I Just Cant Take Any More

kathfisch

littlejaffa wrote:

OH walked out on a job because he can't control his violent tendancies towards his collegues? there are regulations in place if he was genuinely being bullied, and so many people that would love any job it his choice to walk out, a luxury many would love. likewise £100 in your bank. If it was really that much of a problem maybe OH shouldn't have walked out and your issue is choice of OH.

abnormal smear is pretty standard for most women at some point, lots of harmless things can cause it but as your on-line already you can search for that info and probably already know it

OH dad being ill should make you supportive and strong for him not feel sorry for yourself

Can your life get worse - yes, much worse, you might actually have a problem that is not of your own doing, out of your control and serious.
Do not demeen those who have genuine problems by asking if your life could get any worse.

ps if your really thinking about running away, be a bit clever about it, a one way flight rather than a holdiay?

There is absolutely no need to make those kind of comments, surely? This is a supportive and friendly place and if you don't have something supportive to say no-one's forcing you to post

One of the things this board is so good for is knowing that we can have a moan, let off steam and generally get things out of our systems without worrying that we'll have any reaction other than constructive.

Lynz has been through a hell of a lot lately, not just what's in that list. She's a valued member of this community who gives a lot of her time and effort to help and support others and she does not deserve anything less in return.

postingalwaysposting

awww lynz i hadnt seen this till now hugs hun, you are so supportive to others, always there to help and make suggestions, youre great sorry about your oh losing his job and your test results but things have to be on the up soon, hugs hun

wendym

Hear hear kathfisch.

What makes this board unique (apart from the extraordinary expertise of the contributors) is the non-judgmental warmth and support, and the resilience of people like lynz, who always finds time and energy to respond to others.

Snaggles

littlejaffa wrote:

OH walked out on a job because he can't control his violent tendancies towards his collegues? there are regulations in place if he was genuinely being bullied, and so many people that would love any job it his choice to walk out, a luxury many would love. likewise £100 in your bank. If it was really that much of a problem maybe OH shouldn't have walked out and your issue is choice of OH.

abnormal smear is pretty standard for most women at some point, lots of harmless things can cause it but as your on-line already you can search for that info and probably already know it

OH dad being ill should make you supportive and strong for him not feel sorry for yourself

Can your life get worse - yes, much worse, you might actually have a problem that is not of your own doing, out of your control and serious.
Do not demeen those who have genuine problems by asking if your life could get any worse.

ps if your really thinking about running away, be a bit clever about it, a one way flight rather than a holdiay?

Wow littlejaffa, it must be fantastic to be perfect just like you. I assume you are perfect, and that's why you feel you are in a position to judge and criticise in such a way. Your comments were a blatant misuse of this forum. Shame on you.

sanfrancisco

!!!!!! off littlejaffa. I wanted to write something cleverer than that, but thought I best not waste my time.

PigginSkint

Hi Lynz

Just caught up with this thread. Sorry to hear you're having such a s****y time at the moment. More hugs!!

tesuhoha

That was a particularly spiteful post by Littlejaffa. Take no notice Lynz, Littlejaffa is obviously very bitter about something or is very worried about something. Most of us need to let off steam on this site and your problems could not get much worse.

littlejaffa

kathfisch wrote:

There is absolutely no need to make those kind of comments, surely? This is a supportive and friendly place and if you don't have something supportive to say no-one's forcing you to post

One of the things this board is so good for is knowing that we can have a moan, let off steam and generally get things out of our systems without worrying that we'll have any reaction other than constructive.

Lynz has been through a hell of a lot lately, not just what's in that list. She's a valued member of this community who gives a lot of her time and effort to help and support others and she does not deserve anything less in return.

I thought this was an honest and open place, it seems not. Perhaps if a person is only looking for responses that agree with them, or try to make them feel better, rather than the truth they should say so.

Many many people find and honest 'get on with things/there's people worse of than you' better to get them moving and out of self pity, than saying 'there there' and pretending the pity is acceptable and should continue.

Again it was not clear to me that any post that didn't agree or offer pity would be asked not to post again

littlejaffa

tesuhoha wrote:

That was a particularly spiteful post by Littlejaffa. Take no notice Lynz, Littlejaffa is obviously very bitter about something or is very worried about something. Most of us need to let off steam on this site and your problems could not get much worse.

I really don't see how you offering personal comments about me, when telling me i shouldn't offer honest opinion on another makes you any better.
I think self pity when there realy is no great issue is really offensive to those who have genuine problems, not of their own doing and out of their own control. I'm sure there are many people on here in that situation.

I have however learned my lesson, this is a site only for agreeing and supporting self pity and anyone who disagress will be subject to personal opinion and swearing.

Tiff_2

littlejaffa wrote:

I really don't see how you offering personal comments about me, when telling me i shouldn't offer honest opinion on another makes you any better.
I think self pity when there realy is no great issue is really offensive to those who have genuine problems, not of their own doing and out of their own control. I'm sure there are many people on here in that situation.

Yes littlejaffa, there are many people as you describe on here in that situation & I'm one of them!
In my opinion, posts like yours deter people like me from wanting to open up. There's a huge difference between having an opinion and being insulting. I'm new here but I have seen the warmth that's extended to people in trouble. If someone posted that to my threads, I would have receded back into the shadows. Inspite of her problems, Lynz is still posting help for others! You are entitled to your own philosophy but with that comes the burden of responsibility.
Still at least we know the response you will prefer when you post a problem.....
Hope all is well Lynz - we're all behind you