was upset now turning to anger

madmumof2

You know iamana1ias (and a couple of others on this thread), your posts say a lot about you. You clearly have nothing better to do than troll a thread, spreading the bitterness you clearly have about relationships.

I have no idea who you are and I've never seen you post before (or I've never noticed you before), but from your posts I assume you are either unwillingly single or in a very unhappy relationship.

Believe it or not (I know it's shocking on a wedding forum, maybe too complicated for a small mind to understand) the women (and some men) are here because they are happy and are getting married! If you're not, what is the point of your presence? Do you really have nothing better to do? It's none of your business what anyone wears, wedding or not, and you have no right to belittle anyone undeservedly.

The OP is upset and, in my opinion, rightly so. If you don't agree, do you really think anyone cares? Who are you to anyone here? If the OP was being out of order, fair enough, have a go, as I am doing now because that would be deserved, but she wasn't.

As it is, she has posted a perfectly valid post. You have a lot of growing up to do sweetheart. I don't know how old you are, I would assume quite old -young people don't tend to have so much bitterness inside them- but whatever your age, either act it, or go and annoy people on a forum you actually belong on.

To the OP, I think they were excited about seeing their dresses and probably love your dress but even if it's not their style, it is yours so be happy with the dress you love. Confidence is attractive, so as long as you feel good in it and love it you will look beautiful.

beks

^^^^^ Great post!!!!

alenax

poorandindenial wrote: »

A random on topic post from someone who isn't getting married (ever) but has been a BM 3 and a half times (the half was the bride wasn't having any BMs but I did all the BM type stuff like staying with her the night before, helping her get ready, running round doing last minute 'project management')

Anyhooooooo

In my experience brides all do go a bit 'zilla at some point, but hey, they are just stressed and letting off steam

I wouldn't have considered saying anything but 'wow you look incredible/fantastic/so beautiful etc etc etc to a bride that I BMed for. BUT (and I don't want to create enemies) some brides do go on and on and on about their wedding and they may have had hen night/wedding plan discussion fatugue that impacted on their ability to show enthusiasm.

Now I have always pasted a smile on it, grinned through and said approximately the right things at the right time, but I have sometimes thought 'what have you done with my lovely friend and will you stop going OOOOOOONNNNNNN about the flipping hen do and how the dress is so perfect'

I am not saying that this was what happened here, but sometimes keeping the enthusiasm levels up is really, really hard work as a BM. I say give them a second chance and if they carry on showing no interest then have a word. But your 'no interest' may be their 'every spare bit of energy I can muster in my busy and hectic life'

Or maybe they had just been doing secret plotting for your hen night and you caught them mid whisper about it

Couldn't have put it better myself

nickyhutch

princesswoo wrote: »

Its down to personnal choice.

Personnaly i wouldnt feel married if i got married in a registry ofice of approved venue. I need a church and all its grandure. Thats why it has taken is so long to set a date as we had to find a venue i was happy to get married in as im divorced. As we now live in scotland we have found a enue with a church attached and a minister who is very happy to marry us.

If my only option was to get married in a registry office i personnally wouldnt bother with all the dresses and stuff as we would get married here in a registry office for legal reasons and then have a blessing on the beach in ibiza and use that as our proper wedding.

But i have been too and seen many a wedding at the registry office, my mum has a lifetime membership card, and some of the wedding look fab. Its all down to personnal choice. Its your day and you can have it how you want it, some will love it some will hate it, bit like marmite.

You're right, each to their own. I don't like the implication that a register office wedding is not a "proper" wedding, though I'm enjoying planning my small wedding - it's not consuming me, and I'm enjoying it rather than getting stressed about it.

pretzelnut

nickyhutch wrote: »

You're right, each to their own. I don't like the implication that a register office wedding is not a "proper" wedding, though I'm enjoying planning my small wedding - it's not consuming me, and I'm enjoying it rather than getting stressed about it.

Im not implying a registry office isnt a proper wedding because it is.

But it wouldnt feel like it for ''me''. If i was the one getting married.

Good on you for havng a small wedding, i wanted a small wedding then changed my mind and decided to go for it. Then comes the stress but i work better under pressure.

Im sure your wedding will be fab, as will everyone elses, regardless of where we do it or how we do it.

frannyann

nickyhutch wrote: »

You're right, each to their own. I don't like the implication that a register office wedding is not a "proper" wedding, though I'm enjoying planning my small wedding - it's not consuming me, and I'm enjoying it rather than getting stressed about it.

Nicky, honestly I think the OP was only reacting to some rather nasty comments from a troll. My first wedding was in a registery office and it was a lovely but small affair. Which suited both me and my 'then' H2B. This time we are getting married in a small but lovely room at a hotel, so still keeping small and low key. Horses for courses. Please don't take any offence, as I think thats what the troll was aiming to cause, as this is one of the 'kindest' parts of MSE as its soo supportive.

nickyhutch

Thanks frannyann. I think you're right, but it'd be nice if rene would say so too :-)

mrshaigh2b1987

I think the repies by iamana1ias are totally uncalled for and iamana1ias is obviously just a bitter, twisted, lonely and very unhappy person and if you really believe that marriage is a farce then u should just go off and put a downer else where! all your doing here is upsetting people for no reason what so ever! I have to say though that i really didnt like the comment from reneb about registry office weddings!!!! our wedding was in a gorgeous registry office in our councillors chambers in the town hall and it was everything I ever dreamed off... and more! I had the big white dress that i wanted and yes it only cost me £240 but that really doesnt matter to me and i had 6 bm's and all the trimmings. I really couldnt have asked for anything more!! However, I do understand that reneb was only retaliating to the nasty comments from iamana1ias so im sure she didnt really mean to be so mean about registry office weddings. I think the best thing to do is just ignore then people who are writing nasty comments and carry on the conversation that the OP started

beks

I agree with Franny, its what I was trying to say too!!
Rene isn't online to defend herself but I think she would say the same.
And Mrshaigh2b- yes, I agree totally, I said the same earlier but then reacted myself!!- sometimes it is easier said than done when the comments get personal and you want to either defend yourself or someone else who is being unfairly attacked- hence why I think Rene logged off!

superfran_uk

I think you're over-reacting, remember it's your big day but not theirs. I've been bored stiff listening to friends going on and on about their weddings and smiled through it but am trying not to do the same - that's why i'm here instead! Maybe it's a bit of that!

Moral is, you can't dictate their reactions to a dress which may not be to their taste.

And I took offence at the registry office wedding comments. I wouldn't even consider getting married in something resembling a meringue but I wouldn't come on here and say that wearing one would mean it wasn't a proper wedding. I don't care who the comments were towards, it's a public forum, you should be careful what you post.