Learn to control money but do not allow it to control you

MrsMoo2U

Hope the journey went well (if you are reading this I assume you have arrived). How is that for projecting forward:)

I have to say that I am in the process of what you are talking about but I did not seem to have a plan. For many years I have dreamed of a certain life and in the last six months have started to put things in place to get there. I have recently been viewing my "perfect day" life and from that I have started to work out what I need to do over the coming months to be there at a set point in time in the future. So indavertantly I am Life Designing thanks

Karmacat

I hope your journey has gone well, FW - and as for planning backwards from a dream of the future - absolutely, I couldn't agree more.

Memory_Girl

ani_26 wrote: »

This is very easy to answer since i'm in the 1% , ( the minority ), who don''t plan their life. I have no aspirations other than to be able to pay essential bills.

Maybe sometimes we all make ' life ' too difficult. Live from day to day?

One of the questions that FW is often asked by her Mentors is "and how is that working out for you?

A difficult question because it really forces you to honestly look at how "response-able" you are in your own life.

This is probably the one question that shook me to my core, propelled me out of "self-fulfilling prophecy state" of regarding myself as a victim of my life and moved me forward into being a "survivor of my circumstances". Of course it was a rocky trip and there were times I resisted it with every fibre of my being.:o

But on the whole - life is far less difficult now that I have modified my attitude to my own life. I also have higher aspirations for myself and my family - focussing not on survival but for new abundance. It seems that when I focus on survival I got survival, when I focused o how poor I was I got more poverty, now when I focus on abundance that's what I am getting.

The world hasn't changed, the people in my life haven't changed, the job market and the economy hasn't changed ................. but I have:D Perhaps that's what's making the difference right now?

But as we have said before "this Personal Development stuff is HARD!!!!"

Happy Holibobs FW (although I know it's not all holidays)

MG

peaceandfreedom

Memory_Girl wrote: »

This is probably the one question that shook me to my core, propelled me out of "self-fulfilling prophecy state" of regarding myself as a victim of my life and moved me forward into being a "survivor of my circumstances". Of course it was a rocky trip and there were times I resisted it with every fibre of my being.:o

But on the whole - life is far less difficult now that I have modified my attitude to my own life. I also have higher aspirations for myself and my family - focussing not on survival but for new abundance. It seems that when I focus on survival I got survival, when I focused o how poor I was I got more poverty, now when I focus on abundance that's what I am getting.

The world hasn't changed, the people in my life haven't changed, the job market and the economy hasn't changed ................. but I have:D Perhaps that's what's making the difference right now?

What an excellent thought-provoking post, thanks MG.

Marru

Firewalker wrote: »

Where do you want to be in your life twelve months from now?

Firewalker

Rationally? I would like to be four exams closer to ACCA, one thirds into being debt free, free of the Black Dog, spending the Saturdays that DD is with her dad going riding and most importantly have all the stuff that is in the house and is not making me happy or not usefull - GONE!!! Including the pile of 5000 books.

Really making it wild? I would have given up my "high flying" :rotfl: career and would be working as an animal communicator/healer. I would be promoting animal welfare and be able to bring different charities together to share best practices and fund raising and just to get synergy going. I would still probably do some data analysis kind of stuff just for the buzz. And of course the same as above applies to my health and the state of the house and riding. And instead of one third into debt free - completely debt free.

The_Dragon

Firewalker wrote: »

Right, let us do some proper planning; life-style design that can lead us where we really wish to be without regard to where we are now. Where do you want to be in your life twelve months from now?

Firewalker

Hmm debt free (CC wise - not the mortgage!), a minimum of a stone lighter

ani_26

Memory_Girl wrote: »

This is probably the one question that shook me to my core, propelled me out of "self-fulfilling prophecy state" of regarding myself as a victim of my life and moved me forward into being a "survivor of my circumstances". Of course it was a rocky trip and there were times I resisted it with every fibre of my being.:o



The world hasn't changed, the people in my life haven't changed, the job market and the economy hasn't changed ................. but I have:D Perhaps that's what's making the difference right now?

But as we have said before "this Personal Development stuff is HARD!!!!"

Happy Holibobs FW (although I know it's not all holidays)

MG

Maybe this is where you, i and other people differ. I've never regarded myself to be a victim of my life. I'm a survivor by nature. But you don''t know me as a person, so youv'e no way of knowing this. My writing is often misunderstood or taken the " wrong way".

I've had many experiences in my life including experience of pd. I've been very organised, regimented almost, had many goals, and for the most part i achieved my goals. Maybe one day some of you will reach the stage when you are a little older, where you, too, question the wisdom of the way you currently think, or live your life. We all change as we get older. You never know what is around the corner, and all the best laid plans, theories, attitudes, whatever, fade into relative unimportance or irrelevance.

I'm not interested in personally developing myself. I'm too long in the tooth now. At the moment i have to attend to real issues in a practical way, because this is the way forward, for now, rather than fantasy. I write in my diary because it relieves the emotions of how difficult it is to survive financially, right now. The other side of me is the survivor, the person who goes out to work and gives it everything i have left, whether i feel like it, or not.

You don't know me at all, if you don't realise by talking to myself, sad though it may be, maybe became my salvation to some extent, through this turbulent time in my life.Years of stress bottled up. We are all different and have different coping mechanisms and emotions, and it may be easy to say just do this from one side of the fence, but maybe somewhere down the line, i'm sure you all, too, will look at life, in a different light.


I hope you have a good trip fw. It is very emotional sorting your late parents belongings. x

Firewalker

We arrived, we are here. Had a good chat to my sister and now catching up with what you all have been up to.

This was a really un- eventful journey. Completely unremarkable after the high drama of my previous experiences.

FW

Karmacat

Uneventful while travelling is good! Glad to hear from you FW.

Ani, a thought-provoking post from you, thank you.

Memory_Girl

Hi hon

Glad you made it - and will chat to you soon

MG