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Somone coming into my house...

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  • alyth
    alyth Posts: 2,671 Forumite
    Unfortunately at this time of night there is nowhere that I can go -and I have my exam tomorrow. Even if it is not the person I think it is, and some random stranger, me and the dog will be fine - I promise, I can just sit up all night studying. I have cottages either side of me, one of whom has a dog that has total bat ears and that's what alerted me in the first place to someone being outside tonight -when i was sitting outside my dog was quiet and next door's dog was going mad, woofing.

    I just probably won't sleep that well tonight. I can't change the locks on my own, I have to get the estate to do it, I'd already spoken to the factor about it about a month ago and he's not the speediest guy and hasn't sent the joiner round yet - but he will be chased in the morning.]

    Please don't worry, I truly don't think it is a random person, I think it is the married guy and as I know his wife (vaguely now!) and they live about 15 miles away, he won't be able to come up at 3am. I feel very safe, the farm guys are up from 6am tomorrow, I've already emailed one of them telling them about the footsteps and I have his number, and they will check and make sure I am okay in the morning. Everyone round about me knew I was worried about someone coming into the house, I work in the local shop and had been asking people if they had seen anyone, and the farm guys all knew as well, notwithstanding this if they don't see me outside having a cigarette at 6.30 each morning they comment that I am lazy!
  • tandraig
    tandraig Posts: 2,260 Forumite
    Alyth - ok if your determined to stay in your own home. set some traps hun. because YOUR dog doesnt alert to this person. for one - have you bolts on the doors? if not then put some glass jars or bottles against them - anything which will make a noise if moved.also on your windowsills. and when you go to bed - take the dog with you - and put something heavy against the door. you may feel silly in the morning - but its better than ending up in the morgue!
    you have been stalked hun. the police now take that seriously so talk to them!
    Alyth - I sense you feel safe because of your surroundings and you think you know whats going on.
    but, you arent safe hun. if you were then your neighbours would be telling you your ex was coming by to walk the dog. people dont always see things. now get yourself safe. OK?
  • hrs2004
    hrs2004 Posts: 169 Forumite
    Hi

    Having just read this thread, I'm glad that you feel that you are safe tonight. Trust your instincts and if there is anything that makes you uncomfortable, phone the police immediately. Ideally, phone the police on the non-emergency line now, explain you situation and that you will call in tomorrow, or better, want someone to come round tomorrow after your exam to discuss the situation. Ask that a marker is placed on your address so that if you do have cause to phone, they will know the background immediately.

    Do not allow yourself to be convinced (either by yourself or the police) that you're mistaken or that the situation isn't serious. Someone coming in to your house without being invited is not normal behaviour. It may never come to anything more, but you never know. Insist that a full record is made, and provide all the details about the people you think it might be. It isn't your problem if someone is spoken to that isn't involved - I'm sure an innocent person would be understanding and if the guilty person denies it, they will no doubt consider it a warning. The police may have information about one of these people that suggest something dubious in their background.

    I'm sure that changing the locks will be the end of things, but it never hurts for official records to be made in case there is any sort of escalation.

    I hope your exam goes well, and that this situation is sorted but please don't change the locks and just forget about it. Many women have had problems with ex-partners and you really don't want to add yourself to the list. The police are becoming much more aware of this and should treat this case as important.

    Good luck!
  • grey_lady
    grey_lady Posts: 1,047 Forumite
    I knew someone who had something similar happen, it turned out to be her landlord in the end, find out if anyone else will have a copy of your new key. Safety first, if someone is creepy enough to do that kind of thing, then they're possibly not in a normal frame of mind or maybe you dont know them as well as you think you do, I dont mean to frighten you btw but just bear in mind that your safety is not worth taking a chance on.
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  • tandraig
    tandraig Posts: 2,260 Forumite
    I DO mean to frighten the OP! I would prefer to frighten her than her to end up dead! the fact the person went away as the op was at home, her dog apparently accepts this person - her belongings are touched, her home is INVADED. what is it going to take to convince OP she is at risk? I could quote statistics but no-one ever thinks they are one of those.
    OP has decided she knows whats going on - and is not at risk. OP is wrong - this is abnormal behaviour. that could culminate in violence.
    we have warned her - thats all we can do.
  • WEEGIE
    WEEGIE Posts: 11,420 Forumite
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    Glad to see you are sort of calm about this, but still, if I were you I would go to bed tonight with a baseball bat next to your bed and don't be scared to use it.
    Good luck with your exam tomorrow. :D
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  • MissShoes
    MissShoes Posts: 1,286 Forumite
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    Just a thought- would whoever it might be have placed cameras anywhere in the house? Not trying to freak you out- just my instant gut reaction.

    Praying it's not the case...

    Shoes xx
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  • Sorry to sound cynical, but I'm not convinced this isn't a wind up. It reminds me too much of a very simillar thread that was running for ages last year - someone posted a link to it earlier.

    I just find it hard to believe that a lone female who believes she is being watched/having her home entered when she is not there etc, would be so complacent about it. I'd be neurotic and no way would I stay there on my own, exam or no exam!!!

    Apologies to the OP if I'm wrong..I'm not in the best frame of mind myself this evening, but it all seems a bit fishy to me.
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  • WEEGIE
    WEEGIE Posts: 11,420 Forumite
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    Sorry to sound cynical, but I'm not convinced this isn't a wind up. It reminds me too much of a very simillar thread that was running for ages last year - someone posted a link to it earlier.

    I just find it hard to believe that a lone female who believes she is being watched/having her home entered when she is not there etc, would be so complacent about it. I'd be neurotic and no way would I stay there on my own, exam or no exam!!!

    Apologies to the OP if I'm wrong..I'm not in the best frame of mind myself this evening, but it all seems a bit fishy to me.

    I thought that too, but after re-reading the OP posts I think there is genuine concern here.
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  • well if it is genuine then I think the OP needs to get it sorted asap.

    OP have you contacted this guy you had the r'ship with? Why on earth did you let him go off with a set of your keys?

    Get the locks changed tomorrow, and if anything else weird happens phone the police. Dont rely on neighbours sround you to look out for you.

    Hope it all works out.
    Metranil dreams of becoming a neon,
    You don't even take him seriously,
    How am I going to get to heaven?,
    When I'm just balanced so precariously..
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