I am a Bridezilla and my confession is....

tillyenna

Stephb1986 wrote: »

You could have a sensory display with no/little sound to it. Fireworks aren't illegal in public parks if you get the right permit and permission off who ever owns it, I know because I'm a pyrotechnist lol this is our website for wedding fireworks http://myweddingfireworks.com/

Steph x

Tbh it's the light that I have more problem with than the sounds. My friends took me to see a firework display once and found it pretty funny (it was pretty funny) that I spent most of the time with my hands over my ears and my eyes shut!!


I've got nothing against fireworks for other people... they're just not for ME, and it bugged me that my mum would think of putting something in MY wedding (/OUR whoops) that wasn't something that I would like... she tends to think of what she would like in my wedding instead.

redfragglebiker

tillyenna wrote: »

I hadn't thought of the wooden spoon - brilliant plan! My mother's LATEST escapade has been to post all over facebook with a link to 'wedding firework displays' stating how lovely it would be if we had one...
um... firstly, I have sensory processing disorder... this means firework displays make my head hurt. Also, we are having our reception in a PUBLIC PARK which makes fireworks illegal


She too is always saying how she 'doesn't feel she's doing enough' which I'm pretty sure is code for 'why aren't you letting me do anything' as it always comes out when I mention my future mother in law (who isn't doing anything except gifting me some old fabric for my dress)


I try to tell her that NO-ONE is doing anything. It's not a big fancy wedding... it's really chilled out (because my dream wedding is a wedding I don't need to stress about and I won't feel sick when paying for... so far, we're doing well at both of these) BUT she doesn't listen. She's coming up to visit next month to see the reception venue and go to our church with us - I'm hoping this will make her feel more involved.


Mothers ey? Who'd have 'em... (actually mine was fine before the engagement... the wedding has sent her barmy)

Who'd have them indeed. My mum can wind me up something chronic at times, however we'd JUST got to the point of learning how to give each other a bit of slack... then he proposed! This seems to have turned my Mum into an absolute raving nutter! I get that she wants to be involved and she's worried about feeling a bit left out due to distances but I've already told her I'll need her help closer to the time when I come to choose flowers, jewellery, table centres, dresses and all other kinds of stuff. For some reason her brain has got stuck on cake. It's like having a broken record and it's seriously driving me mad. I'm half tempted not to have damned wedding cake at this rate!

redfragglebiker

Oh and she's also decided she doesn't like the colour of the bridesmaids shoes? We've not chosen any yet I only casually mentioned that the most probable idea was a satin court in the same colour as the bridesmaid dresses!

tillyenna

redfragglebiker wrote: »

Oh and she's also decided she doesn't like the colour of the bridesmaids shoes? We've not chosen any yet I only casually mentioned that the most probable idea was a satin court in the same colour as the bridesmaid dresses!

LOL, it's funny - they get these things in their heads don't that! Mine is also suggesting that she do the flowers... I have told her countless times that we aren't having any... and I don't think it's getting through


That being said my groomzilla nearly had a panic attack the other day when he realised that my MoH was probably going to change her hair colour again (she always dyes her hair fantastically bright colours, would look rubbish on me and looks amazing on her) and he worried that she was going to have a hair colour that would clash with MY skintone... um... strange boy. (Luckily, she is going for platinum blonde over the summer so it will look fine)

redfragglebiker

Hahaha Tillyenna - they do get some funny ideas indeed. On the other hand my MIL has been brilliant, They've gifted us some money towards things as they wanted to contribute but have said that we're to spend it however we want as it's our day not theirs. I've not mentioned this to my mum in case she comes out all competetive! I actually think his folks are half the reason for her crazyness thought. My mum doesn't have a lot of money whereas his parent have been fortunate with some busoness decidions that were made by his granddad many years ago. I've got a horrible suspicion that part of her getting all het up about things is that she doesn't want to feel like she can't offer as much as his folks so wants to make up for it by being more helpful so to speak. Problem is she's doing the exact opposite. Might try and have a nice chat with her this eve as much as I can and offer her some other things I know she CAN help with before I bring up the not doing the cake business. Thing is she;s been in event management for years so on the actual day she's likely to be one of my most important helpers as she knows how to deal with those last minute disasters like no one else I know!

tillyenna

Ugh! Money is a whole nother issue isn't it? Weddings are like a political minefield... I feel I'd be qualified to run for secretary of the UN after negotiating families LOL
We've already told all parents/grandparents that they are NOT allowed to contribute to the wedding, HOWEVER, if they want to gift us an amount of money on the occasion of our marriage, then that's fine. That way they can still give us stuff, but we retain control of the wedding! It's worked pretty well actually!

tatabubbly

Just charted out.... Only €15,984 more to save.. Jaesus thats a big number.. I know I said I'd go all out.. And I know the OH wants his big day but why the bloomin heck is Ireland so expensive??? (believe me, I tried to make the budget small)..


My bridezilla rant is an ebay related one.. I hate automatic bidding! yesh...

littlesnuggy

Is it bridezilla-ish to be annoyed that the shop I've ordered my dress from has relocated from 5 minutes walk from my house to over an hour's drive away? Ordered my dress in February, got a phonecall out of the blue today informing me. Going for fittings, accessory trying-on, storing/collecting dress is now not going to be nearly as convenient. *sigh*

Sazzarella

My bridesmaid just told me she been trying for a baby for the last few months. I've already bought her bm dress!!

minerva_windsong

Sazzarella wrote: »

My bridesmaid just told me she been trying for a baby for the last few months. I've already bought her bm dress!!

Is she actually pregnant yet? Has she actually said she doesn't want to be a bridesmaid if she were pregnant/had a young baby at the time of the wedding? If she didn't, how long could you wait before she made the decision and return the dress/find another bridesmaid who it would fit?

Obviously it helps to know these things - I've known one of my bridesmaids was trying for a baby for a while, but it's only recently she's said she's definitely not going to be a bridesmaid - and it is a bit annoying she didn't tell you until now, but all may not be lost yet...