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JC's kick up the butt diary!
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jasperconran wrote: »Hiya choc-addict, thanks popping in last night. Out of our unsecured debt, ive got 3 accounts in my name only, OH has got 4!:eek: I know you are right and I need to stop bailing him out, but its hard. I must say he was being surprisingly nice last night, which is confusing. I am wondering whether he does actually realise what a moaning nasty piece of work he can be! you never know!
Anyway have a great day everyone, will catch up with you all later.
ps. I have to say, I do actually find writing this diary rather theraputic now!:)
Morning!
Glad you are finding this diary theraputic - it always helps to talk and on here although virtually, people really do care and all have the same goals re money.
I can't comment on bailing OH's out - my ex is the cause of 1000's of my debt all were in my name and he bailed out of relationship and any financial commitments leaving me in the s##t and struggling and also my parents for a few years - long boring story and something I don't care to re-visit much but I know where you are coming from. It's our lovely nice natures
Hope you have a productive day lovely x0 -
Hi JC,
Hope you have a good day,hun.0 -
hi all,
well everything is ready for ebay, pics taken so will list everything tonight for 10 days and keep my fingers crossed!! just got to sort out books, CDs and DVDs for amazon now, so im getting there!
I ended up having to take DD out with me today, the poor thing ended up being sick bless her. So she didnt really want to go out with her friends:(, just wanted to be with her mum:D.
I have been looking thru my banking/budget and thanks to my OH and his stupid spending this month, whilst he is away next week, DD and I have exactly £4.21 to live on:eek::mad:. However, although I am not happy about it, and we dont get paid till the 28th, the freezer is pretty full and so are the cupboards, so after doing my weekly shop tommorow, we should just about to able to scrape through. I am hoping that the only thing I will need to get is milk! So gotta be careful.
Back to work next week, so off to have a bit of a chill and enjoy the sun whilst it lasts!! :TLBM: April 2009 - honest debt figure: Secured: £0.00!! (paid back april 2017) unsecured: £53117.48 (roughly):eek: back with CCCS starting again:(0 -
JC,
Hi it's me again. With regard to my last message, I was trying to be optimistic for you but i know exactly where you are coming from i am afraid.
You are doing incredibly well. Does your doctor know what your homelife is like?
It may be a bit soon for you to think about this as you are fire fighting at the moment but can you get a job elsewhere? can you chat to a doctor? friend etc about your options so you move away from him?
I hope you are ok.
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hiya savingwannabe,
Its hard really for me as OH is like flaming Jekyl and Hyde. However, I have come to realise that I dont actually care anymore. At the weekend, I was in a terrible state and ended up blaming myself for the mess that we are in, and I will explain why I feel like that. If I had been a stronger person, if I had put him straight years ago with regards to his spending habits, then we probably wouldnt be where we are now, and I would tell HIM to leave. He does have his 'good' moments, but not very often anymore. Not only does he put me down in front of my DD, but he also verbally bullies me in front of my parents. I do honestly believe tho, that he doesnt actually realise that he is doing it!! Cos when I have been brave enough to confront him, he denies it and says its me!!!!:eek: And I end up thinking that perhaps it is me and I am the one whose to blame.
Its also the unknown as well, we have been together for like 20 years, so ive never really been on my own, and I will admit it, im scared. I am also worried cos he has threatened me before many many times. I had a very upsetting convo with my elderly father earlier, he said that he is now too scared to say anything when he comes to ours, in case my OH starts having a go at me. that really hurt.
its hard really, I keep saying on this diary that I am not going to whinge, moan and wallow in self pity lol. cant seem to help it tho.
hmmmm.........this wont get my ebaying sorted out will it:rotfl: best be off I think.
catch up soon xLBM: April 2009 - honest debt figure: Secured: £0.00!! (paid back april 2017) unsecured: £53117.48 (roughly):eek: back with CCCS starting again:(0 -
I'm glad that you are able to whinge, moan or wallow.....not that you are! It's good to be able to talk about these things and get it off your chest.
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thanks choc-addict, it does feel better!
well, I aint ebaying tonight:mad: firstly, I take all my pics on my iphone cos they always seem to come out better! lol now thats playing up, cant get the pics off. then this flaming laptop starts playing up.......its likes arrrgggghhhhh:rotfl:
Ive got DD's birthday coming up, so busy all weekend. So I might not be able to get the clothes on till next week. I think Thursday/Friday nights are the best nights to list, is that right guys? flaming hell, i just wanted to get it all done and get things moving (i can be very impatient lol). And I really NEED the money this month. Oh well, got 2 weeks till end of month, im sure I'll survive. At least Im getting things moving, which is more than I usually do!.
Off to bed now, rant over! good night all, speak tommorowLBM: April 2009 - honest debt figure: Secured: £0.00!! (paid back april 2017) unsecured: £53117.48 (roughly):eek: back with CCCS starting again:(0 -
I had an abusive childhood. It ended when i finally cut off any contact with the cause. I had to leave my home, my town, my friends but it was the best thing i ever did. It gave me the chance to try to live. It is very empowering. I am still the least confident person i know but i am so pleased i did it. I knew if i stayed or all him contact him again he will kill me.
You are making a fantastic start. Believe in yourself. You will make it. And you will fly my friend.
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morning all, and thanks savingwannabe.
Well the weekend will soon be here! and its beautiful outside. Have got quite a bit to do today including food shopping, god i hate that job! lol
Dont know how much I will be on here as my weekend is going to be busy busy busy with DD's birthday. Thank god I have budgeted for everything! I am going to make sure that I will really enjoy it with my DD and just try to ignore IT that im married to if he starts. I am NOT going to let him get me down anymore and I am going to try really really hard not to let his constant moaning and !!!!!ing get to me.
Hope everyone is well, have a great day, and will try and catch up with you all laterLBM: April 2009 - honest debt figure: Secured: £0.00!! (paid back april 2017) unsecured: £53117.48 (roughly):eek: back with CCCS starting again:(0 -
jasperconran wrote: »morning all, and thanks savingwannabe.
Well the weekend will soon be here! and its beautiful outside. Have got quite a bit to do today including food shopping, god i hate that job! lol
Dont know how much I will be on here as my weekend is going to be busy busy busy with DD's birthday. Thank god I have budgeted for everything! I am going to make sure that I will really enjoy it with my DD and just try to ignore IT that im married to if he starts. I am NOT going to let him get me down anymore and I am going to try really really hard not to let his constant moaning and !!!!!ing get to me.
Hope everyone is well, have a great day, and will try and catch up with you all later
You go girl :j Obv don't know the in's and outs but I'd imagine your OH's behaviour is very draining on you as a person. If you can rise above him as much as possible, that's half the battle. I could be wrong but sometimes people do such things as a matter of control and bullying - which i'm sure you already know. I'm guessing him having control and feeling like he has a hold over you i.e. your financial status hindering you to move/leave and so on, putting you down and so on and so on....i'm sure there is a pattern with his behaviour but if YOU can rise above it as much as possible and strive for your life you will get there and who knows one day you might just have the strength to do things you never know/thought you could! I'm routing for you!!
Gosh sorry rambling on there, hope you get what I mean. I have a friend in very similar situation her OH is a real bully, puts her down and so on and she's often crying etc but having her little ones and aiming to clear her debt is at the forefront of her mind and then she feels she'll have options.
I'm the opposite of you, I love food shopping....perhaps a little too muchThat said I now really try to budget, drop brands, see what I can save on and so on - it's like my little DFW mission now :rotfl:
Hope you have a good day x0
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