question:- I'm mortgage free. should my girlfriend pay me rent ?

hopalong53

Well done to you both for sorting out a solution that suits you. I agree in principal with you and it seems to me that you have both been very mature about all of this. There are some folk who want something for nothing and look at love being the one and only answer in this world we call life. However, in reality, life and relationships are hard. The proof of a settlement between you lies in your comment that you both feel stronger for having addressed these very hard to talk about issues and worked through to a solution that you both feel happy with. This will bring you contentment and so I wish you much good luck for your future together:D

tabskitten

hopalong53 wrote: »

Well done to you both for sorting out a solution that suits you. I agree in principal with you and it seems to me that you have both been very mature about all of this. There are some folk who want something for nothing and look at love being the one and only answer in this world we call life. However, in reality, life and relationships are hard. The proof of a settlement between you lies in your comment that you both feel stronger for having addressed these very hard to talk about issues and worked through to a solution that you both feel happy with. This will bring you contentment and so I wish you much good luck for your future together:D

What a load of balderdash!!!

all it shows is that neither trust the relationship enough to chance a financial loss WHEN they split!

COOKIES

Personally, I would go for asking for money for bills, avoid the legalities of a tenancy agreement, as she is your girlfriend after all...However, I am sure if she spilt red wine on your cream carpet and ruined it or wanted you to change your old outdated bathroom, she'd expect YOU to pay for it all and it would suddenly be all YOUR house. where do you think that money is going to come from?

Good on you that you're a successful businessman with high hopes for property investment, But don't be a mug. She feels its unjust to pay YOU rent/Bills but she is paying full rent plus bills where she is now?! Thats emotional blackmail-"if you loved me you wouldnt make me pay"

You have worked hard for your property so why should she live scot free?

I think that asking for HALF of what she's paying now to contribute towards living together is more than reasonable and the fact that she has stated she thinks your profiting from your relationship is absolutely ridiculous! Granted i'd be annoyed if my boyfriend owed his own home and expected me to struggle and pay absolutely LOADS each month as if I was just a tenant, but If you didnt own your own home and had to rent together, you'd still be paying rent, she'd probably have to pay even MORE so she should be grateful that she's going to get away with JUST paying bills or a small amount towards maintenance.If anyone is profiting from this its HER, from your success!

She sounds rather self concerned to me-sorry!

and all those that are going on about tightwad boyfriends, reverse the situation, would you want to pay for your fella to live in your home, use your water electricity, gas and eat your food for peanuts?

thrifty_saver_2

Sharing the bills is fair but I think you should forget about the rent.

I think you should let your girlfriend be proud of your hard earned work in getting a house, by not making her pay rent she can proudly say you bought the house. If she feels like you are trying to profit from her already it is clear she will probably but not intentionally, hold it against you if you do charge her for rent. If you get married you could share the house with her it would be a good gift.

I think you should share the bills for the house because although she earns more, if she uses her money on the house, she will have less to spend on you! She may also stop spending on you because you force her to pay rent. Relationships are much more precious than business deals, don't turn your relationship into a business one.

Hendo_Hendo

Yes in reply to your question, you are being very mean. I cannot understand how you can even think about it when you are now mortgage free. What happens when you get a take away I imagine you tot up what you have ordered and then charge her for the rest?? This should not have even crossed your mind when agreeing for her to move in!

frugalqueen_2

is this still rumbling? as I said earlier, you have to pay your bills where you live now, you will save yourself the expense of driving to her, so her being they will cancel out that expense. So, if you charge her anything, you will profit and you don' t need to profit from her, so you have no need to charge her anything.

tigibus

NO, you mean git! You are obviously NOT a gentleman. She should drop you like a dirty rag.:mad:

williamD1964

tigibus wrote: »

NO, you mean git! You are obviously NOT a gentleman. She should drop you like a dirty rag.:mad:

The trouble with being a gentleman, is that you tend to get pooped on by all and sundry.

justwondering25

williamD1964 wrote: »

The trouble with being a gentleman, is that you tend to get pooped on by all and sundry.

Tell me about it , comments such as my g.f should charge me for sex , if she did , i guess that would make her a paid sex worker , or what they could be saying , i should not charge rent as i'm recieving sex !

People like that are not nice people , its a shame that a man can be expected to take such hurtful comments , not very fair and very uncaring of them , but it kinda shows they have not read the thread or my update on page1 , the comments are ill informed and under researched , which clearly demonstrates there ingnorance of the situation , which reached a situable conclusion some time ago.

savingwannabe

Good on you just wondering. I think people think it isn't a real question i didn't think it was a real scenario originally, more food for thought. Dont worry. As long as you and your girlfriend are happy that is what is important.

Dont let anyone get you down.

:j