MSE Parents Club Part 12

csh_2

Morning all. Beenie is alive and well and text me last night! Hooray!

Whoever asked after Kindof- shes quite active on FB so am assuming all is well.

Em- Any wedding I've been to thats been separate venues a bus has been put on free for the guests. 3 or 4 weddings I've been to like this and I thought it was the norm?? Possibly again regional variation or local custom?

eta: Krystal I'd wear jeans as I wear jeans just about everyday anyway!

Am off to baby group for the first time in ages today! My back feels up to sitting on the floor!
Have got chiro again today for more punishment

Fitzio

Morning all,

I was trying to count how many weddings I have been to and can count at least 35, so probably closer to 50 including the ones I can't remember from my younger days! So I am a serial wedding go-er lol. And it's never been the same person twice!!!

It is totally normal for guests to make their way from the church/ceremony to the reception venue afterwards. I have only been to 1 wedding where a bus was put on for this. Although a few weddings I have been to put a bus on for evening guests to collect at a central point if the wedding isn't local. Then a bus for going home again with a couple of drop off points. That's always been if there are lots of people invited from your local area, but your wedding venue is a bit out of the way. If everyone is spread out, then there's no point really.

I went to a wedding on an island once and the reception was back on the mainland, and everyone provided their own transport.

aless02

hammyhunter wrote: »

My little boy has been awake since 4.30 *yawn*. He is currently jumping up and down way too enthusiastically in his learn & groove. I am not sure he really is my son - this is not normal behaviour for anyone at such a ridiculously early hour

Hmmm, has David been teaching Finn tricks? 4:30 for us here, too (though I managed to stave off the worst of it with the booby until about 5:30 when he was just impossibly awake).

In fact, I'm going to be b!tchy and say the whole thing is actually DH's fault. I went in at around 4:10am to calm a crying baby - he was proving fairly difficult to get off to sleep (kept drifting off and then startling, which resulted in a short cry before drifting off again - cue this about 5 times over). Lately Finn has been waking up hideously early, so we've gotten into the bad habit of bringing him in to bed so we don't have to go to the effort of trying to get him back to sleep at 5am or so. Anyway, DH was being all foul-moody that I was keeping him awake by being in Finn's room trying to soothe him (!!!! !!!!!!, he sleeps through all the other wake-ups :rolleyes:). I tried to tell him if we brought Finn into bed that early, that he would be awake to play by 5:30, but DH sees it as an easy solution because he's not the one that has to lay next to a fidgety, kicky baby!! It really cheesed me off, because I see it as MY choice if I want to be out of bed trying to get Finn off instead of copping out and bringing him in - to me, it's a short term sacrifice in that at least once he gets to sleep I'll get another hour of proper sleep, rather than an hour of semi-dozing next to wiggle baby. Anyway, I was proved totally right when Finn wanted to giggle and play by 5:30 and DH promised to let me do it my way in the future :p.

Sorry, mini-rant turned long .

Fitzio

Csh - Hope chiropractor goes well and you can get back up if you sit down at Baby Group!

MFD/Glam - how are your shoulders/backs?

Krystal - I think jeans will probably be fine.

Ladybird - How did the crying go last night?

Bruno - What are Mrs Bruno's reasons for still BFing? Does she still get anything out of it herself, or is she doing it because she would feel guilty if she stopped? I am just trying to understand (not making any judgement) as I obviously haven't been in the situation myself. I thought it was partly a bonding thing between mum and baby, so if it's causing distress, then it sounds like it is having the opposite affect now and being destructive of their bond which kind of defeats the purpose. I am not sure I am expressing this very well.

SugarSpun

Hooray for all these babies hitting milestones! And their mummies!

Bruno, I'm sorry Mrs Bruno is finding it so hard. When I was about as pregnant as she is now, someone looking at my nipples was too much pressure on them they were so sensitive. I can't imagine feeding a baby. Would she think about expressing if she isn't ready to stop giving him breastmilk altogether?

Em, we had a reception a way away from the ceremony site and just made sure that everyone had a lift. We'd planned it in advance so that people without cars would go into cars with people they didn't know but who they had a lot in common with, and judging by the number of phone numbers/emails/FB exchanges it seems we did well.

Budapest is lovely - and Molly has two more teeth!! The two middle bottom ones are through, and the two top are still sitting just barely out of the gum where they've been for months. Husband woke me this morning though, he'd put his room keycard with his credit cards etc on the table and then didn't recognise it as a roomkey, so woke me up rummaging through my handbag to find mine because of course, since his wasn't in his pocket he must have responsibly put the one in the electricity slot in there and *I* was the ingrate who'd lost the other :rotfl:

And Germany trounced the Aussies last night :j although I would cheerfully ram vuvuselas down the windpipes of anyone inconsiderate enough to blow one. They sound like the matches are being cheered on by thousands of angry wasps.

got-it-spend-it

emlou2009 wrote: »

Baby proofing - we have two stairgates and thats it. Our lounge is quite big and leads to the kitchen and the stairs. One gate stops him getting in the kitchen and one stops him getting up the stairs! He only goes upstairs to sleep or have a bath, and if he is out of bed he is only ever in our room with the door closed. I cant see that changing so thats fine for us! I keep him out the kitchen cos thats where the cat food and the cleaning stuff cupboard is, and their litter tray is up in the bathroom along with a bit more cleaning stuff, so he has no access to anything dodgy

May I ask a non-child related wedding question?
For those of you that have got married or been guests at weddings, what happens when the reception venue isnt where the ceremony venue is? I have been looking at getting married in a hotel and holding the reception there as its all in one place and easy for guests, am I over thinking it all by thinking that might be a problem for people? What is common courtesy, are we meant to sort cars for everyone?
I have found a venue I like for the reception but they dont have a civil ceremony license so we would need to get married in the registry office.

