MSE Parents Club Part 11

SugarSpun

Thanks choppy, you're very lovely :A

BrunoM wrote: »

We're also looking at playgroup/nursery stuff maybe for a couple of mornings a week or so. Both for a bit of socialising for E but more majorly for OH to have breaks; she isn't coping very well at the moment when it's just her and Elijah for long periods. Whole days planned in advance are ok but multiple days...

Off to Hampstead Heath to meet my mum and get very wet and muddy once the cleaners turn up.

Weezl, can we have more updates please, I'm sure you're tired and busy but my needs come first! :A Half the reason I keep lurking is to check on your progress!

I think the counselling and the nursery would be a good idea. It sounds to me like your OH is getting very stressed by E, and since he is a rowdy little thing and she is by herself with him a lot of the time it is not surprising. I worry that maybe she's so stressed about it that she's always starting her days from a baseline of stressed so that it takes a little less for her to get angry, and then she has to deal with feeling guilty and ashamed and then that makes her more stressed for the next day. Does that make sense? From that perspective, some time where he's doing his own thing sounds like an excellent plan, and counselling could help her manage her feelings and her anger a bit better.

Your Hampstead trip sounds like a lot of fun and I agree with updates. They are needed!

Sarah_Joanne

Ooh and I want a zebra! Am going to go to Tesco today to try and get one. I'm hoping that I won't have to go to all 3 of the Tesco stores near me but I will if I have to.

BrunoM

Thanks for comments/advice, all. Cleaners half hour late so far, no answer on the numbers I have for them, can't wait in much longer without screwing up our trip anyway, will end up going out and give up on them

At Aless's helpful advice, OH joined a US expat women in London organisation, but she is so far too shy/stressed about going with E, to turn up at any of the events hopefully will eventually arrange things so she can get to one and then if she likes it things will get easier.

aless02

Sarah_Joanne wrote: »

Ooh and I want a zebra! Am going to go to Tesco today to try and get one. I'm hoping that I won't have to go to all 3 of the Tesco stores near me but I will if I have to.

You might already know this, but it's for ages 12-36months?

MadDogWoman_2

I'll see you all later, need to top up food and play Easter bunny.

SugarSpun

Bruno, the expat organisations are great for mummies. I'm a member of one here and [STRIKE]it was at one of their events I met my husband[/STRIKE] I made loads of new friends once I had a Molly to take along. It makes shyness much easier, because people will talk about your little one and then when you're feeling a bit overwhelmed you can spend some time quietly talking to/playing with your kid - and then when you've had enough you can blame the baby and say you have to leave.

Sarah_Joanne

aless02 wrote: »

You might already know this, but it's for ages 12-36months?

Yes I know, thanks! But at that price I'll happily store it for a while!

ETA and I'm not sure I could ever pay £50 for it!

searching_me

MadDogWoman wrote: »

SM let's turn the 14th into a double celebration, you passing your theory test and Katie's birthday.

im up for that :D:D ....

this morning has not been a good start ... i forgot to do a bottle before bed so he had to wait which meant a good hour of whingying and clinging to me which is why it took an hour but hes got milky and cuddles with sister so hes happy ...oh and i got peed on as i pick him up to take him downstairs and his nappy leaked so i got wet ...

the dog almost didnt make it outside so that was a mad dash ...

managed to hoover and tidy downstairs so that'll do for now ..

zoes got an eye test at 12 and im so not in the mood for it as theres a footie match on but needs to be done ..

pp hope you got some sleep x

SugarSpun

Bahaahaaa Molly was practising Peekaboo with the blanket and chatting to her hands when we collected her from bed. She is now in her door bouncer and has managed to make her way to the shelves beside the door where she is chewing them with all her might.

AND I'VE JUST SEEN HOW SHE GOT THERE. She leaned, grabbed the support bar of the shelves, and then used the grip on the bar as balance while she walked over there. This is a scary week for us... perhaps we should start "walking child" proofing.

ETA: Sorry, I don't mean to be "that mum", it's just all so exciting for me. Sorry.

redmel1621

BrunoM wrote: »

She swears it was just the impact of 3 whole days in a row seeing no-one, going nowhere and having no help.
It is hard, but 3 days is not a lot really, when there are mums who have partners who work away, sometimes for weeks. At least she has only to clock watch until the evening and you often see to E in the night/morning/eve and plenty on days when you are at home....

Probably both things would be good.
I agree. It may be that you have to go down the nursery route first though, if there is still no/little improvement then you have some firm ground for pushing the other option:)

England shops don't all go 11-5 on Sundays and public holidays - it's something to do with big chain shops only or something. Not sure exactly how it works but for example my Sainsbury's Local is open 7am-11pm 7 days a week.
It is to do with how many square feet the store is...over something like 7000sq ft(random number because I forget the 'actual' number) they have to abide by the trading regulations...under that they can do what they like!

One of Elijah's regular things just now is, when ever he intends to do something naughty or which he thinks we may stop, he turns to us, waves and says "buh-bye mamma dadden", then assumes we have gone away and he can be sinful! :rolleyes:
Cute as always

Off to Hampstead Heath to meet my mum and get very wet and muddy once the cleaners turn up.

Hope you have a nice day out today and will be lovely to return to a shiny house:D:D