MSE Pregnancy Club 18

delain

I agree with Molly on the social services... the last thing you want is them on your case as well as all this! Not that you're doing anything wrong, but you shouldn't need the added stress of visits.

You know we all worry about you and that's for you, not anyone else!

pigpen

Molly41 wrote: »

Ok I know that Im going to risk an ear bashing but try and engage with the midwives - on your terms. I know how the system works and their protocols will be put into place which will mean working with the mental health teams and perhaps Social Services. Now there is only so much shouting through doors that can be done and perhaps you will get the care YOU want by engaging. Im sorry but i just dont think you are doing yourself any favours right now.

I know that if you presented to me, as your midwife, and told me all your symptoms as detailed here I would be very concerned about your health and you would probably be in hospital - particularly the bleeding. Have you told them all your symptoms? I do know that you are very frightened and have had very bad experiences but in order for people to help you you need to engage.

I've told them everything and all they are interested in is the baby.. the fact I feel like I do is being totally disregarded.. they want me in hospital to 'observe me'.. what am I? A zoo exhibit???

soappie wrote: »

I don't think that's what you REALLY want. I think you want the babe to be born and you to feel better. I also wonder if you're disappointed that it wasn't born last Friday when it seemed to be the optimum time with respect to your family arrangements?

As to the mental health team coming out, I thinkyou may find that if you don't let them in, they'll end up breaking in and sectioning you. All they need is a doctor, a psychiatrist and a back up policewagon... oh - they may need a social services rep too...

Last Friday would have been awful.. children home and noone to look after them..

my uncle fought tooth and nail to get help for his schitzophrenic daughter when she was running naked through the street in the middle of the night with a kitchen knife.. I doubt they will be carting me off to the nut house for being unwell, fed up and in pain.

soappie

pigpen wrote: »

I've told them everything and all they are interested in is the baby.. the fact I feel like I do is being totally disregarded.. they want me in hospital to 'observe me'.. what am I? A zoo exhibit???

Then give in gracefully, go to hospital and let them keep an eye on you. At least they might be able to help drain your bladder by giving you a catheter. They might even be able to make you feel better.

pigpen

there is nothing to drain.. there is nothing being produced

soappie

pigpen wrote: »

there is nothing to drain.. there is nothing being produced

Then they can put you on dialysis and flush it out your veins.

OlipopsMummy

Just popping in to let you know baby Freya Rose was born on her due date yesterday. she weighed 9 pound 9 and arrived after a 2 hour labour fast but horrifying in pain terms as was too late for any releif etc. shes perfect and happy. not posted much but been an avid lurker so thanks to all you ladies for the hep you provide everyone else who comes on here.

pukkamum

PP i really think you need to swallow your pride and ask them for help are you really willing to put yours and your baby's life at risk to prove a point.
I'm sorry i know you have had some bad experiences but having been through a baby tragedy myself i cannot understand why any woman would ignore these warning signs.

You must be producing urine, you just cannot empty your bladder so you need a catheter, you say baby is fine becasue you can feel it moving well i for one know how quickly fine can turn to very not fine.

How does your OH feeel about this i know my DH would be dragging me to hospital rather than risking losing his wife and child.
You say they want to observe you well that is to make sure that you and the baby are fine, i'm afraid if you were my OH i would be using tough love and telling you to get yourself sorted before it's too late.

Molly41

pigpen wrote: »

I've told them everything and all they are interested in is the baby.. the fact I feel like I do is being totally disregarded.. they want me in hospital to 'observe me'.. what am I? A zoo exhibit???



Last Friday would have been awful.. children home and noone to look after them..

my uncle fought tooth and nail to get help for his schitzophrenic daughter when she was running naked through the street in the middle of the night with a kitchen knife.. I doubt they will be carting me off to the nut house for being unwell, fed up and in pain.

I think you need to be in hospital too for observation x

ManOnTheMoon

OlipopsMummy wrote: »

Just popping in to let you know baby Freya Rose was born on her due date yesterday. she weighed 9 pound 9 and arrived after a 2 hour labour fast but horrifying in pain terms as was too late for any releif etc. shes perfect and happy. not posted much but been an avid lurker so thanks to all you ladies for the hep you provide everyone else who comes on here.

Congrats :T

Hope to see you over on the parents thread sometime.

emsywoo123

**Braces herself**

Pigpen, you have been a tower of strength for many on this and other threads, but you do not and can not know everything, and cannot be right every time.

As far as everyone on this thread can see, now is one of those times.

Stop saying no, and just go in.

However pee'd off you are with the hospital and concerned you are for your and/or baby's welfare, you are putting yourselves in more danger by ignoring advice.

Mental health team? You won't open the door? Oh well I'm sure they'll just think "she's fine" and leave you alone-not!

Get KH or the older ones to look after the younger ones and just go in now.

I really think this is something you will regret if you do not.

Aaaaaaaand hides again behind sofa........