My Caribbean Wedding... and bringing the theme back to North Yorkshire!

Birdie85

Oh my word, I get married in 4 months today!

I'm looking forward to Friday as I get paid then I can buy more stuff; I need some big polystyrene balls so I can make my paper parasol topiary thingies and I've seen blue and pink giftbags on the 'Bay for the OOT bags. I e-mailed a load of mens skincare companies asking them for samples of shaving foam ('for my OH who has sensitive skin') but I've got diddly squat from them, although Gillette said they'd send me a voucher which was nice! It's annoying because I kind of need shaving foam since I've bought razors but it's the only thing I can't find super cheap! What I really want is sachets (for weight and size reasons) but they're not that easy to get hold of. I'm sure I saw some on ebay the other day but can I find them now??? Can I heck!

Mrs_Moore_To_Be

Hey Birdy, how much do you need?

There are 4 from here:
http://cgi.ebay.co.uk/12th-scale-foamy-shaving-foam-/350239565851?pt=UK_Dolls_House_Miniatures&hash=item518be7a81b

oooh oooh oooh or these?!
http://cgi.ebay.co.uk/10-PALMOLIVE-SHAVING-SOAP-STICKS-/180575408523?pt=UK_Collectables_Barber_Shop_Collectables_LE&hash=item2a0b22118b

xx

Birdie85

I think the first ones will be too small... they're for a doll house! Thanks for the second one though, they might do, although I'm not really sure what the difference between shaving foam/gel and a soap stick is, might have to ask OH, no point in getting something that no-one would use! I'm getting 10 of everything to be on the safe side!

Mrs_Moore_To_Be

Haha, The description is blocked by work so could only see the pic. :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

As for the stick/gel/soap, ive no idea, ill keep my eyes peeled for you though x

Birdie85

Not much to update on progress-wise but I thought I'd post anyway! I have been playing about with the paper umbrella topiary thingy, it's not finished but I'll post a picture tonight for you to have a nosey. I've also been getting a few more bits for the OOT bags, found a set of 10 mini lipglosses in Home Bargains for £2.99 so I got that, I was going to get the exact same thing (same colours and everything, just a different name) from Boots (a 17 set) for £6 so being nice and MSE there! My Mum's also been super and got me loads of perfume and aftershave samples and moisturiser samples for men and women from work so I'm getting there, got 2 little boxes full of stuff now! I'm thankful for my extra 5kg 'wedding' luggage allowance! I've seen the giftbags I'm going to put the bits in on ebay for not-a-lot-of-money, they're paper gift bags but posh ones with 'rope' handles rather than paper so they'll look nice.

OH found out last week that his best man isn't coming to the wedding. I'm not happy about this at all; it can't be due to money as he's a pilot earning plenty and he's just got a job with a commercial airline so going to be earning even more shortly. He has known about the wedding for a year so he can't say that he's not been able to plan for it, he got our invite then booked to go to Florida this summer! I have a feeling that his new girlfriend has something to do with it... I just can't believe that OH's oldest and closest friend doesn't want to come to his wedding! Oh well, OH and I were talking about it last night and this time next year we won't be the ones with the regrets about it all, it will be the people who didn't come with the regrets! What's annoyed us both is that so many of our friends have tried to skirt around the issue of the wedding, instead of telling us they're not coming months ago they've just ignored it and hoped we'd forget about it! OH's now ex best man only told him by casually dropping it into a conversation and hoping OH wouldn't say any more about it, which of course he did and made his friend say it properly to him! We'd never treat people like that, it's disgraceful! I may be being bridezilla about it but I think it's really unfair to string people along by saying that yes you're coming you just need to figure out schedules/money etc before you can book it then saying once pressed that actually you're not coming and hadn't really ever planned to come! Now OH has to decide between the 2 other friends who are coming for his best man, I have a feeling he'll make them both Best Men because he doesn't like making decisions!

Oh and there's been some Hen Party drama! I've been left out of a lot of it since it was supposed to be a surprise but ended up having to stick my oar in last week because people were going to fall out! When the girls had the meeting about it a few weeks ago all they did was decide that we'd go to York for 2 nights. Then they started to make more plans over Facebook and it turned out that the plan was to stay in a Travelodge for 2 nights, the first night we were going to stay in pyjama party style (which we did for my birthday and it was lame, we all decided we're too old for it!), Saturday they weren't sure what we'd do, maybe shopping then go out on the night time then Sunday we were going to the cheapest spa (a Bannatynes Gym type place) they could find. This was costing about £150-£200. Half the girls were saying that they saw no point in staying 2 nights when nothing was happening on the first night/following morning and that it was a lot of money for something that screamed cheap. The other half wanted to do it because it was what they wanted and they weren't really thinking about me. My Mum was refusing to come because she doesn't 'do' Travelodges! I have to say that when one of my friends told me about it because she was worried I turned my nose up and said it didn't sound like me at all and asked her to find an alternative and to tell everyone that I didn't want to go for 2 nights and didn't want everyone to spend so much, which is true but I was never consulted about either!

