Does a registry office wedding look cheap an nasty?

superfran_uk

laura.1984 wrote: »

I ment as in the whole about her and the baby and him decideing about having a wedding.

I have no problems with people getting married there

This is how I read it. The couple are obviously not ready to get married - they don't trust each other and they won't compromise and he just seems bitter!

nickyhutch

nickyhutch wrote: »

Charming. What a nice thing to say after reading many posters say they got married in a register office.

I'm sorry, that wasn't clear to me from your post.

frannyann

laura.1984 wrote: »

I ment as in the whole about her and the baby and him decideing about having a wedding.

I have no problems with people getting married there

I read you as saying that too, I thought the same. They need to talk to each other properly before talking about marriage IMHO

Sammy85_2

maybe a good case for Jezza Kyle to deal with?

jenhug

this is a registry office near me, it doesn't look cheap or tacky!
http://www.kent.gov.uk/static/virtual-tours/maidstone.html

Horace

When I got married many moons ago, I got married in a registry office..a lovely old building behind the fire station (that's where it happened to be) with beautiful grounds and a lovely room. There are lots of picturesque registry offices out there.

I think niirelandguy that you need to talk to your partner before deciding on when and where you are going to get married - as others have said marriage is all about compromise so laying down the law on how the wedding is to take place is not a good start. Why not put it off for a while longer which will give you both time to save and plan it?

Sunshine12

I wouldnt get married in a registry office and have to say if you partner doesnt want to then you shouldnt make her. I havent read all the replies or if you have posted again but your OP saying "we are doing it my way" made me think you aint really bothered what she wants anyway. If my BF said its registry office or we aint doing it, I wouldnt get married. Its not because Im snobbish but I hate the idea of getting married in a registry office (also if he was dictating to me how it was going to be then I would be even more inclined to stick to my guns) Remember its her big day too and whilst you maybe cant afford it perhaps you should try and discuss it with her rather than dictate.

(p.s I have no thoughts or criticisms on anyone else getting married in a registry office, its just not what I want)

JBD

It has been quite interesting reading through this thread. I wonder what the responses would have been if the OP had been female rather than male?.It seems as if the OP wants the commitment of being married, rather than the actual 'wedding'. If the partner was male then no doubt he would be accused of being a commitmophobe, or something similar.
If the fiancee really wants a big wedding then I would suggest she does something about it herself. Perhaps she can think about earning some money herself and saving up, rather than just expecting her partner to do it all on his wage.

Sunshine12

JBD wrote: »

It has been quite interesting reading through this thread. I wonder what the responses would have been if the OP had been female rather than male?.It seems as if the OP wants the commitment of being married, rather than the actual 'wedding'. If the partner was male then no doubt he would be accused of being a commitmophobe, or something similar.
If the fiancee really wants a big wedding then I would suggest she does something about it herself. Perhaps she can think about earning some money herself and saving up, rather than just expecting her partner to do it all on his wage.

I think she does work?. He said he is main wage earner, not only wage earner. If it was a woman posting saying that she wanted to get married in a registry office but the man wanted a full on fancy thing I agree responses may be different although probably slimmer chance of that scenario ever happening in the first place. I do think if they have another baby on the way that perhaps the OP's partner needs to think about how much the money they might spend on a wedding would come in useful when the baby arrives and maybe she just cant have everything she would like under the circumstances. Its a shame for her to have to forego her dream wedding but sometimes you need to do whats best for the long term.

Zimm190

Is it actually that much cheaper to get married in a registery office than in a church? How do the two compare in terms of fees?

As far as I understand, the biggest expense of weddings is the reception. Perhaps the compromise should focus on this bit, rather than the ceremony venue.

People may think that church weddings automatically mean greater cost but not necessarily. I'm sure you could marry in a church for a similar price to a registery office; it's the extras - dress, rings, cars, cake, photographer, meal, DJ, hotel room, honeymoon, etc. - that cost a lot, and clearly these aren't restricted to church weddings.