MSE Parents Club Part 11

csh_2

weezl74 wrote: »

i think each pregnancy is different and I hope susan and csh have a lovely one next time to compensate

Both of mine have been awful, my body doesn't like it. Third time will be as awful I'm sure

Glamazon wrote: »

opinion time please
Pros - It means we pay £60 a week less in childcare
J is only in creche for 3 days
I would get 3 full days with him rather than just 2 and 2.5hrs 5 nights a week
He gets a full day with Daddy - more bonding time

Cons
Lose £75 from OH not working (thats before tax)
I wouldn't see him much those 3 days or the day when he is with OH - only 1.5hrs a night.

We would need to give creche a months notice, do budget planner and speak to our respective workplaces but thought I'd get other people's views on it in case I'm missing something

thanks

If CC is £60 and he is losing £75, is he not then only technically losing £15?
If someone charged me £15 for a day off I'd take it, but I look at things weird!
I could not imagine working 5 days a week and would move heaven and earth to work less days. Again thats me and working FT works out for plenty of others but I also have a very demanding DD who is prob more work than 4 other children put together!

SugarSpun wrote: »

Glam, I don't want you to feel ganged up on but I'd share Fitz's concerns.

Well, the way I see it is he only takes the pi$s because he can get away with it cos Glam is there to do everything. If shes not there I don't imagine for a second he wouldn't do everything J needs. Whether he'd do any housework or whatever is a different matter!
Maybe a little bit of responsibility towards his son rather than being sidelined while someone else does everything would be the making of the lad?

I appreciate the last sentence comes across very harsh, I could write a paragraph making it sound better but giving the gist as I cba typing muchly

jha

Glamazon

csh - just worked out that after tax, ni, student, loan & pension he'd only earn £50 for that day anyway.

I just mentioned to him that he would need to actually care for Jack and not go on the internet all day (:o:o) and he said he knew that!
Just heard him mention it to MIL and she seemed to think J should go to creche 5 days! From a woman who never worked cos she wanted to look after her boys!
Hypocrite!!

Be back in a bit just gonna put J to bed, going for early bed tonight to see if that helps.

weezl74

jha wrote: »

does this piccie work?
http://www.facebook.com/home.php?#!/photo.php?pid=30849816&id=1574151918

I don't have permission to view! Is that cos Fergie hasn't worked out how to send you a friend request?

SusanC wrote: »

Ideally an unrealistically large number.
Realistically: Me either 2:4, 3:3 or 4:2, OH I imagine slightly lower (probably 2:2, 3:1 or 4:1) but he has agreed to a minimum total of 4. Ideally I would want us to adopt a sibling group because they are harder to place and can end up being separated if nobody is willing to adopt them as a group. I also looked into adoption from China (because we disagree with their horrific birth control policies/methods) but we would be low down on the priority list (the older you are and the less children you have already the higher chance you have) and also we don't earn enough to meet the income requirements.

fascinating! Thanks so you both like the idea of at least one more biologically followed by the adoptive ones?

I love the idea of sibling groups.

I'm sure you already know this, but adoption placements which fail is often attributed to how traumatised the child has been by their early experience/how able they are to form new attachments. Having a sibling who they stay with throughout is one of the best buffers to that early trauma.

So my feeling putting those 2 together is that a placement of a sibling pair would be more likely to be successful. Also I think since your biological ones (Alice plus new baby/babies) would have a 'true sibling' bond, it feels nicer that your adoptive ones would too, rather than feel left out.

Guessing that if from China though the eldest sibling would be left with the birth parents?

Becles

Sami_Bee wrote: »

possibly the answer is ....cbeebies They have a phonics show that Chris randomly spouts facts from so could be the same for Charlotte?
Alpha Blocks
yey for sensible GPs! I 'm loving High 5! so sweet.

I'll ask my Mam if she watches that at her house. She doesn't really bother with the TV here.

Got my big assignment finished today and submitted. Feels like a weight has been lifted.

Need to revise tonight for the exam tomorrow afternoon.

Evansangel

jha wrote: »

Beautiful

BeenieCat

Susan i caught a bit of the NE news but didn't see you

I've been out so no idea if council bint has been to have words with Freaks, but they're not doing it atm, won't hold thy breath though.

Went to Halfords and wasn't impressed at the lack of staff to ask for advice. So went to JJB and the blokey in there said deffo get him a 20" cos he can touch the floor on it albeit tiptoes, and would grow straight out of the 18".

Confusedddddddddd!!!

DS had to go and ruin it for himself though by demanding we buy him a new bike there and then, for no apparent reason (and aswell as a birthday present!). He acts so spoilt :mad: i was lucky if i got a sweet bought for me yet he keeps demanding Wii games and bikes during casual strolls in the shops.

SugarSpun

csh wrote: »

Maybe a little bit of responsibility towards his son rather than being sidelined while someone else does everything would be the making of the lad?

Maybe, it just seems like he's been enjoying his time with his brother in the house at the expense of making the effort to get involved.

I leave OH lists when I'm out for the day. Normally they're filled with twice as much stuff as I want him to get done, so I come home and half of it's done, but that's the amount I wanted done anyway :rotfl: I do find it frustrating though that he puts her in her various play zones (mat, playgym, baby cage, L&G, door bouncer) and lets her amuse herself in them rather than spending more time with her, and I wonder if that's just him or if it's a manly sort of thing.

Gorgeous jha, well done!

And well done Becles, it's wonderful handing stuff in, such a sense of achievement!

I love the idea of adopting sibling groups too.

BeenieCat

jha good to see you back, i missed you (and i miss lou66)

csh_2

SugarSpun wrote: »

Maybe, it just seems like he's been enjoying his time with his brother in the house at the expense of making the effort to get involved.

I do find it frustrating though that he puts her in her various play zones (mat, playgym, baby cage, L&G, door bouncer) and lets her amuse herself in them rather than spending more time with her, and I wonder if that's just him or if it's a manly sort of thing.

No [STRIKE]man[/STRIKE] one really makes an effort if they can get away with not doing it though! For example, if my OH cooked my dinner for me 7 nights a week without being asked I'd prob start just sitting on my arsey expecting it.

I think thats a man thing, my OH does that. K's always in or on sonething when OH has him! Along with the constant need to have 'something' on TV or whatever, its a gadget thing!

yey, can say arsey!