MSE Parents Club Part 12

Becles

BeenieCat wrote: »

Can anyone tell me how to word it so i'm basically saying i can't do it, don't want to be tied into it every week... Without being arsey and still keeping things friendly?! Or is it not possible?

You could start talking about cellars and axes a lot while giving her an evil wink and grinning manically at the boy

I think you're just going to have to be blunt and say you can't do it as it's too much being on your own with yours never mind looking after additional one. I know it's hard to do.

One of my sons friends invited himself to a football group Josh used to go to. It meant I had him at home for about 45 mins, then dropped him off on the way home from the leisure centre. He was hyper and stuff would get thrown round the bedroom while they were getting changed into football gear so I had to keep rescuing socks and stuff from on top of the wardrobe and on the lampshade. It was doing my head in and I was building up the courage to say no more, but he joined a local team and his Mam decided to stop the leisure centre sessions.

Still writing this essay but the group project is done. It's such a boring essay and I'd rather be outside in the sunshine

emlou2009

I think theres something wrong with me, the NSPCC advert was on and it didnt touch me, then the RSPCA Home For Life advert came on and I welled up at the thought of the poor kitty being abandoned by the owner dying

3onitsway

Sami_Bee wrote: »

nah just saw it on tv an though 'ooh never had south african'

Can't say it appeals to me - but I said that about the gorgeous Argentinian before I went there. We had a South African restaurant open just up the road, but it closed down before we got round to going - it only lasted about 3 months, and was always empty.

tiamai_d

weezl74 wrote: »

hello tia how's the loft?

Ah ok, not salt then for a bit.... OK

I like the idea of nursery but I'm worried the welsh will be a set back cos he'll get confused!

If it will make you feel better, do go see a SALT. They will be able to asses him and hearing from someone who knows what they are talking about will hopefully put your mind at ease one way or another. You can also get a list of what you can do to help him. But be warned, they probably won't be worried.

A nursery is a good idea if you were thinking about it. It's not so much about the language they speak in, but just that they are speaking.

When Chris went to his first one aged 3, he went in not trying to communicate at all and came out after a few months of 2 afternoons per week, pointing to things and making sounds. Basically he had copied the other children who would ask for things and he worked out that not everyone is psychic like mummy and he has to communicate.

As well as that, the staff are usually very good at picking up on problems. They have to write down daily diaries so there is a file of evidence which gives a much better indication of what he is doing. Better than my memory anyway!

But I'm not bullying you, I've just found nursery to be a very good tool for things like this. But I have a great nursery and have been spoilt.

And btw, I made carrot cake last night :T:T:T:T it's YUMMMYYYYYYYY!!!!!! Kids love it, even Chris the pick little so and so

workinmummy

Sami_Bee wrote: »

he may not make it to nursery but he's already signed up for school, see I did do something I have attendance cards for both boys that we have to get signed to prove we are regular church goers so they can get in. I should ring the school and check they got our form tho! :eek:imagine if they didn't get it!! I was so lazy and posted it even though I drive past the school like 20 times a week!

Was that form just not to register an interest though. There will be another form to fill in when he's actually due to start reception. Don't forget to post/ take that one in as it will have a deadline.

Glamazon wrote: »

Hi weezl :hello:

Speaking of BIL, did I mention he's coming back? He's under strict instructions that as soon as he gets his exam results in August then he either moves out on his own (passes exam) or moves back home (fails exam).

I'm gonna miss the spare room for 6-8 weeks

Noooooooo :eek:

tiamai_d

And also, I need an AMAZING gift for Christopher lovely key worker at nursery. Gave bath stuff last year, but I want something a bit special to try and show just haw grateful we are for everything she has done for Christopher (I'm welling up) and she has done a LOT.

tiamai_d

what do you think of this?

Sami_Bee

yes WM its just registering interest, the proper form will come around october IIRC and deadline is Jan/feb next year - see I know this bit is super important so I'm not messing about with it - despite the fact that I had the following convo with Chris
C: I don't want to go to church
Me: you have to or you won't get in the school with the good teachers
C: I don't care I don't want good teachers I want rubbish ones.

:rotfl:

got-it-spend-it

BeenieCat wrote: »

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Oooh i have a perfect excuse to wriggle out of the Brat basbysitting here... I've just had a text "hi thanks for getting Brat tomorrow really appreciate it, i can take DS on Fri if you're free?"

Well... we're not free, we have Beavers. And i don't really want to mention Beavers in case she joins him up (:eek:).

Can anyone tell me how to word it so i'm basically saying i can't do it, don't want to be tied into it every week... Without being arsey and still keeping things friendly?! Or is it not possible?

I would say that now Amber is more mobile you cannot cope with the two boys, plus her and maybe mention you have to walk the dog too.

Sami_Bee wrote: »

nah just saw it on tv and thought 'ooh I've never had south african'

I read that as never had a South African. I have and he was good. Maybe why I read it that way .

Nicki

Weezl, both my children were referred to SALT at around the age of two because of delayed speech. With DS it was just a case of him being slower than usual to start talking, and he had two lots of group therapy with some other kids his age, and was then discharged. He's now ten and talks for England with a fantastic vocabulary. With DD it was immediately picked up by the SALT that there was a more serious problem, she got into the system fast, and started to get weekly 1:1 SALT in blocks of 8 weeks on, 8 weeks off due to waiting lists which went on until she started school, and she now gets weekly SALT at school.

The sessions aren't horrible, they involve the SALT playing with the child and helping them to acquire both language and comprehension. They certainly can't do any harm. The thing about adopting a wait and see approach is that if there is a problem, the best time for the sessions to take place are in the first five years of a child's life as this is when the brain is most receptive to language development. So if your child did have a serious problem, and you waited until the age of 3 to raise it, given waiting lists and the rest you'd really cut down on the amount of help they got. My experience is that SALTs will quickly discharge children who don't need their input, so I would say you have nothing to lose by accepting a referral and letting the professional decide whether it is needed or not. I certainly don't regret taking my son along, even though it turned out that it was wholly unnecessary for him to go and he learned to talk under his own steam, because if he had turned out to have the same communication issues as his sister, I'd always have regretted not taking up the offer of help when it was there.