Going away for 2 days and leaving this for dh!!

nm123_2

OMG. Just realised you didn't leave this note for your son.

kezlou

I have to say i did a list for my OH when i swanned off a weekend, well he asked me to do it!

I would find it funny and write a sarcastic one or him, but that's just me and my OH. Were just nutters in general anyway.
And yes my OH has forgotten to make/give kids they dinner because they didn't ask him too. Its easily done.

Lyger

My sister leaves alarms and reminders on her husband's phone when she's going to be out and about for the day - I think he finds it quite funny in a way. The first time she did it (put the washing machine on!) he had a grumble, but did it. I think he started laughing around teh time when he got the alarm 2 hours later to tell him to take the washing out and put it in the drier, and then the reminder 5 minutes before my sister was due home telling him to put the kettle on.

I thought it was cute as opposed to patronising!

bertiebots

That list is soooo funny and just the kind of thing I would have to do for my dh.:j
When I was in hospital after having ds he came to visit and asked how to switch the washer on. I told him that he needed to set the left dial to "x" and the right dial to "y" ...and he said in a confused tone "but there's only one dial". He had been trying to do the washing in the tumble drier which was at the other side of the kitchen:rotfl:The first and only time he defrosted our fridge(I was 8 months pregnant with dd) he put a knife through the back of it and came into the living room looking sheepish followed by this odd hissing sound:eek: I had to waddle off and go and buy a new bloomin fridge. Needless to say he is no domestic goddess and knows it. He leaves himself lists:D

bestpud

Lol, my ex looks after dds when I do 24 hour shifts and I leave him a list of things to do!

Not housework but times and things like that.

I leave a list for dds too and then one of my ex's points is to make sure dd2 does the things on her list.

I'm afraid he possibly would forget to feed them! He would certainly forget the cat and dog without a prompt. And he would forget to ensure dd2 brushes her hair/teeth!

However, I often find some remark has been added when I get home and tbh we all just laugh about it. DD(17) is worst for adding witty comments to my notes!

My ex also has a little book in which I write down the days and times he collects dd from school and things like parents evening appts.

There is a reason I always said being married is like having an extra child! :rotfl:

Sarahlou_2

aww this really made me laugh!

At my In laws there is a note on the front door (inside!) that's been there for years that reads "dont forget your key".................the "kids" are now 33, 30, 28 and 23 and have all moved out!

Minxy_Bella

Hmmmm. I have a great sense of humour but I don't find this funny in the slightest. Sorry.

My OH is a grown man who is perfectly capable of looking after himself and the kids and running the house. I wouldn't be married to him otherwise.

seven-day-weekend

Minxy_Bella wrote: »

Hmmmm. I have a great sense of humour but I don't find this funny in the slightest. Sorry.

My OH is a grown man who is perfectly capable of looking after himself and the kids and running the house. I wouldn't be married to him otherwise.

Exactly how I feel. He has a brain and is not helpless.

TBH, I think it shows a distinct lack of respect to assume he is going to behave like a brainless idiot the moment you walk out of the door, and to treat him that way. I think the main problem seems to be that people want things done THEIR way and don't think his way is good enough.

Sorry if this offends anyone, this honestly IS how it comes over to me.

floss2

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

... I think the main problem seems to be that people want things done THEIR way and don't think his way is good enough.....

But perhaps Gabyjane's OH doesn't actually have a "his way"? She already said that he doesn't get to spend very much time with their daughter.... maybe it is their way of enusuring that the important stuff gets done, like food for all who need it, maybe the OH is too wrapped up in other stuff to see what needs doing or to remember the basics, or maybe he was never brought up that way?

When I married my ex-h 26 years ago, he had been brought up as an only child by a mother who did everything for him & his dad - he couldn't cook, iron, make a bed, use a washer etc. By the time I had produced 2 sons and divorced him, he was very well trained for his new wife My sons have also learnt how to do stuff. All done using lists and instructions!

seven-day-weekend

floss2 wrote: »

But perhaps Gabyjane's OH doesn't actually have a "his way"? She already said that he doesn't get to spend very much time with their daughter.... maybe it is their way of enusuring that the important stuff gets done, like food for all who need it, maybe the OH is too wrapped up in other stuff to see what needs doing or to remember the basics, or maybe he was never brought up that way?

When I married my ex-h 26 years ago, he had been brought up as an only child by a mother who did everything for him & his dad - he couldn't cook, iron, make a bed, use a washer etc. By the time I had produced 2 sons and divorced him, he was very well trained for his new wife My sons have also learnt how to do stuff. All done using lists and instructions!

I can only go on my own experience too. My husband, my dad, my husband's stepfather, my sisters' husbands, all my friends' husbands with possibly one exception, are/were all perfectly capable of looking after the home and family for two days.

Even the one exception would be capable of feeding the children properly and making sure they were picked up at the correct time. He may forget to tell them to brush their teeth or change their clothes, but he is quite a 'vague' person who I think is on the autistic spectrum.

I find it difficult to believe there are so many 'useless' men around.