MSE Parents Club Part 11

feelinggood_2

pinkpig08 wrote: »

Feely - single parents still get benefits even if the absent parent does pay maintenance as the maintenance is disregarded in the assessment.

The state isn't so 'out of pocket' though IYSWIM.

feelinggood_2

BeenieCat wrote: »

It's not the PWC's fault if the NRP doesn't pay maintenance?

I know most won't agree with me, but I think it is, in a roundabout way.

BeenieCat

What?! Are you for real????

tarajayne

feelinggood wrote: »

As you are a SAHM yourself, I am sure you can recognise the benefits of being so. I know if OH and I split up, he'd continue to 'keep' me until LO was of school age, and I could work without it having a negative affect on him. I think that is different than getting the state to 'keep' me - I don't agree with benefits for single parents, when the absent parent doesn't pay maintaince.

You have no idea what your future holds. I never went into any relationship thinking, oh this will do for a while. Your OH could loose his job, have an illness that stops him working, meet someone else and leave you and believe me 'she' will not accept him keeping you at home with school age children when you are more than capable of keeping yourself. As a single mum I worked nights so that I was there during the day. I truly hope none of these things never happen to you or else your very 'ideal' bubble would burst.

got-it-spend-it

Evansangel wrote: »

Not anymore we aren't. She started, (umm how can i describe it) falling off my nipple and wouldn't latch properly again. And it was stressing me out, so i forumla fed her and she's happy and im happy and its not the end of the world
And she's putting on weight to

What about those who are going to be relying on benefits whilst they go to college and then uni to make a better life for themselves? (ie: me?)

Everyone makes fun of everyone online, its a part of being on such an open forum

Fair enough, Lily sounds adorable! ? I miss the nuzzling baby stage! I love reading about Lily on FB.

Fishcake- if she's feeding every 3-4 hours and having lots of dirty nappies I wouldn't be unduly worried. I'd keep an eye on your scar though and phone your GP if you're not happy with it.

3onitsway

feelinggood wrote: »

I know if OH and I split up, he'd continue to 'keep' me until LO was of school age, and I could work without it having a negative affect on him. I think that is different than getting the state to 'keep' me - I don't agree with benefits for single parents, when the absent parent doesn't pay maintaince.

That's what I thought - but ex-oh turned into an even more selfish ars£ after we split!

And working in that field, thousands of other parents thought the same until they found themselves single.

PP Single parents get to keep up to £20 pw of maintenance on top of their benefits at the moment. Next month it changes to all maintenance on top of benefits - so the state is even more out of pocket.

feelinggood_2

BeenieCat wrote: »

What?! Are you for real????

I've often thought the same about you ;-)

feelinggood_2

tarajayne wrote: »

You have no idea what your future holds. I never went into any relationship thinking, oh this will do for a while. Your OH could loose his job, have an illness that stops him working, meet someone else and leave you and believe me 'she' will not accept him keeping you at home with school age children when you are more than capable of keeping yourself. As a single mum I worked nights so that I was there during the day. I truly hope none of these things never happen to you or else your very 'ideal' bubble would burst.

I recognise what you are saying, thank you.

BeenieCat

feelinggood wrote: »

I've often thought the same about you ;-)

My comment was based on your outrageous generalising.

What's that one based on then? ^^

feelinggood_2

BeenieCat wrote: »

My comment was based on your outrageous generalising.

What's that one based on then? ^^

Things I find equally outrageous! :eek: