Nervous about having a boy!

fernliebee

I have a DD and I'm pregnant with second baby, and we are waiting for a surprise, so don't know the sex. I would like a boy just as it will be nice to have experienced parenting both, however I really don't mind either way and a girl would be very MSE!

I have also worked with children in various roles over 11 years+ and (generalising here, as obv there are exceptions) but the boy's tend to be much more uncomplicated, if they are being naughty they seem to get over it much quicker after they have been told off. They tend to be a bit more noisy and bouncy but in good spirits.

Girls I've found (especially aged 7 ) tend to be well behaved, but when they are bad they are worse! Much more drama, tale telling, falling out, making friends, take longer to 'recover' after getting a telling off etc!

Ultimately every child is different and generalisations aren't really helpful when talking about an individual child. TBH if you are consistent with your discipline then your child, girl or boy, will respond to this.

mrcow

OP - I wouldn't even give it another thought.

I was convinced with all of mine that I knew what I was having.......and was wrong every time.

I predict that you've got a 50/50 chance that it's a girl


Edit: And on the boys/girls thing......boys aren't difficult at all. And they love their Mums

Gingham_Ribbon

My boys are as different as could be. One is logical, sensitive, never stops asking questions and is science crazy. He always wants to bounce ideas off someone and doesn't like being alone. The other is very self contained, likes working things out for himself, has endless patience doing puzzles, jigsaws etc and likes making people laugh, especially with word play. He is teaching himself how to read.

But they both are full of love and hugs and fun and adore each other. They both like taking care of the babies they know, baking, reading and going out on adventures. They both find toilet humour hilarious and have completely unfathomable games that they play together that have them rolling around laughing.

In the mornings, they pile into our bed, waking us up with kisses and songs. I wouldn't swap my boys for anything.

ncsmummy

When we had our eldest I was desperate for a boy and a boy is what we had! He was a bit of a nightmare baby - very clingy but a lovely toddler and even now at 8 - despte the attitude he is a loving, caring, thoughtful little boy! Second time around I wanted a girl, had a girl and OMG! If she had been first there would only have been 1 child. I love her to pieces but once she hit 18 months that was it and she has been a stroppy little madam ever since!!!!!

piratefairy

Not that i'm pregnant or planning to be anytime soon, but i am terrified of it, because i think i'd be mortified if it wasn't a girl i think i'm odd to feel like that, and i'm sure when the time comes i'd be more than happy with whatever happens..

Penny_Watcher

mrcow wrote: »

Edit: And on the boys/girls thing......boys aren't difficult at all. And they love their Mums

Soooo true. :T

Not that he'd ever admit it now he's 15 and a half and I'm only allowed to kiss him on my birthday and Christmas, but if he ever has anything troubling him he'll come to me and we'll have a real heart to heart.

Not so much of this closeness with my girls .

And boys are simple souls. Between their lifetime fascination with football and their willy they're never bored.

ncsmummy

Penny_Watcher wrote: »

And boys are simple souls. Between their lifetime fascination with football and their willy they're never bored.

spot on!!! :T lol

bertiebots

I have 2 boys and a girls..they are all different as can be but all wonderful! My eldest is 13 and an absolute joy, he is funny , kind , considerate and we can talk about anything. He thinks its hilarious that he can now pick me up and spin me round and I am his minimum! My dd is 11 and quieter than her brothers but its lovely to have a girl to do the girly stuff with and we share the same sense of humour . My youngest is 9 and he still loves his cuddles and is as daft as a brush. He is a real little thinker too ....of course its not all wonderful , they do have some royal fall outs sometimes but the bits inbetween make it all worth while.
Dont be scared...I am sure all your children will be a joy.

thorsoak

I had an older borther (7 years older than me) - and three younger sisters - with there being 31/2 years between me and sisters 1 & 2 - so you could say I grew up in an all-girl environment.

Went on to have #1son, #1 daughter, then #2 & #3 son - and my experience with them growing up was that as long as the law was laid down - what was expected of them, what they could and could not do, sons would try and push the boundaries, but on the whole, they accepted them - would have some rows, but nothing to bad - they have excellent relationships with each other and with us.

#1 daughter on the other hand ....well everything was wonderful - until she reached the age of 16 ....our menstrual cycles coincided - and talk about PMT doubled - more like PMT squared (I now think - my poor mother - how she must have suffered with 4 of us!) - I was actually unable to "draw the line in the sand" with her - because she would have flounced off and away - far more difficult to have a decent relationship with her at that stage.

Now, I'm happy to say things are fine - we love and support each other ....and I'm getting ready with the extra support she's going to need as her daughter (just reached 10) starts out on the road to puberty .

So my experience has been that it was easier to bring up 3 sons than it was to bring up 1 daughters - but I wouldn't swap any of them!

SarahNeedle1872

Jo.G wrote: »

I'm the opposite to you - I think girls seem more difficult!
I have two boys though, so the only experience I have are my two nieces who are just coming up to 3yrs. But they seem so demanding! My boys always wear whatever clothes I leave out for them, no questions asked, I rarely need to brush their hair in a morning. I remember mums of girls at nursery saying how they had to do their daughters hair in a french plait/pony tail/bunches every morning depending on said daughters mood. Boys are very loving too. And even though my youngest is very tiring at times he is nowhere near as stubborn as my nieces (nor me come to think of it!) Although, as they get older I should imagine I'll miss not having a daughter to go shopping with as they both HATE any kind of shopping (bar toys for them of course) with a passion!
Whatever flavour you get, I'm sure the baby will be loved and thats all that matters. Congratulations and good luck!

Same here! I remember what a nightmare my sister and I were at times, and we were pretty tame in comparison to some of our friends!!

I was worried about having a girl, not just because of the behaviour, but also because I'm not really a girly girl, and I'm not into all the fluffy stuff (although pink is one of my favourite colours!). I guess any girl of mine would be more liekly to be a tomboy like I was as a child.

My boy is stubbon as an ox, like his Mum but he's so very loving and pretty well behaved. He'll play with his friends but he'll just as happily play on his own.

Whichever flavour you get, I'm sure everything will work out just fine

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