question:- I'm mortgage free. should my girlfriend pay me rent ?

SailorSam

D.I.V.O.C.E. was originally Dolly Parton but she had to give up the rights to it to Tammy when,
she needed the money to pay half her boyfriends rent.

davetrousers

Why should she get a free ride? The mortgage may be paid off but you still have to pay council tax, gas, water electric, insurance etc.

justwondering25

hmmm , because a lot of hard work went into paying for the house , would it be unjust if all the bills where split 50/50 and that she perhaps could put in her 50 percent of the hardwork and agree to do all the chores ? currently any washing up / house work is very much 50/50 , I think it's fair some recognition for the house been fully paid deserves more than a round of applause from my partner ?

fairness and a sense of balance seem to drive me on!

rugbymum

What a wonderful, gentlemanly chap you are!
RENT????
Bills....50/50 split YES.
Chores 50/50 YES.
But rent????
I know you worked hard to pay off your mortgage etc, but this sounds a bit mercenary, if you think I'm being harsh, let me explain.
I was involved with a guy, I earned twice his salary and had my own house (+ 3 kids).
I expected him to pay helf the bills & do half the chores, but I didn't expect him to pay rent. The house was MINE and I didn't want him to be able to go to a solicitor at a later stage (if it went pear shape) & say that he contributed to the house so had a stake in it. Be VERY careful.

rugbymum

justwondering25 wrote: »

hmmm , because a lot of hard work went into paying for the house , would it be unjust if all the bills where split 50/50 and that she perhaps could put in her 50 percent of the hardwork and agree to do all the chores ? currently any washing up / house work is very much 50/50 , I think it's fair some recognition for the house been fully paid deserves more than a round of applause from my partner ?

fairness and a sense of balance seem to drive me on!

Is she your partner or a cash-cow who masquerades as your cleaner????

DaveLy

Yes, charge her normal rent, however instead of going in your pocket it'll go into a savings account (of hers) for you both to take holidays from. That way she gets half return anyway, and you both have a much more enjoyable life :-)

justwondering25

I'm just thinking that sorting out these things sooner rather than later would save arguments in the long run , I wouldn't be happy if I moved into my loved ones place with out first looking at such questions , feelings should not get in the way of real life costs , if the next time you fill in a mortgage application form or rent agreement and it has a option for do you love me , please tick here and that gives you a free mortgage/rent , then alls good, Guess what ! it ain't gonna happen.

juliedawn001

I was in your girlfriend's position 10 years ago. We split all the bills in half as we both eart the same amount but I didn't get asked for rent.
10 years on we are happily married with children. I gave up work as we had twins and OH paid all the bills as we are a couple. I am now job hunting and when I am employed again we will pool all our money.
So imho asking for rent is wrong but splitting the bills proportionate to your earnings seems fair to me.

planning_ahead_2

Assuming she moves in with you and pays something - what will happen if a few years down the line you split up. Could she possibly have a claim to a share in the property as you were in a relationship and she was contributing to the property?

I don't know the answer to my question - just thought it was something you need to consider.

justwondering25

p.s in fairness this should be mentioned :-

we had also spoken about me keeping my house , me buying another house in my name and she would happily pay half towards that cost , but of course if things don't work out then I've got another mortgage , leagally I assume though even if her name is not on the mortgage she could if she decided to , ask for half of the 2nd property legally ?