I am a Bridezilla and my confession is....

Gemmzie

TamVilla80 wrote: »

If your new bridesmaid is smaller (and if you already have the dress but in a bigger size) could you not just get it altered to fit?

We could possibly but it's high street rather than a fitted bridesmaid dress IFSWIM, so by the time it's altered, it might look odd.
I wish she'd make a decision!

buddiebabe

Hey

Me and OH bumped into his mum and sister when they were shopping for his mums wedding outfit yesterday. They showed us the colour and i did a very convincing oooh thats lovely its such a nice colour it will look amazing..... YEAH CAUSE ITS THE COLOUR MY MUM PICKED AND YOU KNEW IT!!!!

OMG i was so angry but managed to get away from them without them seeing there was any problem before i lost it completely!! Now when we set the date my mum and dad had no money and were both really worried about how they were going to pay for things so i was at a wedding sale in a charity shop with future mother in law when we saw this gorgeous purple dress and jacket in my mums size for £15 so i bought it incase my mum would like it. When my mum tried it on she really liked it but it was a bit tight so she still has time to slim into it but her financial circumstances have changed now so she could go and buy a new outfit if she wanted to but as she liked this she decided she was going to slim down to get into it and she is nearly there.

The thing that really annoys me is that my future mother in law has the money that she can spent to buy whatever outfit she likes but my mum will need to still watch what she spends.... i cant believe that she has done this especially when we had only been talking the other day about what my mum was wearing

AAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!

Feel so much better i've got it off my chest now

Rant over :D:D

hp3

Hi All,

Ive been reading through some of the posts! I wouldnt say I'm a bridezilla as such. The only request me and my partner have made is that we would prefer not to have children to the church and reception. We dont have many children in the family anyway but a few of our friends have children. Most people have agreed with us and said its a good idea as they will be bored out of their minds and it's a grown up part of the day. I deceided to tackle the subject with one of my bridesmaids, who at the time was trying for a baby but not pregnant. I thought this would be the best time as if she didn't like the idea she had time to come round. As expected she didnt take it very well at all. All she could say was 'well I wanted children at my wedding' cutting a long story short after much explaining I told her if she really didn't like the idea then dont come, it wasnt what I wanted as she was an important part of the day but I told her that it was mine and my partners wedding not hers and thats what we had decided. She seems to have come round now after I told her not to come if she couldnt leave her child for a day. I wasn't prepared to do something we didn't want to please just one person. everyone else we know who has children said they are glad to have the day off and relax! I am nornally such a wuss and do everything to please everyone so I was really please I stuck to my guns on this one!! So actually yes i am a bridezilla lol!!

ellay864

Ohh the dreaded children-not-invited scenario!! There's been so many threads on this one! I'm totally with you hp3 - I also don't want kids at mine, though luckily with me being an 'older bride' most of my friends have kids that are well on the way to being grown up. The one friend with young kids (4&2) is more than happy to leave them for the day. The only exception I've made is my brother who only became a dad last month and will be travelling 300 miles, and he knows my feelings so I know if baby starts crying him or his gf will take him outside. tbh it's toddlers that are usually worse as they get bored and make that very clear very loudly!!
The only thing that annoys me is when brides say they don't want kids then get upset if friends decline invites. They don't seem to understand that for a parent their child will take priority over the wedding - it's the bride's prerogative not to invite children, but she must then accept and respect the feelings of a parent who won't leave their child. But good for you on sticking to what you want and not throwing a hissy over it

hp3

Thank you Ellay! I completely agree with you on her children being a priority and of she is not able to leave them i fully understand and would never hold it against her. She hasnt said she isnt coming and is talking about her bridesmaid dress so I think she's thought its not all bad. Nice to hear others have the same thoughts on children. I agree with the toddlers thats part of our desision as majority of the ones will be 2/3 years old arrrg. As much as I love children they cannot be entertained through a whole wedding day.

codemonkey

Totally agree here. IMO the whole ceremony aspect of a wedding isn't really designed to keep little ones organised. Its boring enough if you're a grown up. Similarly I don't want my wedding meal and speeches interupted by toddlers. Cinsequently, the only littlies invited are ones that I know will be removed by their parents.

The others are welcome to come to the evening.

Birdie85

buddiebabe wrote: »

Hey

Me and OH bumped into his mum and sister when they were shopping for his mums wedding outfit yesterday. They showed us the colour and i did a very convincing oooh thats lovely its such a nice colour it will look amazing..... YEAH CAUSE ITS THE COLOUR MY MUM PICKED AND YOU KNEW IT!!!!

That's completely not on! Something needs to be said, if not by you (since she's not your Mum) then by your OH. Aside from the money issue, it is protocol that the Mother of the Bride gets first pick of colours! Even the Queen had to wait for Mrs Middleton to choose her colours before she could get her outfit!

twirlypinky

I confess, i'm a bridezilla.

My h2b has been so good being involved in things wedding wise, interested in things, loves my felt and button flowers etc etc. The only thing he's not helped on is the invites and info sheets. He makes all the right noises, but actually hasn't had any input. We argued about the invites and in the end i just did them on vistaprint and luckily he liked them (it's hard to please an ex professional printer) and now he's doing my head in with the info sheets. I wrote them. I found the info to put on them. I searched and searched for decent maps for them... He looked at them once a couple of weeks ago and told me he didn't like my wording on something so i changed it, and that he wanted to change the timing of one of our guests and us meet ups. He then, after much badgering, looked at them again last night and wanted to change the timing back!!

I'm really stressed at work at the moment, the wedding is stressing me out, I'm not sleeping properly and constantly tired and I'm sick of us living in a tiny shoe box house with no room for anything. I just can't wait now until we're married and i can at least knock one of these stresses on the head!

becca0417

It does not matter that my 2 bridesmaids who have had shoulder length hair for the past 15 years have both just had it cut off so that it can no longer be put up. It does not matter. Hair grows back.
ARRRRRGGGGHHHHHHH!!!!

Curious_George_2

I am really upset today,
we had an idea that OHs family (mum and dad and 4 adult sisters + familys) wouldnt come to the wedding, theres been no fall out (yet) or anything but they just cant ever seem to be bothered with him, he doesnt get birthday cards let alone a present or even a text off any of them when hes been rushed into hospital, so expecting them to make the effort to come 300 miles and get a b&b etc just didnt seem likely.
especially as last year we went up there (time off work, 600 mile round trip with 2 children, family room at travel lodge etc) to OHs cousins wedding and despite it being 10 minutes from all the family they didnt bother going so it would be fair to say we were not too convinced they would make it to ours.

well we have had nearly all our RSVPs back except the ones from his family, so we messaged them all and heard nothing, messaged again saying we need numbers for the venue... heard nothing, so i facebooked his youngest sister last night and got the reply today that mum and dad arent coming, shes not coming, 2 of the other sisters and their familes arent coming and they didnt want to tell us as we would turn our noses up at them for not being able to afford it!!!!!
im in shock,
getting a no is one thing but saying we would be funny with them about it is ridiculous, we have had to miss out on loads of parties and christenings and stuff up there because we didnt have the money to attend... i dont know where they have got the idea we would turn our noses up at them but the idea that all those blood related adults would rather just ignore us and hope it all went away than say sorry, times are hard etc is unbelieveable....
OH had 2 best men to start with and one of them has had to drop out due to money problems and we understood.
OH has been on sick pay for the best part of a year, i dont know anyone in more debt than us.... so believe me, we understand

he was really hoping that they would really make the effort this once, but now ive got to tell him not only are they not coming but they think we are snobs now because we had the nerve to invite them to a posh looking but VERY low budget wedding.