I'm pregnant and in shock

Pollycat

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I wasn't disputing the fact that the OP had made that statement.
I re-read confusedandemotional's 7 posts and found it there - I said as much in my earlier post.

The OP has made her decision.
From the words she's used:

After a lot of thought on both our parts, my decision is to not continue with the pregnancy.

they've talked it over and she (as is her right) has decided to end the pregnancy.

How do you know that she's doing something she'll later regret?
It's just as likely that she's doing something that she'll never regret.
It's the OP's decision to make and she's made it.

I think you're missing my point - by you saying:

I fear that this particular statement will be your final state of affairs

to the OP's statement:

I'll either be left holding the baby or have to live with the guilt of a termination alone

you're in effect saying that her partner will leave her.
There's nothing to suggest that this is the case.

Kate78

To the OP - wish you all the best, tough times x

AMILLIONDOLLARS

Pollycat wrote: »

AMD
I wasn't disputing the fact that the OP had made that statement.
I re-read confusedandemotional's 7 posts and found it there - I said as much in my earlier post.

The OP has made her decision.
From the words she's used:

they've talked it over and she (as is her right) has decided to end the pregnancy.

How do you know that she's doing something she'll later regret?
It's just as likely that she's doing something that she'll never regret.
It's the OP's decision to make and she's made it.

I think you're missing my point - by you saying:


to the OP's statement:

you're in effect saying that her partner will leave her.
There's nothing to suggest that this is the case.

I am not saying that, but it could be a possibility. If you read her other statement, she was not initially getting any feedback from her partner. [FONT=&quot]the person I need the most at this point in time does not seem to understand the enormity of what lies ahead. He has not made any effort to be with me, give me a hug, discuss options and tell me his own honest opinion. [/FONT] then suddenly a u-turn in the next statement says

[FONT=&quot]he has said that he has been thinking of all the factors in the meantime and is certainly not leaving it to me and so we'll come to a decision together.
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She seemed all for it before she spoke with her partner, next minute she had changed HER mind. We do not know what was said, we will never know unless she comes back and says it was the best decision SHE has ever made, but it could all go down the tube in the next couple of months and she'll be left with the two alternatives already stated.

AMD

confusedandemotional

Thanks for your comments.

It may seem contradictory but I was open and prepared to come to terms with becoming a parent, considering this is something I had never planned on doing... rather than immediately deciding that there is only one option. Yes, I said it wouldn't be the end of the world because it really wouldn't, but, the situation we are both in is less than ideal.

OH I believe was dealing with the news at a different speed to me and at first I took his silence as not being having an opinion either way, i.e. leaving me to decide alone. After pointing out that was how I felt, he said that he wasn't going to do this. That post was made at that particular point in time, how I was feeling then. We have had open discussion since. I have also spoken to a counsellor about it.

Whether it will be the best decision I ever made or something I regret for the rest of my life, I just don't know at this moment.

Thanks again x