

Actually all the above is why i despair for Glam. And really hope that her OH pulls his socks up and starts helping her, or she will end up like me, beyond exhausted when she returns to work.

The very sparse comments of "I don't know how you do it?" just aren't cutting it anymore. I wouldn't have to do it, if you shifted yourself.

I didn't cut my nose of to spite my face yesterday, and did leave Alex with him, whilst I went to Judo with Joe. Sssh is the only time I get some peace and get to read my book, which i blubbered through the final pages of. (Whist trying to hide it from the other parents)

Keeps texting asking how long am I going to be ignoring him for? Well if I answered I'd no longer be ignoring him would I?

SusanC_2

weezl74 wrote: »

susan, I've been sat here mulling about you whilst doing a feed

You're so sweet.

weezl74 wrote: »

Some thoughts about pregnancy number 2.

perhaps try living/imagining 'as if' it's already here and you are already PG and needing 15 hrs sleep per day. (obviously I hope it won't be like that, but maybe planning for the wort means everything else is a bonus )

I'm planning for the worst and hoping for the best.

weezl74 wrote: »

What extra resources do you need? (naps, extra food, babysitting so you can nap, a cleaner once a week while you are heavily PG?)

Because I'm self employed, if I'm very ill I should be able to get whatever Incapacity Benefit is called these days (they changed the name and I forget what the new name is) and we would use some of the extra money to pay for a cleaner.

weezl74 wrote: »

What do you need Alice to be aware of/do/cope with? (encouraging fergie to use sippy cup would have been a good one here!) edit: Alice sounds like a very thoughtful understanding little girl, I wonder what she'd say if you asked her what things she could do while mummy lies down (ie not asleep but just quietly on the sofa)

That's one of the key reasons for having such a large gap. Currently the only times I lift/carry Alice are if she's hurt herself, we're in a rush or sometimes she just asks for a carry because she likes cuddles. Apart from flushing the toilet (because it's broken and you have to press it twice quickly to get it to work) she can manage that all by herself. She can (and does!) get drinks for herself and can almost make lunch by herself so if OH left lunch ready made in the fridge, she would be able to bring it through to the living room. Also if I got up at 8.30 (when OH goes to work) and slept during her usual quiet time I'd be able to stay up till 7.30pm (OH usually gets home by 5.30pm). Alice is always very concerned about people when they are ill and/or tired (she even told me last week that she doesn't want snow because it makes our friend with ME more tired than usual) so I expect she would be fairly understanding.

weezl74 wrote: »

What tasks that you do now can you let go of/compromise on/delegate? (we let go of the idea of using reusable nappies while I was exhausted, also when fergie was little we bought bread rather than made it, can you maybe get flour milled already from somewhere?)

We would use wipes instead of flannels/cloths and use bought flour. I have a rough cooking plan in my head (which I'm planning to write down) which would make it fairly low work and therefore easy for OH to keep up with and me to contribute to as and when I was able. We would consider using the laundrette for some washing. I would order groceries online instead of going round all the shops looking for the best deals/reduced items. The vegetable plot might be slightly abandoned too.

weezl74 wrote: »

What approximate timeline will the PG have and what does that mean about DH's working patterns etc...? (ie if he is still going to be doing his extra christmas work, what will that mean your day will look like then, assuming you'll be 7 months PG then...)

He'd go out at 1pm and get in around 10.30pm. We'd switch lunch and dinner so we would have dinner midday before he went to work and then "lunch" for the evening meal. Because Alice usually has her quiet time from one to three I'd only have four hours of her being up while I was on my own so would actually be easier than during regular work.

weezl74 wrote: »

what extra people resources do you have? (I know you probably don't want your mum's involvement, but is there anyone from church you trust who could maybe have Alice for a couple of afternoons a week? If you don't like to ask a favour, could it be a skills swap? DH sorts her garden out this summer, so that next spring she has Alice while you sleep?)

If I'm ill I should be able to get some help from Homestart. Unfortunately of the three people who would be willing to help and I would be happy with, one just had her fourth baby, one has ME and one doesn't drive.

weezl74 wrote: »

what things can you do now to give yourself maximum help later? ( I filled both freezers with meals, stockpiled dried goods and decluttered every conceivable cupboard I could think of, also automated as many financial tasks I could think of.)

You know me - I always have ridiculous stockpiles. We would probably start using the milkman for milk and eggs (he's too expensive to justify using usually). Assuming we conceive reasonably quickly, the worst bit would be at a time when cashflow is good so wouldn't need to keep a close eye on bank accounts. Am planning to get tax returns done before TTC which would mean next one wouldn't be due until January 2012. OH is able to keep up on basic data entry for essential accounts which would keep them ticking over. I'm also planning to make some blended soups and smoothies and freeze them in cubes so that I can have small frequent portions if need be.

weezl74 wrote: »

Not sure if any of the above is useful, but I offer it all with love

Yes, it's always useful to go through things again and check if there's anything I've not thought of. And it's lovely to have someone being so thoughtful and concerned about me.