She has been unfaithful and I need to leave - I need advice

viktory

confusedandconfused wrote: »

That's what I'm going to do. Please try not to be so judgmental. I want to sort this out.

You cheeky sod! It has been MY money you have been stealing! I can't afford to buy a bloody house, yet you think it is perfectly OK to have one being paid for by me and other taxpayers and your own being paid for by your sister!! And you ask me not to be judgemental! I am entitled to be as judgemental as I like - I hope they lock you up, stop all your benefits and reclaim every stolen penny.

passatrider

viktory wrote: »

You cheeky sod! It has been MY money you have been stealing! I can't afford to buy a bloody house, yet you think it is perfectly OK to have one being paid for by me and other taxpayers and your own being paid for by your sister!! And you ask me not to be judgemental! I am entitled to be as judgemental as I like - I hope they lock you up, stop all your benefits and reclaim every stolen penny.

The guy knows he's done wrong, so just leave him alone!

chesky369

......and I am now worried that if I leave the relationship, I won't get my mortgage interest paid and may even loose my benifits...

he's more worried about losing out, rather than the fact that he's done wrong.

passatrider

chesky369 wrote: »

......and I am now worried that if I leave the relationship, I won't get my mortgage interest paid and may even loose my benifits...

he's more worried about losing out, rather than the fact that he's done wrong.

Why the need to kick a man while he's down? We all make mistakes in life including yourself.:(

confusedandconfused

chesky369 wrote: »

......and I am now worried that if I leave the relationship, I won't get my mortgage interest paid and may even loose my benifits...

he's more worried about losing out, rather than the fact that he's done wrong.

As I have said, I have always worked and paid my taxes. I have made a mistake and I will pay what ever is coming to me. However, it still stands I am living with a partner who has cheated and I need to move out.
This claim is only 5 months old and at least I am going to own up and pay back what I owe. You should be going after the cheats who have no regard and knowingly cheat for years, who have no intention of doing the right thing.

I would maybe have had your view when I was working but due to the economy I lost my job and believe me I don't like not working.
I know our ‘British’ way can sometimes be harsh but please understand I am sorting this.

beverleyhills

Confusedandconfused.
Have you got a trusted friend or relative who would accompany you to any interviews and help you to be objective.
If you are honest now, although the situation may appear to get worse eventually the mists will clear.
Take it a step at a time. Well done for being honest and good luck.

confusedandconfused

I appriciate everyones input and everyone has an opinion which I respect.

If anyone can give me any 'constructive' advice on what may happen when I inform JCP it would be appriciated. i.e.,

1. What would have been the situation if I declaired the other property at the time of the claim. Would they take all the rent as income, or just the balance after the mortgage is paid (which is £0)

2. If they suspend beinifts. Will these be given back if the matter is satisfatorly settled and I can continue to claim.

3. If I am fined, what amounts of money are involved.

Thanks again everyone

NASA_2

The claim form, and the teleclaim, ask for details of other property/land. Its not something you can forget to declare as it is explicitly asked for.

You lied, whatever the excuse, and you should be asked to pay back the money.

viktory

passatrider wrote: »

The guy knows he's done wrong, so just leave him alone!

No, I won't leave him alone. He has defrauded the tax payer and would have continued to do so, had his relationship not broken down. I do not fall for all the old pony about not knowing what he was doing - he has hidden the fact that he owns a house (and receives rent on it!) for heavens sake. Now he is looking for sympathy and support - and ask us not to be judgemental! Talk about rubbing salt into the wounds.

passatrider wrote: »

Why the need to kick a man while he's down? We all make mistakes in life including yourself.:(

Yep, I have made loads of mistakes - but I tell you what, I have never committed an act of fraud.

All these "well done on being honest comments" are hilarious. He is only coming clean so that he can continue to claim benefits!

elektra-2007

wouldnt it just be easier to go get a job and stop all benefits, then ur not defrauding anymore. If your a single bloke id get down to some employment agencies with id and get working. I reakon once you tell them all benefits will be stopped anyway, they tend to suspend whilst investigating.
I know emplyment is scarce but if your single you can work any hours/days there will be something out there.