was upset now turning to anger

beks

iamana1ias wrote: »

Most weddings/marriages are a farce anyway.

Why are you hanging around the wedding board trying to annoy people then? Go somewhere you are wanted.

shellsuit

iamana1ias wrote: »

Says more about you than it does me

Most weddings/marriages are a farce anyway.

If most weddings and marriages are a farce, toddle off from the wedding board and go and stir somewhere else.

Taadaa

iamana1ias wrote: »

Says more about you than it does me

Most weddings/marriages are a farce anyway.

So now we get to what the real issue is. You have been left on the shelf. I'm very sorry to hear that, it has clearly affected your personality and made you rather bitter and twisted.

Taadaa

Wow I just noticed, seven years of MSE! Sorry totally off topic x

nickyhutch

Taadaa wrote: »

nickyhutch I got married the first time round in a registry office and I wasn't offended. It didn't work out. Sh*t happens to the best of us. But you are right, we mostly only plan to get married once, unless you are a very silly 21yo who wasn't really thinking.

As an aside, I also have a child out of wedlock, and sometimes I leave the house without a chaperone :eek: in fact once, I opened the door to the postman in my pjs :rotfl:

So did I, and I am the second time too, and it offended me. Why should we not bother with a dress, bridesamids etc. as rene implied?

Stephb1986_2

It looks like some people are bored Rene let them get on with it they aren't worth replying to.

Steph xx

alenax

By the way, if you're going to try to have a serious argument with someone who is clearly trying to wind people up, the best way to "win" it is not to rise up to it.

beks

nickyhutch wrote: »

So did I, and I am the second time too, and it offended me. Why should we not bother with a dress, bridesamids etc. as rene implied?

I think rene posted like that due to the reaction of a previous poster who was slating her reaction. I really don't think she meant it as a general registary office downer on people. Don't take offence, I think the responses to her post initially were very harsh and of course that put her in a reactive mode. I could be wrong but I think on here, we all understand we have different tastes and needs.

pretzelnut

nickyhutch wrote: »

So did I, and I am the second time too, and it offended me. Why should we not bother with a dress, bridesamids etc. as rene implied?

Its down to personnal choice.

Personnaly i wouldnt feel married if i got married in a registry ofice of approved venue. I need a church and all its grandure. Thats why it has taken is so long to set a date as we had to find a venue i was happy to get married in as im divorced. As we now live in scotland we have found a enue with a church attached and a minister who is very happy to marry us.

If my only option was to get married in a registry office i personnally wouldnt bother with all the dresses and stuff as we would get married here in a registry office for legal reasons and then have a blessing on the beach in ibiza and use that as our proper wedding.

But i have been too and seen many a wedding at the registry office, my mum has a lifetime membership card, and some of the wedding look fab. Its all down to personnal choice. Its your day and you can have it how you want it, some will love it some will hate it, bit like marmite.

poorandindenial

A random on topic post from someone who isn't getting married (ever) but has been a BM 3 and a half times (the half was the bride wasn't having any BMs but I did all the BM type stuff like staying with her the night before, helping her get ready, running round doing last minute 'project management')

Anyhooooooo

In my experience brides all do go a bit 'zilla at some point, but hey, they are just stressed and letting off steam

I wouldn't have considered saying anything but 'wow you look incredible/fantastic/so beautiful etc etc etc to a bride that I BMed for. BUT (and I don't want to create enemies) some brides do go on and on and on about their wedding and they may have had hen night/wedding plan discussion fatugue that impacted on their ability to show enthusiasm.

Now I have always pasted a smile on it, grinned through and said approximately the right things at the right time, but I have sometimes thought 'what have you done with my lovely friend and will you stop going OOOOOOONNNNNNN about the flipping hen do and how the dress is so perfect'

I am not saying that this was what happened here, but sometimes keeping the enthusiasm levels up is really, really hard work as a BM. I say give them a second chance and if they carry on showing no interest then have a word. But your 'no interest' may be their 'every spare bit of energy I can muster in my busy and hectic life'

Or maybe they had just been doing secret plotting for your hen night and you caught them mid whisper about it