question:- I'm mortgage free. should my girlfriend pay me rent ?

justwondering25

mrstinchcombe wrote: »

Because from your comments you haven't indicated that you are the kind of person that would, quite the opposite in fact.

Its not me being sexist, its purely a personal thing.

You really should'nt try to make things personal , you should read my comments about me going to visit her every weekend at my cost and the fact i might be selling my house , moving me and my job down to where she lives to be around her family because thats what she wants, taking a hit on all the legal costs etc and then buying another house....ouch .

brians_daughter

justwondering25 wrote: »

okay , so should my girlfriend pay rent ?

we've had a debate about this tonight, she seems to think that I'm profiting from the situation ! , basically to put some figures into this, similar property to rent 600-650 , propery value 140k , I said I would not expect half of what the property would rent for , but I said how about let's prentend half the value was in the bank in a high interest account at say 4% , work out the interest and divide by 12 = 250 a month ( plus half of bills) , she still seems to think I'm profiting ! to me it seems fair , she does except that she should pay something , but has yet to come up with the figure she has in mind.

considering I had to work hard to pay off the mortgage , what should I do ?

she also posed the question , what if we where married with 2 children would you I still expect her to pay , after a short thought I said Yes !

well am I been a right old meanie or am I using plain old common sense !

like they say love don't pay the rent , not even on a paid for house etc ! I.M.H.O

Oh, been is same situ, kind of!

re the question if you were married and had kids would you still excpect her to pay... as a rule of thumb she would be entitled to a share in the house (if you ever split) as they would be marital assets (unless agreed otherwise via solicitor prior to marriage)

considering the following helped us!

how long have you been together?
does she earn? same/less/more than you
does she own her own home as well? ie rents out whilst living with you
do either of you have debts?
do you see a long term future?plans to marry/have kids

What we decided was i was to put £x in a savings account we held jointly i put say 70% of the savings him, him 30% so when it came to holidays and treats i in effect paid 70% of the costs. This worked well. We went on a holiday of a lifetime, cost £5000 we did this 2 years after i moved in, so instead of me paying rent i paid for teh holiday from our savings! I will say we were together 5 years before i moved in, and i had my own home i rented out whilst living with him

You need to ensure she feels like its her home as well, even though you own the property. Maybe do it your way for 12 months then re-assess the situ?

mrstinchcombe

justwondering25 wrote: »

You really should'nt try to make things personal , you should read my comments about me going to visit her every weekend at my cost and the fact i might be selling my house , moving me and my job down to where she lives to be around her family because thats what she wants, taking a hit on all the legal costs etc and then buying another house....ouch .

Essentially this is an anonymous forum where you have asked for people's opinion, the very nature of what you were asking is personal, its up to you how you take the negative comments.

This is all irrelevant anyway. This topic is an April Fools joke, of course you arent going to be charging her rent.

But if this isn't an April Fools jokes just ask her to pay for half the bills and a couple of meals out in the month, this will probably be around the figure you were thinking of for rent anyway.

justwondering25

BeenieCat wrote: »

Some replies are a bit harsh i think.

I don't own a house but if i did, i'd like to think i would take precautions when entering a relationship, for the simple fact that the OH might be able to stake a claim to the house i worked damned hard for! It's not about trust, it's about being realistic IMO. If she loved him, then she'd understand that, so it works both ways doesn't it?

But no, she shouldn't be paying rent if she has her own place. If she moved in then i'd second the ideas of her putting the money away. If you're picking her up when she stays with you and the petrol costs are bugging you, tell her to make her own way up?

No i dont pick her up , i travel down and stay with her as she has two cats and does not want to leave them alone or keep taking them to her mums or making them travel 120 miles each way they simply dont like it, which is fair really.

she would give up her place and we'd move in together , the costs dont bug me , but peoples posts have asked for furthur details and i have done just that to prove fairness in the current circumstance.

I think the softer approach would be to call it a fund of some variety , she can keep it in her own name.

I hope she would understand that in todays modern legal enviroment it might be best to sign up on a deal that clearly states what is hers is hers and what is mean is mean , i.m.h.o this would be so much better if they modernised this into all agreements especially marriage it sure would send the legally greedy to the poor house .

I've worked hard for my house .

mrstinchcombe

Realistically though would she have a claim on your home if you owned it outright before you met her and you arent married. Which is the case here.

I genuinely dont know but surely not

justwondering25

Well , its a legal question , i would in all fairness hope not, but in todays crazy world of legal situations , although nothing like my situation , but kinda crazy in a potential similar way , have a look at this in todays news :-

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1262584/First-wives-swept-aside-whim-rich-powerful-Top-barristers-wife-wins-215-000-payout-husband-divorced-25-years-ago.html

of course marriage was involved which is a different , but that guys a top barrisiter and even he could not sort out his legal mess.

ILW

I believe the OP should charge his girlfriend rent, and she in turn should charge him for sex. A good solid commercial arrangement.

justwondering25

mrstinchcombe wrote: »

Essentially this is an anonymous forum where you have asked for people's opinion, the very nature of what you were asking is personal, its up to you how you take the negative comments.

This is all irrelevant anyway. This topic is an April Fools joke, of course you arent going to be charging her rent.

But if this isn't an April Fools jokes just ask her to pay for half the bills and a couple of meals out in the month, this will probably be around the figure you were thinking of for rent anyway.

no its not a April fools .

justwondering25

ILW wrote: »

I believe the OP should charge his girlfriend rent, and she in turn should charge him for sex. A good solid commercial arrangement.

Sex takes two people , well it does for us not sure about you, a lot of people manage it on their own , two people , two lots of effort 50/50 deal imho .

mrstinchcombe

ILW wrote: »

I believe the OP should charge his girlfriend rent, and she in turn should charge him for sex. A good solid commercial arrangement.

But he would of course get a discount for a couple of days of the month for the reduced service.