A Payment A Day - Part 8!

HamsterWheel_3

frasersmum123 wrote: »

Good Morning all,

Just £1.00 for me today please - having to spread out what I have left quite thinly until I get paid again

Quick question - if I am expecting my Child Benefit and carers allowance on Monday, will it go in Friday as its a Bank Holiday?

Angelic - Hope your little man is better soon.

Yes sweetie will be with you on friday x

psychopathbabble

Hey Euro, hope you are ok? I always think that about my friends from home.... I only live 2 hours away and yet none of them come and see me. Not that many are left there now but even so.

I guess actually booking it and going is a bit of a mission. I keep saying I'll go see my old housemate in Edinburgh before he leaves but I never get round to booking it. If it was a good friend of mine then maybe I'd have gone up there by now, especially if they had been there for a couple of years.

Hope their tests are ok.... do you see them when you come home?

euronorris

psychopathbabble wrote: »

Hey Euro, hope you are ok? I always think that about my friends from home.... I only live 2 hours away and yet none of them come and see me. Not that many are left there now but even so.

I guess actually booking it and going is a bit of a mission. I keep saying I'll go see my old housemate in Edinburgh before he leaves but I never get round to booking it. If it was a good friend of mine then maybe I'd have gone up there by now, especially if they had been there for a couple of years.

Hope their tests are ok.... do you see them when you come home?

Hi Pyscho. I'm OK, just disappointed and sad.

The thing is, this is supposed to be one of my closest friends and she doesn't seem to want to come over. My other friend had a terrible time with jobs and money etc, so I understood. But this one, always saying she can't afford it because of a holiday and that she'll come afterwards, and then immediately books another holiday and I get the same excuse again.

It's upsetting that she doesn't want to come, but I would still much prefer her to be honest with me about it. It's worse to believe that it's going to happen, get your hopes up (and believe me, I try really hard not to these days), and then get let down again with the same old excuse.

My OH is usually very good at comforting me with this, as he's been through it before and still has it with a few friends himself, but he's in meetings all day today and then has a work dinner tonight.

Fingers crossed about her test results. Coincidentally, I text her about it about 10 minutes before the email arrived. I haven't had a reply though yet, which is a bit worrying. I'm putting it down to her being at work though.

I have seen her a few times when I've visited home, but I don't think it's fair for me to be the one who always travels/puts the effort in. Plus, I can't see everyone, everytime I go home. There just isn't the time. So it'd be really nice if she could visit me just once. I've been here 15 months now!

OH even offered to pay for both of their flights, in case money was the issue, but that was refused due to their pride. Which I do understand, but I don't know how I could make it any easier for them, or how they expect me to not take it personally.

It makes me not want to try, at all but I don't want to lose the friendship. On the other hand, what exactly would I be losing now?

mswan

Hi All, not been on this month at all really sorry, £23 Pad for the month, payday tomorrow and a couple of cheques (winnings woo hoo) to Pad against the OD, will pad them as soon as I put them in.

My daughter moves into a flat this weekend :eek: bit scary ..... not for her for me

Will make more effort to Pad everyday this month you can really notice the difference if you dont (check out the rubbish sig for this month)

Thrifty_Pixie

Oh my...what a topsy turvy weekend this has been for everyone Please accept some bone-crushing pixie hugs for your cat, Wesker. I have no words except that at least he's no longer in pain. My heart goes out to you.

Angelic - I admire you for standing up for yourself. You've had a lot more patience with your OH than I would've had. He needs to grow some and grow up! Choosing toys over family? !!!!!! is up with that? I think he'd have a heart attack if he knew how expensive it can be to live alone AND support your [STRIKE]abandoned[/STRIKE] children. I hope he sees sense soon, or you do Best of luck.

Well, some debts have been paid too huh? Well done Gilli for smashing that debt! :beer:

My PADs for the past three days are:

Sat: £2 into Mad Catter and 26p STC
Sun: £4 into Mad Catter
Today: £3.06 (£1.31 rounding down and £1.75 shrapnel into pot)

Grand total = £9.32

I hope this week improves for everyone...

*meep* and out x

psychopathbabble

Euro - I totally understand where you are coming from. Sometimes it feels like it's always you making the effort. I lost a lot of friends when I quit my a-levels because I wasn't prepared to chase them all the time so I gave up on them. Not sure what to suggest really, but just wanted to check you are ok. It's probably even harder as you are in a different country and probably feels so much further away.:grouphug:

euronorris

psychopathbabble wrote: »

Euro - I totally understand where you are coming from. Sometimes it feels like it's always you making the effort. I lost a lot of friends when I quit my a-levels because I wasn't prepared to chase them all the time so I gave up on them. Not sure what to suggest really, but just wanted to check you are ok. It's probably even harder as you are in a different country and probably feels so much further away.:grouphug:

Thanks honey.

I've been through it before, when I was back home, after college (must be the same for everyone around that age I guess).

But yeah, the distance makes it harder anyway and then it's harder again because I thought we had a much better/stronger friendship than this. And I've been putting so much effort in for that reason.

Maybe it's time to stop trying so hard, and I have thought that before. OH says I should've given up long ago. At least that way I wouldn't be getting my hopes up at all. But I can't bring myself to do it.

I should, I guess. She has been carp at even sending emails. I decided to leave it after me initiating so many conversations and I didn't hear from her, at all, in over 3 weeks! We used to talk everyday.

Out of sight, out of mind I guess.

Trouble is, I'm scared to confront her about all this in case she says 'yes, you're right. I'm no longer interested in being your friend'. I feel like I've done something wrong, but I haven't.

Ignore me, I just had to get it off my chest, otherwise I'd go crazy.

xx

psychopathbabble

Ok I'll stop encouraging you to moan You will figure out what's right or not in your own time....

frasersmum123

HamsterWheel wrote: »

Yes sweetie will be with you on friday x

Thanks for that

euronorris

psychopathbabble wrote: »

Ok I'll stop encouraging you to moan You will figure out what's right or not in your own time....

hahahaha, true. And I can moan for England.

Best to concentrate on something more positive. Oh, that reminds me.....the nice lingerie store has a mid season sale on. Euro goes off to look at the website.

And thanks for listening!