MSE Pregnancy Club 18

CL · 29 May 2010 at 9:19AM

I'm supposed to be going to a hen weekend when I'll be 17 weeks. I've just been told one afternoon will be spend at a farm, milking etc. Is there any reason why this wouldn't be safe? My DH doesn't really want me to go (TBH neither do I) as he thinks there are bound to be risks. I've seen someone milking a cow get kicked by the cow before.

rach · 29 May 2010 at 9:24AM

hi all

I wanted a lie in but was awake about 8, never mind though. parents are meeting me in about an hour for a wander up the high st. dh is still asleep and will probably go for a run when he's up.

I have identified a possible holiday cottage for our hols in a months time, just need to get an ok off DH before I book it - tempted to just do it as he'll agree whatever! so worried it will go and seems nice! Maybe i should stop creeping around and see if he wakes up!!

can't remember if i said last night but mothercare world is closed for the weekend so going to look for prams at babys r us. Hope my mum doesn't scupper my ideas with the 'oh it's so nice when they face you when they're little; thing... I will take her on a busy bus later and that might swing it! Then later me and mum are going to go through all the clothes we have (she turned up with some more on thurs) and make a list, see what's missing. think we'll also try and pick up the boots change bag and maybe the tesco thing too.

SuzyWuzy_2 · 29 May 2010 at 9:27AM

CL - If theres any sheep then its best to stay away. There's a risk with sheep during lambing season and pregnant women. We're advised to stay away.
Theres nothing with cows although like you said theres a risk you could get knocked.

Can you phone the farm and ask the farmer ? ...But you have a good exscuse not to go already

rach · 29 May 2010 at 9:27AM

CL could you just miss that bit? I went on a hen do and didn't go to the spa bit partly cos of cost and partly cos I was worried about being in a busy pool etc when not so obv preg. I just went to half the hen do and v much did it all on my own terms, what suited me!

re DTD. we have done about once a week for a while now. I am never desperate too but I usually instigate it as it keeps us close and I don't want to lose that (esp as i'm now in spare room!)

CL · 29 May 2010 at 9:42AM

It is quite a costly weekend and I know I'll just be watching the clock wondering when I can go to bed without looking like a party pooper, because everyone will be drinking loads. I felt obliged to go, but now would like to make an excuse and just stay at home. Just wondering if you thought being pregnant was an acceptable excuse?

SuzyWuzy_2 · 29 May 2010 at 9:47AM

Personally no I don't CL ...but then again I don't do anything that I don't want to do any more. Life's too short. I put myself and my family first at all times so I'd use that excuse myself.

Id probably say that I was too tired, no energy , no money and didn't want to spoil things for other people if people have a problem with it then that's their problem.

SuzyWuzy_2 · 29 May 2010 at 9:59AM

Funnily enough CL you have got me thinking. I'd just had a baby at 20 and was pregnant straight away with my second and my best friend had just moved away and was getting married. She invited me to sleep on her bedroom floor after the wedding. No invite to my OH or my baby. I was horrified , didn't she understand that I was pregnant and I had a family?! Anyway I didn't go to the wedding and I hoped she would understand that I couldn't afford a hotel or even a room anywhere, we were incredibly poor. I had nothing to even wear to the wedding. Anyway...the outcome ? We didn't remain friends for long after that. She probably thought that I wasn't a true friend but I actually thought the same too.

Do what's right for you.

CL · 29 May 2010 at 10:09AM

Thanks Suzy. I'm sure the bride to be would understand. She's lovely. I always do things I don't want to do, out of obligation. I've paid a £50 deposit and I'm happy to lose it if it means I can just give the whole thing a miss. I just hate the thought of paying so much money to go on a weekend I really won't enjoy. I feel a bit selfish though.

sir_monster · 29 May 2010 at 10:10AM

Morning ladies

Can I ask for big labour vibes for my friend on facebook who is 16 days overdue!!! Not really sure what they have done to help her but sounds like not much!! Feeling bit tired from the wedding, but meeting a friend for coffee so best be off out again and then need to do some tidying up.

Have a good day everyone xx

slm6002 · 29 May 2010 at 10:25AM

CL - I am in a similar situation. my sister is having her hen do about 2 hours travel away and OH would probably have to drive me there with the 2 kids in tow and then hang around all day. Its at ascot races so no doubt will cost a fair bit. All of her single young friends will love it but as you say i will be just waiting to get home and put my feet up. Only thing is my mum wont be going and i almost feel obliged to go and represent her side of the family. Sounds silly to worry about it but i do