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newgirly

Hi Alex, yes weve already managed that, but she is very stubborn!

Went to the doctors who had rung gran before our appointment , gran then rang me to tell me the doctor had called and wanted to see her but she wasn't going. (Didn't tell gran I was in the waiting room ) told her I had to pick up ds2s asthma prescription and bumped into the doctor who wanted to check her "blood pressure" as any thing else would be too a no, upshot is she is going on Monday when my mum is back from holiday.

However I'd she declines help there is nothing that can be done apparently.

Aunt drove over from Suffolk and has found more personal hygiene issues that we had no idea about, its all pretty upsetting but gran seems not worried which I'm not sure is good or bad.

Dd is at theatre every night this week too so no early nights, families eh!

newgirly

Today has been the longest day ever.gran still really bad and ive spent literally about 10 hours on the phone to family\doctors\social services\dementia helplines. I've asked mum and dad to come home from holiday as they should be involved in these life changing decisions. I am disappointed I had to ask really grans life long best friend came and visited and is very upset at the state she is in , I'm getting an emergency call out doctor from our surgery in the morning plus I booked another appointment for Friday with her actual doctor as Monday is too longto wait.

So tired I'm not even sure if I'm making sense tonight.

AlexLK

I'm sorry to hear the news about your grandmother. Glad you've managed to get a friend to talk to her though.

newgirly

Getting ready to visit gran at 8am, parents are driving home from Devon this morning but doctor is not open this afternoon , I would rather they were there when we call out the doctor but not sure I should wait.

Tilly_MFW_in_6_YRS

Morning, I'm sorry to read you're going through all this. Dementia is such a difficult illness and it takes a while to determine the extent.

Good luck with the Dr and hopefully a way can be found, to give her the right level of care.

I'm not sure if this helps but I know from personal experience that on occasions you have to be tough, really tough, which is hard. My sister and I once arranged for my father to go into respite care for two weeks, to give mum a rest. If we hadn't, I truly believe she wouldn't be here now. It was extremely painful and sad but was the right thing to do.

Take care and I truly hope an acceptable outcome ifs found.

Best wishes Tilly x x

Arkers

As it's carers week it does focus the mind on how tough this can be, both emotionally and physically. I hope things get sorted and peace of mind is restored.

Pearla*Merle

Major hugs, newgirly. What a hard thing for you all to go through. Mr Merle's gran has quite severe dementia, but we've both experienced very ill grandparents and it can be so stressful. I hope things are resolved as best they can be soon. Thinking of you all xx

newgirly

Thanks so for the kind words everyone it's much appreciated

Parents are back now, however doctor has now said she wasn't come out but will send an assessment team which would be better. But she needs to ring gran and ask her permission :eek: mums waiting for a phone call now from the doctor. Edit just heard from her , assessment team coming today.

Back later after I've checked the accounts.

CathT

Hi Newgirly, hope all went well with the assessment team yesterday. Hope you have been able to take a title time out for yourself, this week sounds incredibly draining.

Alchemilla

Very big hugs for you.xxx