Please advise - it's all gone SO wrong

miggy

lisawaters wrote: »

I prefer to be the one offering the help because I know I won't feel 'indebted' afterwards..

I so know where you're coming from! I always refused help because I didn't want to be burden to anyone, thought I ought to be able to do things myself, etc.

I've come to realise that some people love to help, love doing tasks I struggle with, enjoy the social side of meeting and getting to know people which they do while helping, and maybe for some people it boosts their confidence. I don't know the people on this list so I can't say where each is coming from, you'd have to judge that for yourself (no offence anyone!)

Anyway what I mean to say is, sometimes accepting help is actually doing a favour to the other person. (I love to be asked for advice, LOL). (But only if it's something I feel I'm knowledgeable about ).

House pics would be great, if you're happy to post them.

BILLIE

Hi Mike - I like Miggy's idea can we see the house pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeee!! No conrete advice today (another pun not intended) but hope morale is good today. Thinking of you. Billie xx

lisawaters

Willow_K wrote: »

Hi mike

I've been following your thread and really hope things get better for you.

I have noticed a few times how you refer to yourself has being unlucky or how you seem to attract the bad stuff - I know your depression probably exacerbates those feelings, but even so, I thought you might find this interesting:



The key point here is the ability to recognize opportunity. I would like to echo Happytogetdebtfree and encourage you to take up the offers of help provided here - there is no point remaining as you are and saying that the universe is trying to teach you a lesson when you have been given a unique opportunity to improve things for yourself.

Not having a go - just hoping to help you see things from another perspective.

Hope things get sorted for you - sending you an encouraging, be positive hug.

That makes a lot of sense!

lisawaters

Happytogetdebtfree wrote: »

mike imagine it would be like good karma for people life is about people helping people... you could cook when the house is sorted people get enjoyment and good feelings helping others so let these crazy mse people in, i am not diy compatable so i couldnt offer help lol but i can clean

Nothing to clean yet but maybe you can cook...!

Thanks. I welcome all offers of help (gulp)

Mike

Happytogetdebtfree

I can't cook lol I'm rubbish leave it to the hubby I'm off to bed on nights eugh x good luck with help I can't remember who offered now a few pages back who have tools and left overs :-)

BILLIE

WELL DONE MIKE FOR ACCEPTING OFFERS OF HELP - COME ON THOSE THAT CAN GIVE THE PRACTICAL HELP HE'S AGREED HE WILL LET YOU HELP. I AM TOO FAR AWAY BUT WILL SUPPORT YOU ALL Billie xx

lisawaters

OK for those who asked... some pix of the house as it was when I got the keys, the work the builder did, how he left it, how I'm living in it now and a couple of pix of the outside.

http://picasaweb.google.com/purdiecomms/BeforeDuringAndNow?feat=directlink

WASHER

Mike, I can't get the links to work, its jumbled up - a bit like my brain tonight, it must be the wine!

lisawaters

WASHER wrote: »

Mike, I can't get the links to work, its jumbled up - a bit like my brain tonight, it must be the wine!

Can't be the wine, I've had lots too. Trying again with the right link this time

WASHER

The frontage is lovely.

Do you still have the hole in the roof?

Was the house meant to be completely finished by the builder i.e. bathrooms/kitchen fitted etc.