Moving in with boyfriend

loracan1

I think somewhere in the middle of paying half your boyfriend's rent and a quarter is in order here - does that make it 1/6? Not sure on the maths. I say that because although you're sharing a room with your boyfriend you're also sharing the bathroom and kitchen with the other flatmates, 4 people in what is a 3 person flat is going to be more pushed for space.

Having said that, if it's the flatmates' suggestion that you pay a quarter it might just be best to settle for that.

orangeslimes

loracan1 wrote: »

I think somewhere in the middle of paying half your boyfriend's rent and a quarter is in order here - does that make it 1/6? Not sure on the maths. I say that because although you're sharing a room with your boyfriend you're also sharing the bathroom and kitchen with the other flatmates, 4 people in what is a 3 person flat is going to be more pushed for space.

Having said that, if it's the flatmates' suggestion that you pay a quarter it might just be best to settle for that.

it would need to be more than 1/6 as that is half of 1/3.

but I think somewhere in the middle would be fair.

If my flatmate's girlfriend tried to move in then I would be annoyed if they just split his rent halfway.
I think you really have to accept whatever the other flatmates want, especially as its only supposed to be temporary.

edit: actually my other flatmate's girlfriend did stay with us for a month and she paid 1/6 of the rent (usually a five person flat) but she didn't pay any of the bills which I thought was fairish.

KS1977

ste_coxy wrote: »

hmmmm i personally am on your side: I think you should be paying half of what your boyfriend is paying now. You are sharing a bedroom and so should be in turn not paying 1/4 of the overall rent.

I guess it is a matter if you can be bothered to stand your ground if you know it's gonna cause arguments or not.

I'd say you should be paying equally towards the food/bills etc coz if you are making use of them then that is only fair however, if you are only sharing a room then you should be only paying half each for the room not 1/4 of the overall rent

don't be scared to stand your ground and ignore the bozos telling you should be "grateful" for a roof over your head... snides!

I don't mean to be rude or anything, but I mentioned 'a roof over her head' and I have you know I am not a Bozo!!! Keep your derogatory comments to one side thanks

KS1977

MissMess wrote: »

Thanks everyone for their helpful comments so far. I think I will just agree to the rent, as it would be much better for the sake of arguments etc. I have known his flatmates for quite some time too and have lived with them in the past.

I am concerned though, with quite a few people saying that I should avoid a joint account, though. Many estate agents ask for a joint account from which to pay rent from (foxtons, etc) so how do others get round this?

The joint account is fair I think. At the end of the day it is entirely up to you whether you have one or not, but there is nothing wrong with setting up a separate account in which you both have money transferred from your current accounts (enough to cover mortgage, bills etc). That way you still have your own money and current account and so will your BF.

DVardysShadow

KS1977 wrote: »

The joint account is fair I think. At the end of the day it is entirely up to you whether you have one or not, but there is nothing wrong with setting up a separate account in which you both have money transferred from your current accounts (enough to cover mortgage, bills etc). That way you still have your own money and current account and so will your BF.

In which case, make sure it is basic ie no overdraft

KS1977

DVardysShadow wrote: »

In which case, make sure it is basic ie no overdraft

Yes definitely. I agree :-)

cashbackproblems

I personally think your bfs being a t*** if hes asking you to pay rent and your just staying for a short period of time, sure you have to chip in with rent/food but as you said your just sharing his room. I wouldnt charge my gf any rent.

JA1000

When he stayed at your place did you charge him rent? Just say it's not worth it and looked to rent else where. Even if just bluffing.

dopester

MissMess wrote: »

My landlord came round a few weeks ago, to tell us he was selling the house. My flatmate and I were a bit shocked as previously he had told us we could extend our lease agreement for another year - but so be it! He has also asked us to accept a reduction in notice period to 30 days. We have agreed to this reduction informally, although not signed a new cotract as yet. I understand that the property has now been sold STC - bumped into the surveyor the other morning as I was having my morning cup of tea (thank you estate agents!).

Do NOT be bullied into accepting less notice than you are legally entitled to.

The notice to end a shorthold tenancy by your landlord also has to be served correctly for it to even be valid. Some amateur landlord telling you on the fly to get ready to move out on their say-so after 30 days is not acceptable.

If you accept that sort of thing, you're just providing full entertainment to some bozos here, who talk about you being grateful to others for providing a roof over your head in a scrambled rush to find another place to live.

Just because your landlord is selling or has sold STC, doesn't mean he can boot you out without following proper procedures.

Fire_Fox

I agree with Dopester, you are entitled to two months notice and it saves you living out of a suitcase. You don't have the option not to pay a quarter of the rent at your boyfriend's house, he has clearly discussed it with his housemates and that is what they all think is reasonable. You cannot expect him to fall out with his housemates over what share of the rent you pay for a month when they are doing you a favour. No offense but I wouldn't really want you moving in, a couple changes the dynamics in a household and girls are invariably slow in the bathroom!!