Moving in with boyfriend

KS1977

Hi,
I think that just for arguments sake, you pay the 1/4 of the rent. At the end of the day hun, at least you will have a roof over your head. It seems that really there might be a danger of you risking arguments and falling out in your relationship and that's not really what you want. I also think that it might cause ructions between your fella and his mates, which again, you don't really want. It's probably best for you to keep the peace. Have you asked his mates what they think to you paying less? I think you should, just to see what their thoughts are. Surely another 5 months is worth it if it means you will be moving in with the BF anyway at that time? Hope you sort it.

lizzielondon

alternatively you could ask the ll to serve 2 months notice, giving you 2-3 months in the property instead of 30days giving you longer to find somewhere for you and your OH on your own?

when is the earliest he could leave his tenancy?

ste_coxy

hmmmm i personally am on your side: I think you should be paying half of what your boyfriend is paying now. You are sharing a bedroom and so should be in turn not paying 1/4 of the overall rent.

I guess it is a matter if you can be bothered to stand your ground if you know it's gonna cause arguments or not.

I'd say you should be paying equally towards the food/bills etc coz if you are making use of them then that is only fair however, if you are only sharing a room then you should be only paying half each for the room not 1/4 of the overall rent

don't be scared to stand your ground and ignore the bozos telling you should be "grateful" for a roof over your head... snides!

getmore4less

Don't get a joint account.

If you don't like the terms moving in, don't move in.

boliston

MissMess wrote: »

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My landlord came round a few weeks ago, to tell us he was selling the house. My flatmate and I were a bit shocked as previously he had told us we could extend our lease agreement for another year - but so be it! He has also asked us to accept a reduction in notice period to 30 days. ...

You have a statutory notice period of two months which cannot be reduced, even if you were to sign a "contract" as statute law always "trumps" contract law.

bristol_pilot

I think you should pay 1/4 of the rent, this will see the housemates' share of the rent drop from 1/3 to 1/4 which is fair compensation for having their housemate move his gf in. You are lucky that they are agreeing to you moving in at all, as every houseshare I've ever lived in has had a rule that a partner could not be moved in. If you want to pay half your bf's rent, get a place together. Couples and houseshares don't often mix well.

Whatever you do - do not ever ever ever get a joint account with another person.

MissMess

Thanks everyone for their helpful comments so far. I think I will just agree to the rent, as it would be much better for the sake of arguments etc. I have known his flatmates for quite some time too and have lived with them in the past.

I am concerned though, with quite a few people saying that I should avoid a joint account, though. Many estate agents ask for a joint account from which to pay rent from (foxtons, etc) so how do others get round this?

Sammy85_2

I think the fair think is you should pay half of your boyfriends rent, plus utilities equal to what everyone else pays.

Sit down with your boyfriend and housemates and discuss it. Im sure if they dont agree you can come to some kind of a compromise.

In the mean time start looking for something together, then hopefully any stay with his housemates will be as short as possible.

As for the joint account, it makes things like bills much easier, but you must be aware of the implications, ie. either of your debts will affect each others ratings whilst the financial link exists. You must remove the link should you split, it wont disappear on its own.

My fiance and i have a joint account, which we both pay into each month and all joint bills and mortgages come from that. That way we both still have our own accounts. For us the joint account wasnt such a big deal as we're already financially linked though the mortgages.

lizzielondon

boliston wrote: »

You have a statutory notice period of two months which cannot be reduced, even if you were to sign a "contract" as statute law always "trumps" contract law.

they can both agree to end the tenancy early if it's what they both want though? it seems the ll has requested 30 days and the tenant has agreed

anotherginger

i think you should pay for a quarter of the rent even though you are sharing a room. they probably would prefer not to be living with a couple. you will be using the rest of the house, you aren't just paying for the room.

theres less room for arguments if everyone pays the same, theres no hard feelings, and acts as compensation for the extra wait to make dinner, have a shower, watch tv etc.

basically, suck it up and pay.