Does a registry office wedding look cheap an nasty?

Stryder

In France many people marry in Registry Offices. There 'civil' are important and so its not seen as a negative thing. I think they are fine, but you may need to make up with a good party afterwards

winnie81

forgot to say why not go have look in your registry office and see what its like or look into hotels etc that have marriage license's they may surprise her

gorgeouslatinrose

How about going away on holiday and getting married if she doesnt like the registry office idea? Not a big event, but maybe just yourselfs and possibly parents etc on a beach, and then a dinner - that way slightly more romantic feel but no where near as expensive as the full works. Having said that there are some beautifull registry offices out there so you may find that is more suited . Good luck

anderson8

have a look at place in your area that have civil licences, then sort out budget wise from there.
its doesnt have to be the registry office, though some are amazing!

hayleythedaisy

Nothing cheap and nasty about a registry office, and I'm amazed you've not been shot down as there's a few on here who are having them (me included!)

And as others as said, the my way or no way approach doesn't seem very apt for the most romantic day of your life. Have a look round this board, there are loads of ideas... See if you can find something you both like.

I don't really see how her coming off the pill has any relevance to anything, probably not the best way to start "you had sole decision on getting pregnant and told me about it, so I'm having sole decision on getting married and tell you about it" ??

I'd take a step back, have a chat with her about what the wedding means to both of you and what the marriage means to both of you. If the only thing she is wanting from it all is the big wedding (which there is nothing wrong with, some people see just being married very overrated) then it's admitting defeat not to have it, also to do it without her family there would probably make her feel very uncomfortable as I'm assuming you were at theirs.

Kittendreich

I too was a bit put off by your 'my way or nothing' approach. I know it can be daunting but I would find out what she wants and compromise. Does she just want a big, showy 'keeping up with the Jones' wedding, is it having the family all together that is important, is it a venue she has in mind...etc etc She has to be realistic about what you can afford, but you need to understand what is important to her too.

There are loads of tips on here about having a dream day at minimum cost. OK - she won't get an all-expense spared extravaganza...but insisting on such a minimal wedding is quite extreme (unless it is what you both want).

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Plans_all_plans wrote: »

A marriage is about compromise and taking the other persons view into account and at the moment you seem totally unwilling to compromise.

Compromise just means someone giving in.

OP - why do you want to get married?

Noctu

My local registry office is cheap and nasty (even though it's recently been done out) so that makes me a little biased, however having had a look at some of the other registry offices in the area I have to say some can be really lovely.

superfran_uk

Well, you seem like the perfect couple....

nickyhutch

laura.1984 wrote: »

Its not my idea of a good wedding. Maybe you should wait until you can both decided on what you want

Charming. What a nice thing to say after reading many posters say they got married in a register office.