Nice people thread 2 - now even nicer

Davesnave

Fantastic to hear today's news, Sue! :jI'm barely keeping up with this thread ATM due to my own tiredness, but I don't have anything like your schedule to contend with!:o

Dad will be so glad to be home. Sounds like Mum will be glad to have him there too.:)

fc123

vivatifosi wrote: »

Change of subject (apologies), but wondered if anyone caught 'Blood, Sweat and Luxuries' on BBC3 last night. It was the first in a series, about the production of gemstones and what people have to do to earn next to nothing to get luxury goods to the markets of Europe. Very interesting and worth watching if its on iPlayer. Next week is about leather goods production and future issues will also look at coffee and silicone chips.

I saw ads for this when I was at home (where I have telly reception) and looks interesting but similar to Blood sweat and som ething about the clothing industry where they sent young fashion students to the slums in India to make a docket...then to cotton plantation and mill. Bit's of it made me cringe TBH.
Digging up stuff, making stuff it's all pretty hardcore wherever it's done.

SingleSue

Afraid it didn't go to plan.

We got there for 3pm and his discharge but when mum arrived in the discharge lounge (I was frantically trying to find a parking space at the time) with his clothes, he didn't respond to her so she called the nurse over...dad then collapsed off the chair.

It turns out he has had another stroke, milder than the first event but leaving more damage than before so it was back to the ward he had been on...in fact the same bed.

Dad's mouth is now drooping, his speech is almost robotic but he can still speak with intelligence albeit in this flat monotone robotic like voice, he appears confused at times, needs help getting out of the bed and standing up and is now tottering when walking...with no improvement really from when it happened (unlike the first time where the droopy mouth resolved very quickly)

Oh, and he is being a cantankerous old begger! Told to stay in bed, he is trying to get out of bed unaided and wander away...I warned the nurses about it as we left tonight (been up there since 3 this afternoon and only got back about 10 minutes ago) and in the time it took to walk to the nurses station (and after we had told him to stay in bed), he was already trying to get out and walk to god knows where!

Mum is completely broken, she managed to hold it together in front of dad but cried as soon as she was out of the hospital and cried when we got her home but thankfully, a family friend has now arrived from Worcester to keep her company. The usually strong me got a bit watery later on this evening and had to leave the ward so I didn't upset dad (or start mum off).

fc123

SingleSue wrote: »

Afraid it didn't go to plan.

We got there for 3pm and his discharge but when mum arrived in the discharge lounge (I was frantically trying to find a parking space at the time) with his clothes, he didn't respond to her so she called the nurse over...dad then collapsed off the chair.

It turns out he has had another stroke, milder than the first event but leaving more damage than before so it was back to the ward he had been on...in fact the same bed.

Dad's mouth is now drooping, his speech is almost robotic but he can still speak with intelligence albeit in this flat monotone robotic like voice, he appears confused at times, needs help getting out of the bed and standing up and is now tottering when walking...with no improvement really from when it happened (unlike the first time where the droopy mouth resolved very quickly)

Oh, and he is being a cantankerous old begger! Told to stay in bed, he is trying to get out of bed unaided and wander away...I warned the nurses about it as we left tonight (been up there since 3 this afternoon and only got back about 10 minutes ago) and in the time it took to walk to the nurses station (and after we had told him to stay in bed), he was already trying to get out and walk to god knows where!

Mum is completely broken, she managed to hold it together in front of dad but cried as soon as she was out of the hospital and cried when we got her home but thankfully, a family friend has now arrived from Worcester to keep her company. The usually strong me got a bit watery later on this evening and had to leave the ward so I didn't upset dad (or start mum off).

Oh Sue...I don't know what to say really but gutted for you and your family.:( Thoughts are with you during this tricky time and I hope he makes a good recovery.

LydiaJ

Oh Sue
How heartbreaking to have such an encouraging recovery and the this. I'm so so sorry.
Still, at least if it was going to happen, he was in the best place to get help quickly when it did. Not that that's much comfort right now.
Hoping and praying for all your family tonight.

lostinrates

Oh Sue, what a terrible turn of events. The most hopeful thing is that your father can communicate.

lostinrates

Chick watch....

the first has hatched, and was probably hatched late last night, it...lets be hopeful, ''she'' was almost dry this morning. I was hoping to leave her in the incubator till lunch time, but she was getting flustered and running amok over the other eggs, and I was scared she'd interfere with unhatched chicks orientation, so, its under the pig lamp.

