Feeling overwhelmed

Fire_Fox

emsywoo123 wrote: »

Quite. Someone is going to end up going mental at me, and I really do not feel I have done anything wrong, just stuck in the middle. And I really cannot cope with it at the minute.
Breeder has disappeared. No phone calls, no answering, no response nothing. Dodgy in the extreme.

Is this a puppy farm dog? You say a cough and now the disappearing act, who recommended the breeder? Does the pup have papers?

From where I am sitting - with the benefit of hindsight, not a criticism - this puppy was a mistake. Puppy plus pregnancy plus new business plus OH who works long hours is a recipe for disaster, you should be enjoying your pregnancy! I agree with FC that you should look into rehoming via one of the breed clubs, even if you opt not to go ahead:
http://www.thekennelclub.org.uk/item/109

emsywoo123

Fire_Fox wrote: »

Is this a puppy farm dog? You say a cough and now the disappearing act, who recommended the breeder? Does the pup have papers?

From where I am sitting - with the benefit of hindsight, not a criticism - this puppy was a mistake. Puppy plus pregnancy plus new business plus OH who works long hours is a recipe for disaster, you should be enjoying your pregnancy! I agree with FC that you should look into rehoming via one of the breed clubs, even if you opt not to go ahead:
http://www.thekennelclub.org.uk/item/109

hindsight great..........I did not know/plan to get pregnant when we got her..........
OH has just left, so who knows now. not doing anything.

Fire_Fox

emsywoo123 wrote: »

hindsight great..........I did not know/plan to get pregnant when we got her..........
OH has just left, so who knows now. not doing anything.

I really didn't mean any criticism, as I said with hindsight - we have all made mistakes in life and of course sometimes things go a bit pear shaped all by themselves. The thing is the puppy is the one thing you can change (if you want to) you can't get your OH to work less and you can't un-pregnant yourself! I just think it's really sad that you are crying when you should be happy. I hope when you say left you mean left for work .... either way ((((hugs)))).

Sagz_2

Having read your other thread OP I think you should bite the bullet and rehome the pup ASAP - not only for your sake but for the sake of the pup. You could try your local Lab rescue, Dogs Trust, or Blue Cross.

I hope life gets better for you soon xx

emsywoo123

Norbertsmum wrote: »

Having read your other thread OP I think you should bite the bullet and rehome the pup ASAP - not only for your sake but for the sake of the pup. You could try your local Lab rescue, Dogs Trust, or Blue Cross.

I hope life gets better for you soon xx

DD is hysterical OH has left.........she will be destroyed if Poppy goes to, and is that fair? Is any of this fair?
sorry.

Fire_Fox

emsywoo123 wrote: »

DD is hysterical OH has left.........she will be destroyed if Poppy goes to, and is that fair? Is any of this fair?
sorry.

Life is not fair. Your DD will get over whatever happens next, she is young and she will build many new happy memories to overshadow the old ones. Do what is right for you and arrange your life so YOU can cope and that will work out best for your two little ones. Nobody is judging you but yourself.

emsywoo123

Fire_Fox wrote: »

Life is not fair. Your DD will get over whatever happens next, she is young and she will build many new happy memories to overshadow the old ones. Do what is right for you and arrange your life so YOU can cope and that will work out best for your two little ones. Nobody is judging you but yourself.

I was already scared about making this big decision what with being pregnant etc, but I'm even more worried that I will make the wrong one now............:(

Stephb1986_2

Hi Emsy,

I've just had a quick look through your other thread I just wanted to send you some hugs, I do think that you need to sit down with your OH and have a frank disscussion about the baby and the dog ect ect and if you do decide to take him back then he must seek help for his drinking otherwise it's a no go. I can understand that he's the father of your child but you have to think of you your dd and your unborn baby he has his mummy to look after him love who is going to look after you?

Is your lab neutered? That does calm them down a bit I have a lab and a border collie they are mad as hatters but have calmed down since being spayed.

I hope your ok sending you lots of love

Steph xx

emsywoo123

Thank you all for your help.
i think I have decided that it is most fair on Poppy to go to a new home.
She is a wonderful puppy and will make someone a joyous pet, but I just cannot give her what she needs.
i feel a total failure and expect a backlash, but I believe this is truly the right thing for her,

olias

Having now got a better picture of your domestic situation I think that is a very brave and sensible descision.

Not sure why you feel a failure or expect a backlash? Sounds like your situation is not of your making.

Olias