We put on a minibus between our ceremony and reception venue which did a couple of trips for those who weren't driving. I think it is fine not to put on any transport though as people are driving are always happy to give lifts to those who aren't.

Krystaltips wrote: »

Morning all... In a funny mood this morning... Waiting for a friend to txt back about something...

Buggy fit this morning... It's the first one in this area... Should be interesting anyway... What do people wear to these things? I have some jogging bottoms but they tend to ride a bit high so I don't generally wear them for public viewing... Think I'd get away with jeans?

When I've seen Buggyfit in the park people always seem to be in gymwear, so I would say jogging bottoms, a t-shirt and trainers would be fine.

We don't seem to be able to get over out night waking here. It's always somewhere between 12-4 so quite random, and he always has a long feed then goes back to sleep. BF-wise H still has a 7am (before we get up), 10, 3, 7pm (bedtime) then one in the night. He also has three meals, of course. The 10am and 3pm tend to just be snacks though and he only feeds for a few minutes at these.

Bruno- FWIW I think Fitz's question is a good one. Is OH's primary motivation for still feeding E that it is an embedded part of his routine, or is it the bonding question, or that she is a firm believer in the health benefits or something else? I think answering this will help you develop a way forward. If it's the routine then maybe you giving him a cup of milk and a snack instead may help. If it's bonding then maybe OH can replace it with a story and cup of milk or similar and if she wants him to continue to receive the benefits then maybe express. It's a tough one, but I know when I was pregnant I couldn't have coped with feeding as well. It must be very energy draining too- I do still think BFing can be a bit draining and when I was pregnant I simply wouldn't have had any spare energy.

aless02

SugarSpun wrote: »

And Germany trounced the Aussies last night :j although I would cheerfully ram vuvuselas down the windpipes of anyone inconsiderate enough to blow one. They sound like the matches are being cheered on by thousands of angry wasps.

I was thinking of you while watching the match last night - good thing you're in Hungary! Poor Aussies (AF, where are you? ) Those horns drive me crazy while watching the games...fine if you're there in person, but must they really have the sound coming through on TV?!?!

Fitzio

Aless - poor you with your night time wakenings. I think that the only way to do it is if you and DH agree your plan of action first. I had Holly in the spare room again last night too as she woke up around 2am and I hadn't even fallen asleep by then! She just wants to cuddle in and will go back to sleep fine though so it is easier as well as being nice! But I am going to tackle it soon.

Have you thought about putting Finn to bed a bit later? What time do you put him down? I am sure you have been putting him to bed pretty early since he was quite young. Maybe letting him stay up a bit later would be better and then you can work backwards again knocking half an hour off every few days? When Holly went to bed at around 10pm, she always slept through til morning!! I miss those days lol. x

Glamazon

Sami - the creche structure is
8.15am ish - breakfast
9am - nap
10.30am snack (only a quarter of toast of half a banana)
11.30am lunch
12.30pm - nap
2pm - bottles
3.30pm - tea
Pick him up at 5.15pm

Jack is the only one who won't have his bottle! But I found out today they have some of the 10m jars so if he only has half his lunch or tea they are going to try him with a jar as well. I'd rather they wasted the food trying than him go hungry!
They are going to try him with a bottle as well cos apparently they gave him one Friday and he was sipping at it (they have the small bottles like they have for the newborns on labour ward).

He had half a banana before we left this morning as well and the breakfast when he got there. But he did bawl his eyes out this morning

Hugs for those up at early hours - we were up at 11pm and 4am!

Glamazon

Fitzio wrote: »

Aless - poor you with your night time wakenings. I think that the only way to do it is if you and DH agree your plan of action first. I had Holly in the spare room again last night too as she woke up around 2am and I hadn't even fallen asleep by then! She just wants to cuddle in and will go back to sleep fine though so it is easier as well as being nice! But I am going to tackle it soon.

Have you thought about putting Finn to bed a bit later? What time do you put him down? I am sure you have been putting him to bed pretty early since he was quite young. Maybe letting him stay up a bit later would be better and then you can work backwards again knocking half an hour off every few days? When Holly went to bed at around 10pm, she always slept through til morning!! I miss those days lol. x

I tackled it by putting a pillow either side of J in his cot so that he thought he was lying against me. I've now managed to move them both but he still has one under his head - will not go off to sleep without it. He sleeps on his side with one arm under the pillow :A

Oh and I feed him in his cot @ 11pm so he stayed there til 4am! :j