MSE Parents Club Part 11

pigpen

Routines... I had a routine and the baby slotted in to it.. if they didn't they got to do a fair amount of crying!! I already had a life.. they just came as a usurper! This started with number 1.. I ate at mealtimes.. he was fed before or after.. not during.. I went to bed and got up at certain times.. therefore he did too! his bath fitted in around my comings and goings. I made allowances for illness!

BeenieCat

I've just put Amber in her basket upstairs :eek: I normally have her attached to boob til i go to bed so i'm chancing my luck tonight after she slept for a ridiculous 11 hours last night lol. She's slept looooads today and it's the one day i decided not to wallpaper, doh.

workinmummy wrote: »

Beenie,

Have you ordered the Wilko Cot bed then?

Yeah Should be here Friday. It was £4.95 delivery, but i found a £10 code + £6.50 Quidco :T:j

newmoneysaver wrote: »

The set you linked to had a quilt - these aren't recommended for under 1's, so would you use it? Would you use the bumper?

csh wrote: »

B and M's are good for stuff. Don't do what I do and buy a huge pile you won't need lol Just a couple of sheets and blankets. Is Amber in sleeping bags?

Of the set i linked to i'd use the sheet, fleece and bumper, and then the quilt when she's a bit bigger. I do love it

We don't use sleeping bags, i just use several layers of thin blankets.

My ex text me today saying he wants Amber to have a good quality spring mattress and how much are they?? I didn't know what to do cos i didn't wanna lie in case i let him visit her in the future and he found out (hmm i'm thinking i was a bit stupid there), and told him i'd already ordered a £30 foam one (white lie ) but that she still needed bedding. He said he'd transfer some money over for the bedding, and he did it an hour later £50. So that's a total of £170 he's paid - took me a while to pick myself up off the floor when i checked the bank statement.

aless02

jennynoo wrote: »

Yeah, I did the sweaty things for a few weeks, now I'm onto major hair loss :eek:

OMG YES. I did the sweating thing for the first week or 2 and now my hair is coming out in huge clumps. Been meaning to ask the thread if this is around the right time for that to happen, but I guess so! Thankfully I had horse tail hair beforehand otherwise I would seriously be worried about going bald with the amount that comes out every day .

Evansangel wrote: »

Hmmm, im not going to try a strict routine, more of a go with the flow but still in a little routine. If that makes sense?

I quoted the wrong post, but I started down the "routine" route at around 8 weeks (though wish I had tried it sooner as it made everything sooo much better). I use Baby Whisperer's rough EASY, though I'm loathe to admit it on here so I'll go hide in the corner
7am - wake up for the day and 1st feed
8/8:30am - down for first nap
10am - wake up from nap and feed
11:30am - 2nd nap
1pm - wake up and feed
2:30pm - 3rd nap
4pm - wake up and feed
5:15/5:30pm - down for tiny catnap just so we can make it 'til bedtime
6/6:15pm - awake and feed
7pm - last feed, immediately followed by a bath every other day, change into PJs and bedtime which is supposed to be by 7:30pm but DH isn't the fastest so it usually winds up being 7:45pm.
3/4am - feed and immediately back to bed

In an ideal world mind you!! This can often vary 30 minutes in either direction, especially if he woke up early (which happens often) or needed a longer nap or finished a nap early or whatever. The timings are less important than making sure he goes for a nap roughly 1.5 hrs after the end of the last one. Also the past few nights have been very disruptive and waking at 1am for a feed, meaning he has an extra one at about 4:30, argh.

I also realise it sounds like LOTS of naps, but he is thriving on it and I've actually read in multiple places from reputable sources that a baby can only stay awake no more than 2hrs before getting overtired and silly Baby Whisperer recommends about 1.5hrs at this age, moving to 2hrs at 4 months. But shhh I didn't admit that .

tiamai_d wrote: »

It's not the actual feeding that I found difficult, it was just that they were a bit older and expected to be in their cot asleep at 7pm When they were younger they didn't mind so much where they slept, or being moved about when sleeping.

This is what I was thinking...in the early days, we kept Finn up til 9/10pm and he could pretty much sleep anywhere. Now he needs consistency a lot more and goes to bed a lot earlier. We plan on BLW, but I still think that going pre-weaning is still easier as feeding isn't something you even have to think about, you know?

ladybirdintheuk

Glamazon wrote: »

Get to work for 8am - be sad all day :(:(:(

I barely managed to get out the house by 1pm the other day! :rotfl:

Decided to brave the Next Sale :eek: Is it Saturday? Need to see what time my local one opens - hoping to pick up some nice work clothes.

I have less than 8 weeks to go

You will be fine when you get there, trust me. I hadrly thought abuot Izzy all day . I have some really good pictures of her pinned to the wall, so they make me grin whenever I look at them. I know she is having a fab time at nursery or with my Mum and that makes it loads easier. Will your work be a bit flexible with your hours for the first week or so? You might find you need some extra "dropping off" time to start with until he gets used to it.

tarajayne

Glamazon wrote: »

ooooooo how did you do that?

I have an account so I got an invite.

MadDogWoman wrote: »

Tara - so true DH and I love there.

I even like the fact that you get the odd soldier legging it down to the beach and dunking themselves in the sea and then legging it back up.

Even better when they take their top off before going in! But I'm not a fan of Exmouth, too chavvy. Unless it's a girls night out then it's gotta be Exmouth. :cool:

tarajayne

*whispers to Tia*

what is this baby led weaning they all talk about?

tiamai_d

Beenie, I would tell him you have ordered and paid for a foam one which was £30. Do not give him any excuse to complain. Even though it goes against everything I wanna tell him (like !!!! off), keep yourself right and view the money as a legal issue (which it is).

tiamai_d

tarajayne wrote: »

*whispers to Tia*

what is this baby led weaning they all talk about?

*whispers back*

You don't give purees, you let the baby feed themselves with 'real' food, bits of this and that... I don't really understand it myself, it's like just skipping the puree stage and going onto finger foods?

*awaits someone yelling at me that I'm soooo wrong*

feelinggood_2

Holidays, I suppose it depends a lot on the baby. Aslong as LO has me, and I have a sling, we don't need anything else, so don't have a problem going away now.

I like routine mum and routine baby theory, who was it who told me about that? Me and LO are perfectly matched, both very much not into routines!

jillie1974

*i tried giving K 'finger food' and he flung it on the floor... purees are soooo much more fun and easier*