Thankfully the plans have changed now, my 'worried' friend has found a really nice hotel and spa in Leeds, 1 night bed and breakfast, entrance to the spa, reasonable priced treatments to pick and choose from and a drinks reception before we go out for £61pp! My Mum is happy because she can come now, I need to find out if MIL2B wants to come but I think she will and it's half the price of the previous plans! I think the girls who came up with the original plans are a bit put out that someone else has changed the plans but I'm a little put out that they came up with the first plan at all, 5 of the others coming were worried about it and kicked up a stink because they knew I wouldn't be happy but they just carried on with the plans regardless!

Ooooh that was a bit of a ramble! Sorry!

sexymouse

Nice to see you posting again Birdie - sorry you've had such a hassle with the hen do and best man. I know exactly what you mean though, and don't think you're being bridezillaish at all! My only bridesmaid (the only guest coming to the actual wedding) turned round and casually said a couple of months ago, that she may not be able to come any more (she's put down a £150 deposit on the trip), which has really upset me, particularly as I'd spent ages getting her dress, getting it adjusted for her, got her jewellery and her makeup. I stupidly chose someone who I didn't know that well (most of my friends had other commitments, and I wanted someone there with me, and she had offered), and I'm starting to see how unreliable she is. She wanted me to go for a belated birthday celebration at her house the other day (I posted a card to her - she didn't even come to mine or give me a card), and I just didn't turn up, as she hadn't replied to my text message about doing something during the day.

Sorry - that has turned into a rant of my own!

Sending hugs your way.

The OOT bags sound great - can't wait to see pictures when they're all assembled.

Dinah93

£150-£200 is a bit much I agree with you Birdie, I'm glad you've found something that suits everyone. If the other friends want to do this bigger weekend what's stopping them doing that another time anyway? Have to say I'd rather go to a travelodge than a b & b though, has your mum not been to one recently? They're generic but always immaculately clean. We stayed in the one in central York for my hen weekend and it's partly in a fantastic old building and it was very affordable for everyone so suited us down to the ground. That said, if it was a friends hen do I'd go even if they put us all in a tent because its people that are the most important. Speaking of, why does your OH have to pick between the two, I think he either needs to pick both or not have one, how would the other friend feel knowing he was second best out of only two friends? I'd be quite put out to be honest that I'd shelled out lots of money and used up my holiday time and yet wasn't 'good enough'.

Getting close now, when is the hen weekend?

Birdie85

Dinah93 wrote: »

£150-£200 is a bit much I agree with you Birdie, I'm glad you've found something that suits everyone. If the other friends want to do this bigger weekend what's stopping them doing that another time anyway? Have to say I'd rather go to a travelodge than a b & b though, has your mum not been to one recently?

We're staying here which you've got to admit looks a lot nicer than a Travelodge! I've been to a Travelodge recently but IMO it's not 'me' for my hen do, it's fine for weekends away (and better than some of the awful B&Bs we've stayed in in the past!) but I wanted something special since I'm only a hen once and want to feel a little spoiled! My Mum is at the stage of life (and can afford it) where she wants to stay in nicer hotels. The fact that she would have been left to go back to a little plain room when all the young ones were on a night out too really didn't appeal!

Dinah93 wrote: »

Speaking of, why does your OH have to pick between the two, I think he either needs to pick both or not have one, how would the other friend feel knowing he was second best out of only two friends? I'd be quite put out to be honest that I'd shelled out lots of money and used up my holiday time and yet wasn't 'good enough'.

I see where you're coming from and OH probably will pick both but it's a small informal wedding party, I've only got 1 bridesmaid despite the fact that there are 4 girls to choose from. The boys both know that the now ex-best man was always going to be best man since OH was 10 so they're expecting nothing, they're going to see their friend get married, not to work their way into the wedding party. When they booked to come, they were booking as friends, why should their feelings change now? He's got his brothers there too... are they going to be put out because they haven't been chosen? No, they're not. It's nothing to do with being 'good enough', OH won't be chosen to be either friend's best man when they get married and it doesn't upset him, it's a fact that the groom has to choose one man (usually) to stand up with him and if they're real friends, they'll accept that. It's a good job that there aren't more guys coming, OH would probably end up with a groom's brigade because he loves them all equally!

Getting close now, when is the hen weekend?

It's on the 15th January. And in 102 days we'll be on the plane! :j

Birdie85

Here's a picture of the in progress topiary thingy! Got no idea what to use as the 'trunk' though....

Birdie85

OK so I'm absolutely definitely not worrying about the Watchdog story about Thomas Cook weddings... including one in the Dominican Republic! :eek: I do believe that before we go I'll be ringing the wedding people to make sure that everything is in place. Lordy, if anything went wrong my Mum would storm the head office and will have to be dragged out by police! :eek: