MSE Parents Club Part 12

Fitzio

BeenieCat wrote: »

Morning. I'm in a foul mood today, am tired! Wouldn't be so bad if i knew i was tired because my lovely baby needed me, but knowing it was the &%^$%$%'s from next door makes it feel SO much worse. Housing officer's number is constantly engaged. :mad:

I have a dilemma... You know the free babysitting i've been doing for DS school friend? Where we have to have him every week while his parents work, even in the holidays...?

Well my sister has bought DS tickets to go the the pictures tomorrow, and he's really looking forward to it. Is it really out of order to cancel the brat, or is it too short notice?

It riles me cos he's got 2 parents (on a LOT of money) who can arrange childcare between them, and it's just too much, 3pm+ is a busy time as it is without looking after another kid and i can never take the dog out on the day he's here cos they start arguing at the park so i said i'm not taking them again.
DS and the brat don't even play together at school much anymore, and i need to wriggle out of doing it without any hard feeling. I'm thinking of changing his swimming lessons to a Weds but i have a feeling she'll swap her work days to accomodate that so i end up having him anyway!!

I think one of you should ring her and tell her i died

Morning Beenie.

You want to cancel without hard feeling, but there is already hard feeling from you towards them. You need to just say that circumstances have changed and you can't do it any longer. You really don't need to tell them why.
Are you friends with these people? If so, they are clearly taking advantage and therefore you should not feel guilty. If not, then what do you care if there is hard feeling - it would be them in the wrong, not you. However, they can't be to blame if they don't know there is a problem so you have to speak up!

It's only you who is being put out because of the situation so you have to put yourself and your kids first. If you feel you have to say something, tell them you can't cope with an extra child on a regular basis as you are on your own, and it is limiting you from making plans. If they question it, you can tell them that there are 2 of them so they don't know what it's like and regardless, it's up to you how much you can cope with.

I would probably give them a weeks notice or something so that you aren't letting them down and they have plenty of time to make other arrangements. If they argue or try to pressure you, just say that's fine, we will just stop now then and you won't take him for the next week which you were only doing to be decent.

BeenieCat

Arghhhhhh i'm so weak :mad: I've just spoke to her and i've ended up having him tomorrow (just found out neice has chickenpox and won't be going the the pics). But i said i'm not having him next week. And she was like "well i'll give you the money to take him to the pics" :eek::eek:

I was like... erm no i'm not going and my sister will already have 3 kids to look after. And even if i was going.. he's here with his family and they don't want some runt from school there.

It's really winding me up now. She was like "oh well at least i've got a week to sort something else out" as though it was a big hardship. I'd like to know who had him before she collared me into it. I didn't mind at first cos DS loved having his friend here, but he's sick to death of him now and DS has a right attitude on him which he only ever seems to have when he's been with brat.

Glamazon

Fitzio wrote: »

Holly has gone from crawling position to sitting up 3 times since last night and we haven't seen her do it at all. DH thought I had sat her up and I thought he had!

:T
Well done H!
They'll be no stopping her now! I remember thinking I was losing it when Jack did that cos I was sure I put him on his front! :rotfl:
I found the changes from this point were really quick!

Well, my baby boy woke at 9.45pm had 5ozs of milk and then didn't have another bottle until 6am :j He did wake in the night but I managed to get him back off (albeit in the spare room again ) without the milk. Incidentally, he ate ALL his meals at creche yesterday and then half a jar when he came home.

3onitsway

Well done Jack! :T

Beenie When she said she was sorting something else out, did she mean for next week or forever! Does the school do an after school club you could suggest to her?
It wouldn't be so bad if the boys were friends. L and the stranges ones DD absolutely hated each other so i'd be bringing them home from school listening to them argue every night! :mad:

BeenieCat

Ahh thanks for all the replies, Fitz the voice of reason as ever.

3 that's totally the sort of thing i'd do but i can't hide away, she'll just ring me and ring me and then i'll end up seeing her at the school everyday anyway.

I've already pre-empted her response to every excuse i think up, and think i'm gonna be stuck forever :( The kid is a proper brat aswell and he is very condescending towards other kids (at 7yo!!), he argues with the kid from down the road when he's here and it's gonna end up causing bad feeling between me and my neighbour!! He's always making out to DS like he's better than him cos he has everything (they're loaded) and i'm always having to explain to DS that he's just showing off and that DS has a better life playing out and being a boy than having expensive clothes and computer games.

3onitsway wrote: »

Beenie When she said she was sorting something else out, did she mean for next week or forever! Does the school do an after school club you could suggest to her?
It wouldn't be so bad if the boys were friends. L and the stranges ones DD absolutely hated each other so i'd be bringing them home from school listening to them argue every night! :mad:

Just next week :( And she's separated from the husband so is always telling me "how hard" it is (they have 50/50 care) to sort out school pick ups????

Fitzio

Thanks Glam! And well done Jack for giving mummy a break (kind of)!

Holly managed until 3am then started crying in her sleep. I went in and the room was stinking. I can't remember her having a dirty nappy in her sleep ever, except when she had teeth come in and had 14 dirty nappies a day. I had to wake her up to change the flaming nappy. Most annoying. And it was the worst smelling nappy I have ever had - I was really gagging. I got her to go back down for an hour but she woke again at 4am so I ended up in the spare room too!

Well done Beenie - I think you have done the right thing. x

aless02

Becles wrote: »

Something edible? Thorntons have Dad stuff in.

Tesco are doing half-price boxes of Thorntons choccies - £2.50! :j

Fitzio, you are like the sage older sister of the thread sometimes - so full of wonderful, sound advice and wisdom.

Fitzio

No, I am just old and boring! I have little wisdom!

Sarah_Joanne

Well done Jack! And well done Holly! Bet you'll be watching her like a hawk now Fitz and she won't do it again for ages

Jakesmummy

Morning everyone,

Hope everyones ok?

Took jake for his school photos this morning and the photographer had forgot some equipment and were gonna be late so school offered to have them all day and give them some dinner! woo lol, so have got a bit of unexpected quiet time! still got jasmine but she's enjoying bein able to play, just hope jake eats some dinner today!

Beenie, do you think maybe you could "do a college course".. that happened to be on a wednesday afternoon?? I think it is taking the p tbh!
does she have your son over to hers at all, maybe wouldnt be so bad if you got a little break sometimes? she should really sort some proper childcare out!... or remember the law that came in about not being allowed to look after other peoples kids without crb checks etc, maybe you could get a letter through the post that warns you about this:whistle:make out like someones reported you lol!

I'm still up for the meet on the 7th too x