MSE Pregnancy Club 18

kitkat5566

CAFCGirl wrote: »

KK - (Sorry lurking again) if you're feeling pressured and stressed out about it due to MIL's unreasonable latest demand then it probably wont work out for you, I was so stressed out with breastfeeding in the hospital, and Im pretty sure that if I hadn't been so hyped up with negative emotion, then Landen and I would have managed it. Im convinced he can pick up on my emotional state..... so point out to OH (and tell him he can tell MIL) that because of all the pressure shes putting you under, if breastfeeding doesnt work out it'll be all her fault....
That'll soon shut her up (hopefully, well until the next thing no doubt)

I was bottlefed and I dont think Im lacking in any way.... well maybe apart from height but I blame that on my genetics, not my feeding regime as a tot!

Thanks Cafc and Tickle and everyone else, its good to hear I am not the only one with the EVIL MIL I know exactly what you mean Cafc, I am the type of person who cracks under pressure so I will make sure if I see her again I say what you said, or just avoid her altogether! As far as I can see the only drawback with formula is the cost! I was BF for several months then on to formula, and my health is terrible! I have basically lived in hospital all my life! MIL didnt look happy when OH bought out the sterilser we have bought, she squacked 'why do you need that' lol.

Thanks Smartie for sharing how you met Blowing Bubbles thats sooo sweet and thanks everyone else for sharing, its amazing how many people have met online.

Me and my OH met through strange circumstances online; my friend from school who knew him as they both were training for RAF introduced us online as he didnt live near us. She introduced me to him as I used to make her laugh in class and as OHs dad had just passed away he was going through a tough time so she thought I could cheer him up. We became inseperable, chatting online all the time, texting and phoning each other. When we arranged to meet it just felt right 8 years later we are still together we have lived together over 3 years and obviously having our first baby together he never did go in the RAF! I think I am to blame for that! :rotfl:

On_The_Edge

emsy - it was a negative "Oh I will have to speak to my manager about it and let you know, as with the job there is lifting and this can cause a prob later in pg"
My old job involved a lot of lifting (furniture) and this one is boxes of patients files. I was on the understanding that if its something you do all ready its ok. Or do you become crippled and lose all strength the furthur along you get?

Sorry but its really worried me.

kitkat5566

Oh yes.. I was going to add.. Re: baby outfits; all my baby will wear initially will be baby grows, sleepsuits and jackets/ cardys over the top. I am sure I will end up buying a couple of outfits, but probably until the baby is one year old it will live in sleepsuits!

On a different subject... I bought a couple of baby toys cheap today; Lamaze Freddy the Firefly and Patty the Panda. My OH has not stopped playing with them! Lol!! Poor baby wont get a look in!

pigpen

Pic of a big fat stripeddy heifer... 33.5 weeks of lard!

threatened one t'other day and only just remembered!

the bit that sticks out furthest is a pair of feet.. size 11's at least!

kitkat5566

Nice bump Pigpen not a heifer at all!!

MERFE

morning everyone x

On the edge I was already pregnant with my first when I started a new job. I didn't know till after I started, then took nearly the whole first 3 months off sick - I was really bad. The only way it affected me was I had to have maternity allowence rather than SMP. They were really good at work about it. It was a call centre so not at all physical. I think with the lifting thing it is different in pregnancy unfortunately. I did not lift anything at work for the first 3 months but then I was overly cautious because of previous mc. Later on the hormones released to make sure baby can get out mean it could be easier to hurt yourself but it really depends and I think you should be able to decide if you think something is too heavy, although work might just say you shouldn't be lifting anything because they will not want to be responsible if you damage you back or something.

With MILs I couldn't stand mine and have long had problems with her, mostly because when OH and I were going through a bad patch she kept telling him 'well you always have a bed here if you want to move back', when really she should have been giving him a kick up the bum to grow up and be a proper husband and dad and stop acting like a ruddy child. Luckily he grew up of his own accord. Fast forward to this baby and my mum who lives 15 mins away has decided it is a good time to go on holiday when the baby is due, using her grandparents leave from work (can you tell I am just a little !!!!ed off by this). So that leaves us a bit stuck for childcare if I'm in hospital for a few days, we would have managed but OH would not have been able to visit much. Now MIL is coming over 200 miles and staying at our house the day I'm due to go in, not sure how long she'll stay for but I do know one of the mums in DD class will do the school run for us as she goes passed the house everyday and has said as much, which will help alot in the early days.

On_The_Edge

Pigpen you look lovely (I love your bracelets)

Thanks for your comments re: work. Will pop on this eve and let you know how it goes if I hear anything today.

Come on Sammy I really hope your having mummy cuddles.

All you others that are overdue big labour vibes

Krystaltips

I found out I was pregnant shortly after starting a new job (for which I was headhunted and they increased a pay offer to meet what I had been on previously) All of a sudden they decided I "wasn't a team player" and let me go... I couldn't prove it was because of the pregnancy so couldn't do anything about it...

Turned out they did me a favour... I was still elligible for MA (just scraped through!) and by the time DD1 was born I was so used to living on a tight budget I didn't have to rush straight back into work like I would have done if my expenses had still been at working level.

Plus they re-located offices a short while after I left and the journey to work would have taken twice as long and cost twice as much....

As for MILs... Mine is pure poison... She's so bad her children were taken into care and she has only ever been allowed "supervised access" She uses money as a weapon over all her children and was not at all pleased when Hubby and I got together and he gave up smoking and suddenly wasn't reliant on borrowing the odd tenner here and there... She even tried to ruin our wedding... She's seen DD2 once... And we won't be telling her about the new baby..

smartie12

Awwww Pigpen what a lovely bump!!:D I was expecting you to look like an elephant or something:p

I'll get DH to take a pic when he gets back from work.

I'm starting to worry about hospital tomorrow *gives herself a slap*:o:( Need to get some sweeties to put in my bag just in case :)

lozchops

This is only my third day of been overdue and I am sooooo fed up! I know that baby will come in her own time (or I'll have to be induced, which I would like to avoid), but it's so bad when I was convinced she'd be early like me and my husband! All overdue women - you have my sympathies!!!!!!!

Had red hot chilli and even attempted sex last night!

Oh my goodness - that was difficult when you weigh almost 2 1/2 stone more than you did! I was out of breath!!!! (sorry if tmi )

Nice bump PP!

OTE - hope work is more supportive today.

Smartie - *hugs* am sure all will be well tomorrow, fingers crossed for you getting a scan. I know what you mean about bonding, I only found out last week that ours was a girl when I had a wellbeing scan at 39 weeks. We *thought* it was a girl and the sonographer at 20 weeks *guessed* girl, but it is nice to know (watch the sonographer be wrong now lol)! I have gone a bit mad with pink clothes and think that I have WAY too many newborn and 0-3 months now Oh and pack those sweeties, you deserve them!

Sorry that was a long post when all I do is lurk normally