Does a registry office wedding look cheap an nasty?

bubbles0169

Zimm190, i know of registry offices which charge £40 to do it in the actual registrars office, not a room but an office basically three chairs and a table!
i think churches start at £500

JBD

Sunshine12 wrote: »

I think she does work?. He said he is main wage earner, not only wage earner. If it was a woman posting saying that she wanted to get married in a registry office but the man wanted a full on fancy thing I agree responses may be different although probably slimmer chance of that scenario ever happening in the first place. I do think if they have another baby on the way that perhaps the OP's partner needs to think about how much the money they might spend on a wedding would come in useful when the baby arrives and maybe she just cant have everything she would like under the circumstances. Its a shame for her to have to forego her dream wedding but sometimes you need to do whats best for the long term.

Yes, you are right, the OP did say he was the main wage earner.It is quite difficult to be financially responsible for 2 children and I can understand how there is not very much money left over. Because I am older I know quite a few people who had to sacrifice their dreams of a 'white wedding' due to the woman falling pregnant, it was not unusual 30 years ago.
Hopefully this couple can manage to compromise. Perhaps they could agree on a time limit and save as much money as possible and then arrange their wedding with what they have managed to save, rather than getting stuck in an open ended engagement. Also, if it is the registry office that the fiancee has objections to then it is also possible to have a small Church wedding.

stef240377

The cost of my wedding in a registry office was £103. Broken down it was £30 each for notification of marriage and £40 on the day for the registrar. The further £3 was for the licence. If this helps someone get a clearer picture of costs.

hayleythedaisy

There is a relatively small fee for marrying in a church. The fees are set by the Church of England nationally. The cost of a basic church wedding service is £319.50*, which includes all legal necessities. It may vary for you depending on your circumstances

Taken from http://www.yourchurchwedding.org/your-wedding/the-cost-of-church-weddings.aspx to compare it to.

kr15snw

Church fee's depend on the church. My brother wants to get married in his local church (its a beautiful 'traditional' old church) but the vicar won't let you get married there unless you have the choir, organist and bell ringers. Oh and you sort your flowers out through the church's flower lady who is dearer than a florist! His is going to be about £800 - £1000 for the church part. Eeeek.

And he can get away with it as it's one of the most popular churches for weddings in the city. The vicar doesn't stick to the 'local' rule but just the 'make the most money' rule. Lol

hayleythedaisy

That is extortionate!!! and seems very wrong that churches are no longer house's of god to support the community, but money making premises!!!

Zimm190

I was thinking of Catholic churches, does anyone know their fees? They won't be set by the Church of England. My parents got married in a Catholic church and I'm sure they said it was a donation, rather than a fee.

hayleythedaisy

I think Catholic churches vary, and I think if you have been a member of the-church then it's a donation of something around £100-£200 as a starting price.

superfran_uk

I'm going for a civil wedding in a town hall, it costs £935 for the room including a 2 hour reception afterwards and it's about £400 for the registrar fee.

emlou2009

nirelandguy wrote: »

My and my OH have been together about 10 years, and engaged for 5, She always said she wouldn't get married in a registry office as she wants the full works with big reception etc as all her family have had this, its never registered that I'm the main wage earner and I earn slightly above min wage, all her siblings have at least one decent wage earner but not us, she seems to think one day it will happen, after 10 years it aint gonna happen,

So she is pregnant again and I told her I want to get married and we are doing it my way, My way involves, married in a registry office and just out for a meal, just me and her, inviting no one as can't afford to, and telling no one as don't want any gifts, but if someone catches on after the even then so be it.

Does this sound totally miserable on my part? The reality is its never gonna happen any other way, It doesn't bother me getting married in a registry office, I couldn't really give a !!!!!! what people think of me, but she tries to keep up with her family which we can't do.

Yes, actually!

The way I see it, we arent religious, so to us, marriage is just a piece of paper that says what we already know about each other. We already live together, have a family, and everything else that a marriage has. To us, there would be no point in getting married if we werent going to have a nice day to remember. I dont think the issue with YOUR plans, as thats what they are, not yours as a couple, YOUR plans, are to do with the registry office, its to do with your OH feeling the same as we do. She wants her family anf friends involved! Why not just be a little flexible about it? Even if you just stretch the funds a little to hire a small hall somewhere, ask for the gifts from family to be laying on a sandwich and Iceland special buffet or something! You could even do that at home, or at a friends/families home that perhaps has a nice garden. Or invite people for a nice meal, but make it clear that you're skint so they'll have to pay themselves. Its a special day, just let her enjoy it instead of dictating what she is and isnt allowed to do!