Thinking hopeful female thoughts....

lemonjelly

SingleSue wrote: »

Afraid it didn't go to plan.

We got there for 3pm and his discharge but when mum arrived in the discharge lounge (I was frantically trying to find a parking space at the time) with his clothes, he didn't respond to her so she called the nurse over...dad then collapsed off the chair.

It turns out he has had another stroke, milder than the first event but leaving more damage than before so it was back to the ward he had been on...in fact the same bed.

Dad's mouth is now drooping, his speech is almost robotic but he can still speak with intelligence albeit in this flat monotone robotic like voice, he appears confused at times, needs help getting out of the bed and standing up and is now tottering when walking...with no improvement really from when it happened (unlike the first time where the droopy mouth resolved very quickly)

Oh, and he is being a cantankerous old begger! Told to stay in bed, he is trying to get out of bed unaided and wander away...I warned the nurses about it as we left tonight (been up there since 3 this afternoon and only got back about 10 minutes ago) and in the time it took to walk to the nurses station (and after we had told him to stay in bed), he was already trying to get out and walk to god knows where!

Mum is completely broken, she managed to hold it together in front of dad but cried as soon as she was out of the hospital and cried when we got her home but thankfully, a family friend has now arrived from Worcester to keep her company. The usually strong me got a bit watery later on this evening and had to leave the ward so I didn't upset dad (or start mum off).

Sorry to hear this Sue. In a desperate attempt to find a silver lining, at least this happened before he was discharged & left the premises, so the medical staff were on hand to deliver the best possible care fast.

Unfortunately I do sometimes worry that hospitals are under so much pressure with beds, targets and the like that sometimes people can be discharged too early (hence why in my earlier post I suggested making sure he is OK to leave).

I had a family member who was discharged way too early (many years ago now), who suffered as a result.

generally find that a lot of people are too defferential to doctors. Don't be afraid to ask questions and the like. As long as you are polite about it, they'll be fine with it.

My thoughts are with your family, hoping for the best.

lemonjelly

vivatifosi wrote: »

Hi Jelly,

I agree, for the most part, they wouldn't have been out of place with the freaks in the BB House, but I did like the young woman from Newcastle. The fact that she was chosen by the foreman to go back and dig and kept up with the men even when the other guy couldn't go out and work (and was the first woman to do the job) spoke volumes. She was also the least likely to make excuses and the most understanding of the hardship people endured.

It was shocking though to see conditions from biblical times still endure in modern society, particularly when juxtaposed with the fact that they are living in abject poverty while producing luxury goods.

Viva, the BB notion hits the nail on the head!

The programme isn't a great advert for young british people.

I saw an advert on bbc3 advertising a blog to this programme for anyone interested.
http://www.bbc.co.uk/blogs/bbcthree/2010/04/blood-sweat-and-luxuries-what.shtml

SingleSue

Thanks Lemon Jelly...

We actually said the same thing about thank goodness it happened while he was still there, if I had been able to find a parking space straight away, we would have been half way down the A14 when it happened! I have no idea how I would have coped with that as the driver as I know speed is of the essence when having a stroke but I am such a stickler for speed limits..not sure if I would have taken the risk and just gone for it or not.

To be honest, he had reached the stage of recovery where they couldn't really keep him him any longer, he was walking on his own, eating, drinking, talking etc almost as if nothing had happened and the scans showed that everything was ok with the clot...so although we were nervous, all the signs were that he was ready to come home health wise.

After the second event yesterday, the consultant took scans of his neck as he has a sneaky feeling that the occasional irregular heartbeat dad has is forming clots which are then firing off to the brain...his BP, chlolestrol, weight etc are all perfectly fine and he has taken aspirin since his heart attack and double bypass 3 years ago.

Anyway, must dash again, got to take mum to the doctors, do the school run and then back up the hospital...I've used over 3 weeks worth of fuel (I budget £15 a week for fuel unless we have appointments) since Monday!