MSE Parents Club Part 12

BeenieCat

Would it be really cowardly to do it in a text?

Something like... "hiya, sorry i won't be able to keep having Brat every week from next week - *insert reason i can't think of here*"

brednall

Morning ladies.

My little girl is doing really well at 4 and a bit months old. She weighed 14lbs 7 ozs when she was weighed a couple of weeks ago.

I'm after a bit of advice really this morning. AS my husband is not getting any younger (he's 9 years older than me), we have discussed trying to grow our family sooner rather than later. Have any of you on here got children that are quite close together in age and has it worked for you? I've been trying to weigh it up in my own mind and I can argue both sides (ie waiting until our daughter is a bit older and also having 2 children close together) so no further down the line!

Regards

Emma

hammyhunter

csh wrote: »

Sami: My sister says in Leith. If you get really bored you can walk her dogs, she has 2 rhodesian ridgebacks.....lol

Oh, I love rhodesian ridgebacks, they are amazing dogs!

Sarah_Joanne wrote: »

Aww my baby just put his arms out towards me as I was holding him up standing on his change mat :A So so cute until he vomited down my cleavage! :eek::rotfl:

That is mega cute and mega icky all at the same time :rotfl:


Fitzio - :T well done Holly

Glam :TWell done Jack - I am so pleased for you that he had a good night.

It was a good night here too :T D went down at 6.30, had a feed at 12.00 then another small one at 2.30 then woke up at 6. It may not sound great to most of you but it is by far the best night here in a long time :rotfl:

Right, I need to get D dressed. I have my B12 injection shortly and need to get my backside moving

BeenieCat

Jakesmummy wrote: »

Beenie, do you think maybe you could "do a college course".. that happened to be on a wednesday afternoon?? I think it is taking the p tbh!
does she have your son over to hers at all, maybe wouldnt be so bad if you got a little break sometimes? she should really sort some proper childcare out!... or remember the law that came in about not being allowed to look after other peoples kids without crb checks etc, maybe you could get a letter through the post that warns you about this:whistle:make out like someones reported you lol!

She always says that in return she has my DS but my DS is soooo well behaved and respectful and her kid is not! So it doesn't feel equal lol, And i don't want her having him cos he always comes back in a foul mood or with a bad attitude.

I've thought about the college thing but there's 2 problems i can see...
1, she would prob change her hours and pick him up herself so would see me at the school and i have no one to pick him up for me... or

or 2, she'll offer to change her days so i can have him Thurs/any other day for her instead!!

Jakesmummy

BeenieCat wrote: »

She always says that in return she has my DS but my DS is soooo well behaved and respectful and her kid is not! So it doesn't feel equal lol, And i don't want her having him cos he always comes back in a foul mood or with a bad attitude.

I've thought about the college thing but there's 2 problems i can see...
1, she would prob change her hours and pick him up herself so would see me at the school and i have no one to pick him up for me... or

or 2, she'll offer to change her days so i can have him Thurs/any other day for her instead!!

You could say course starts at say 5ish so then you'd still see her but would be too much of a rush while your trying to sort kids teas ect, if she asks whos having your kids just say your sister maybe? then think of something else you'l be doing on the days she suggest, shes taking advantage of you because you're not working and its not fair.

Do you think you'd be able to tell her you're stressed with home life as it is without having the extra responsibilty, tell her you've alot on your plate at the mo, x

aless02

brednall, weezl recently had a baby less than 13 months after her first! And mel is due soon with her littlest boy being quite young. Also, i think pigpen might've had two of hers quite close together? Anyone else?

3onitsway

Fitzio wrote: »

Holly has gone from crawling position to sitting up 3 times since last night and we haven't seen her do it at all. DH thought I had sat her up and I thought he had!

That bit made me think of the (was it) KitKat advert with the bloke trying to get a pic of a panda. You'll be watching Holly waiting for her to sit herself up, then when you take your eyes off her for a second, she'll do some cartwheels and backflips then be back in crawling position when you turn back to her. :rotfl:

brednall wrote: »

Morning ladies.

My little girl is doing really well at 4 and a bit months old. She weighed 14lbs 7 ozs when she was weighed a couple of weeks ago.

I'm after a bit of advice really this morning. AS my husband is not getting any younger (he's 9 years older than me), we have discussed trying to grow our family sooner rather than later. Have any of you on here got children that are quite close together in age and has it worked for you? I've been trying to weigh it up in my own mind and I can argue both sides (ie waiting until our daughter is a bit older and also having 2 children close together) so no further down the line!

Regards

Emma

We have a few Mums with very small age gaps, Weezl (where are you?), Redmel, Sept.baby (and Krystal ) who i'm sure will offer good advice.

My older two have 3 1/2 years between them, then there's 8 1/2 years between no.2 and no.3.

I think theres benefits on both sides.
With the first two, i was used to lack of sleep and doing nappies so the baby just fitted in with our routine. And they're great friends most of the time.
With the 8+ year gap, it was a shock to go back to sleepless nights and poopy nappies, but the bigger two are less demanding, and at school so the baby got(is getting) more one to one time with me. And my big DD is very helpful with the baby.
I sometimes feel like I should have another so the baby doesn't grow up like an only child. I'm thinking when the baby is 8, DD1 will be 16 and DS 19 so they'll have absolutely nothing in common with her.

Sarah_Joanne

BeenieCat wrote: »

Would it be really cowardly to do it in a text?

Something like... "hiya, sorry i won't be able to keep having Brat every week from next week - *insert reason i can't think of here*"

If it helps you to be firm with it then do it that way. I wouldn't make something up that you will be doing that day as like you say she can offer to change her work days, I'd be honest and say you can't cope with looking after brat as well as your own two, so just won't be doing it any more. Then whatever she comes back with, you just say, I'm sorry but no, I won't be doing it any more.

BeenieCat

Ah thanks everyone, you all make it sound easy and i'm making it difficult cos that's my middle name nowadays.

I rang the HO about the noise last night and she said "well lets have ameeting and get you all together then".

Because that will help what??? They KNOW they are noisy. They KNOW it's their banging and TV noise. They KNOW it's affecting my life and making me upset and angry. So WHYYYYYYYYY do we need to sit in a meeting where they all sit there saying they've never made noise in their lives while i sit there like a muppet saying they do??? Is it me or is this really stupid?

I said i want the recording equipment and she said "well i don't think we're at that stage yet"/

........WHAT?! :eek:

Jakesmummy

BeenieCat wrote: »

Ah thanks everyone, you all make it sound easy and i'm making it difficult cos that's my middle name nowadays.

No i would find it awkward as well, hope you manage to sort something, tell Housing you would feel intimidated having a meeting and refuse, SM had the recording equipment I think at one stage?

Anyway am off out for a bit, 'see' you all later, x