my big fat gypsy wedding

bigmomma051204

Miss_Stellerstar wrote: »

Venue most likely used their 'right to refuse service' to get out of it but surely if there's a contract they can't back out of it just because they are traverliers.

If you think about it they only marry into the traverliers so their choice is very limited and they only met potentional husbands at gatherings so are going to dress to get the most attention. It's a shame really because they go to all the trouble to stay pure and all that but show no self respect to themselfs in how they dress.

Though I must say I liked some of the corsets they had but would never wear it to a wedding!

I agree about the way the young girls dressed at the "events" like Appleby... they are they to be "chosen" by their future husband..... it is JUST like a meat market - so they put EVERYTHING on show....as much leg, b**bs and midriff etc as they can to get some interest. Which TOTALLY (to me anyway!) makes the fact that they have stayed "pure" pointless as they are basically selling themselves to the very first bidder who likes the look of their flesh!! And as for the comment from the last girl's Mum, who mentioned something about how girls are discouraged from getting jobs, school etc as it gives them too many aspirations...they should just want to "settle down" :eek:

I know that they are a law unto themselves which is fair enough... but i do wonder what happens to the girls (or lads) who DO want "more" than JUST to "settle down" and marry the first guy who comes along... not that i wish to start a debate, but all the parents seemed VERY strict about how their children would NEVER marry a "country girl/boy" (ie not traveller etc) and that it would "shame their family" if they did so.....just got me wondering if many people these days DO decide to give up the traveller life as it is not for them, they want more from life than JUST marriage, etc?? And it did give me the feeling that a traveller girl gets Whatever she wants for the wedding, because it is the last time she will truly get to make her own choices etc (ie like the last girl who didnt know whether she would "have" to move away from her friends and family to Ireland because the new husband's family all live over there etc) and it almost seems like "of course you want to get married, you get to dress up like a princess for the day, don't worry about what marriage actually entails...." (which at 16, like most of the brides, would be a dream!!)

Anyway, i shall stop pondering and pop off to bed now lol! :A

R2K

The brides dress can cost up to anything from £20,000 to maybe £40,000.

Then the brides maid's dresses can cost from £15,000 to £25,000 per dress.

It's not cheap, There just the dresses alone. Then you have Hotels, Food, Cars, Flowers, Cakes, Dj's ect.....

I should know. Im a Gypsy :j

Thank you all for the kind comments also, All we want is to be treated with respect. There is good and bad in all!!

Magenta

Missed it!! So will watch it on OD.

fly_dragon_fly

i really enjoyed watching it last night opened my eye to their lives and that paddy guy was on a program with danny dyer a few months ago really intresting to watch.

i think you really should live with someone before you get married though because a person can be totally different when you live together than when you are just dating.

beks

R2K wrote: »

The brides dress can cost up to anything from £20,000 to maybe £40,000.

Then the brides maid's dresses can cost from £15,000 to £25,000 per dress.

It's not cheap, There just the dresses alone. Then you have Hotels, Food, Cars, Flowers, Cakes, Dj's ect.....

I should know. Im a Gypsy :j

Thank you all for the kind comments also, All we want is to be treated with respect. There is good and bad in all!!

:eek:!! Wow! That is a lot of money!!

I did feel very sorry for Joan, it seemed like she was being pressurised into the whole thing. Her statement at the end saying that it was a fairytale day but up to then things had not been a fairytale as they had been argueing (they had only been together 6m hadn't they and met twice??). I found that very sad, that at 22 you are too old to get married.
I do think some of the traditions of the travelling community are something we could all learn from but also a lot I disagree with. Surely interbreeding is going to have bad consequences in the end.
The program really opened my eyes though and was great to watch.

MrsE_2

R2K wrote: »

The brides dress can cost up to anything from £20,000 to maybe £40,000.

Then the brides maid's dresses can cost from £15,000 to £25,000 per dress.

It's not cheap, There just the dresses alone. Then you have Hotels, Food, Cars, Flowers, Cakes, Dj's ect.....

I should know. Im a Gypsy :j

Thank you all for the kind comments also, All we want is to be treated with respect. There is good and bad in all!!

I was in a pub in the west of Ireland in Dec 99 having a carvery lunch.

You probably know its not the norm to serve travellers, but they got served for their carvery lunch & milk by the girl working on the carvery who wouldn't be as clued up about spotting travellers as a barman.

Anyway after eating they went to the bar for a drink & were refused service, they had been sitting next to us but this is when I noticed them.

After the usual carry on about not being served, the traveller said to the owner (who had been called by this time), its 1999 nearly the year millennium year 2000, I'm an Irish man in my own country, I've done nothing wrong in here, but I'm not allowed to get a drink in a pub like anyone else.

I didn't say a word - because I knew the pub owner & I knew his brother who owned half the town very well, but it is still my deep shame that I sat & ignored what was blatant discrimination, I can still hear the words that man said:(

Herbiecat

I really enjoyed the program but like some of the other comments, I didn't like the way the girls were dressing, its was like a cattle market.

Also felt very sorry for Joan, I really hope she has a happy life wherever she ends up living.

And those dresses....OMG, why would you but what ever floats your boat lol xxxx

lindaatno9

It was really interesting to see how everyone's ideas come together. It reminded me a bit of Katie Prices wedding with the pink! I know this was always her dream but when she renewed the vows I think she realized she'd gone a bit over board first time.

Nothing as wierd as folk but then variety is the spice of life. She looked very uncomfortable and I do hope she is very happy.

snapping_crocodile

R2K wrote: »

The brides dress can cost up to anything from £20,000 to maybe £40,000.

Then the brides maid's dresses can cost from £15,000 to £25,000 per dress.

It's not cheap, There just the dresses alone. Then you have Hotels, Food, Cars, Flowers, Cakes, Dj's ect.....

I should know. Im a Gypsy :j

Thank you all for the kind comments also, All we want is to be treated with respect. There is good and bad in all!!

But I thought they said you will never find a traveller who talks about money :rotfl:

joolesw1972

I found it really interesting, I didn't see much difference in the way the girls dressed for their events and the way girls dress going in to town on a Saturday night! At least they don't take some bloke home and regret it in the morning!
I thought that the sense of community was lovely.
Not my taste in dresses, but if that's the dream in your head and you can do it, great.